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It would make most any Christian go off on someone accusing them they are preaching AGAINST the Word. Your arrogance in claiming to have this argument sewed up is what is so offensive. I reviewed your comments and they are weak or can be rebutted easily.

Look,if you feel guilty about mb then don't do it. But don't presume you are the last word because with humility it is debatable. We can list all day where other esteemed Christian leaders stand and the ARE on both sides. James Dobson is very respected yet took a stand that it was not a sin,he saw the demoralizing effect it had on adolescent males and thought it through. So there is no DONE DEAL here,despite what you think.

And to call out a brother teaching against the Bible?! Over the top.


I said the bible said make not provision for the flesh you said well i should not eat then because it is the provision which, shows you don't understand it. Yet you said you are not arguing against the word you call sin not a sin and say hey i am with the Bible, Ok buddy sure you are.

What i do or do not do i am not going to discuss with you. What i consider the final authority is God. You assume you are the final word.

Don't get [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]ed at me because you can't admit you sin.

over the top well don't preach against the word of God. You actually tried to argue the provision for the flesh. That is a direct quote from the Bible, yet you claim you don't argue the word of God.

I got no time for liars and false teachers preach what you want my post was directed to the OP. So have a nice day. BTW I thought this was the baptist section? maybe i was wrong. I guess people tend to get mad when you call them on their bull, and i don't need to hear any more of yours. funny you think my arguments were rebutted by you simply saying they could be easily, yet you could not do it, And you call me arrogant, stop projection yourself on to me.

Lets recap its arrogant to assume an argument from the Bible is rebutted simple because you say it can be, it is also self righteous. Grow up and read the bible and stop preaching junk.

and if you had not been preaching against the word of God you would not have gotten so offended when i said you were. Little psychology for you. But you got mad because you were and were called out. People can say i say i preach against the word I say prove it. I have already pointed out where you did, but you go on being offended thinking that covers it up.
 
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settle guys .. you presently disagree .but we do well to do so while maintaining unity .
i make my stance clear and say why i adhere to that stance ..but that does not give me the right to make accusation .

we do not all arrive at the same stance at the same time so if each of us truly believes that our present stance is correct , then , in humility, let us all surrender our stance to the Holy Spirit and let HIM be the master of the truth which he is .

i do not agree with agreeing to disagree , but i do believe in placing our unity in the lord as more important then arguing our own stance :)

God Bless you all
 
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I agree i have that same feeling, but i've been trying my best to restrain for some weeks now, because i am a teenager.

But i just keep seeing attractive women and i've been used to it and i'm just steady trying to restrain myself from thinking of lust and doing that

turn around and focus on the lord Jesus - bow to him instead ,surrender to his mighty power at work within you .. admit your sin receive his forgiveness ,for he loves you and trust him to do what you cannot do of your self - put your faith in him . and you will please him greatly :):)
 
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Athlete,I hear you. If anyone takes the hit over the mb controversy it's the young ,hormonal,Christian adolescent who tries not to touch. I remember those days along with the confessed struggles of my other three brothers...who were athletes too!

I've been on CF for many years and have heard all the arguments against mb ad nauseum. I'm not convinced at all but acknowledge the split in opinion over the topic. Sometimes I just jump on a thread occasionally for the fun of it;some of the theology is atrocious.

Masturbation ,as I see it,can be your friend in life. It relieves the tension in the teens,can be enjoyed together with a spouse,can relieve tension when on-the-road away from spouse, can help with the congestion of chronic prostatitis when you are older,and overall it's a personal self comfort. Hard for me to call all that a sin.
 
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When I was a teenager, I struggled with guilt over masturbation as well. I found a Christian book in the library that addressed the issue and it said, "Masturbation is not as bad as many people make it, but it is also not as good as many people make it." Take from that what you want, but it helped me.

My personal opinion is that it is a biological need like going to bathroom. It would be silly to try not to urinate or deficate because someone said it was a sin.

Just do what you need to do and don't feel guilty over it. I spent many years in guilt over it but eventually I realized it was silly and I should not make myself feel bad for it.

I do advise you to avoid porn though and keep it a private thing.
 
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Thankfully it really doesn't matter what you call a sin your not God, it only matters what God says is a sin.:thumbsup:

You may not like hearing this, but it is not a proven fact that God called it a sin. You can either choose to believe or not believe that.
 
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There is a way you can learn about God called Natural/General revelation where you can look around and see the beauty of how God has put things together. It's often used as a witnessing tool.

You probably haven't heard of it.

Oh is there where you take your own knowledge and use it to define God?:thumbsup:

I'll take The Holy Spirit over your natural any day thanks.:clap:
 
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You may not like hearing this, but it is not a proven fact that God called it a sin. You can either choose to believe or not believe that.

Who said it not proven? maybe to you.

there is this Rom 13
11 This is all the more urgent, for you know how late it is; time is running out. Wake up, for our salvation is nearer now than when we first believed. 12 The night is almost gone; the day of salvation will soon be here. So remove your dark deeds like dirty clothes, and put on the shining armor of right living. 13 Because we belong to the day, we must live decent lives for all to see. Don’t participate in the darkness of wild parties and drunkenness, or in sexual promiscuity and immoral living, or in quarreling and jealousy. 14 Instead, clothe yourself with the presence of the Lord Jesus Christ. And don’t let yourself think about ways to indulge your evil desires.

so you would have to say masturbation is a moral act.
There is 1john 2:15

15 Do not love this world nor the things it offers you, for when you love the world, you do not have the love of the Father in you. 16 For the world offers only a craving for physical pleasure, a craving for everything we see, and pride in our achievements and possessions. These are not from the Father, but are from this world. 17 And this world is fading away, along with everything that people crave. But anyone who does what pleases God will live forever.

It clearly says here physical pleasure is of this world, make not pleasure, does not mean you can not enjoy your self means the world is lover of pleasure. Now who could argue against that? Ever where we are told do what feels good don't worry. This would argue against masturbation sense the act is pure pleasure.

Gal 5:19

19 When you follow the desires of your sinful nature, the results are very clear: sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasures, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hostility, quarreling, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambition, dissension, division, 21 envy, drunkenness, wild parties, and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the Kingdom of God.

Here it says desires of sinful nature are sexual immorality, impurity, lustful pleasers.

Is masturbation not a lustful pleasure? You would have to lie to say it is not. I would say it is immoral to indulge in a sexual act with your self for your own selfish reasons, at the very least it is a selfish act, self gratifying, how is that moral again?

Eph2:1

2 Once you were dead because of your disobedience and your many sins. 2 You used to live in sin, just like the rest of the world, obeying the devil—the commander of the powers in the unseen world.[a] He is the spirit at work in the hearts of those who refuse to obey God. 3 All of us used to live that way, following the passionate desires and inclinations of our sinful nature. By our very nature we were subject to God’s anger, just like everyone else.

See verse 3 passionate desires sure looks like God is talking about lust of the flesh here. Are you suggesting masturbation is not lust of the flesh?

2 peter 1:5

5 In view of all this, make every effort to respond to God’s promises. Supplement your faith with a generous provision of moral excellence, and moral excellence with knowledge, 6 and knowledge with self-control, and self-control with patient endurance, and patient endurance with godliness, 7 and godliness with brotherly affection, and brotherly affection with love for everyone.

See verse 6 Slef control masturbation is not self control but a lack of.

and i can go on and on.

Masturbation is a sexual lustful dire of the flesh, we are not to partake of the flesh, for the flesh is of this world. It comes from sinful desires.

And that is to say you touch with out even thinking of a woman or a un clean though, because the moment you do it is then adultery. I don't know one person alive that could keep an unclean thought from entering there mind about a woman while masturbating. So really what we are talking about is adultery. Kind of like saying you can drink a case of beer with out getting drunk.

So really it comes down to adultery, and it can be compared with getting drunk. Jesus never got drunk and warns against it. That is because when you get drunk you do stupid things and fall to sin. The jews believe that spirits enter the body when a person is drunk, hence you get the name spirits for Achohol. If your masturbating even if the act was not a sin your going to think of something unclean and defile your self. Am i say unclean thought defiles you, well it does, but i was referring to masturbating to it.

You don't know the how strict the law is, and that is what we are talking about. Like i said we are under grace and faith and meant to struggle with sin but we are not condemned by it if we have Jesus. But i am a little sick of people saying a sin is not a sin, and they don't need forgiveness. Gays use the same argument it is not a sin they say. So what do they do they write there own bible call it the qeen james bible and take out the part about being gay is a sin. False Teachers that have earned their place in the fire.
 
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Bluelion, I only read the first few things you quoted, and none of them actually talked about masturbation specifically. You just read into them what you wanted to. So taking pleasure in anything is a sin? I get pleasure when I relieve myself through going to the bathroom, I guess I need to stop that as well.

Also, who exactly wrote those things? Was it God or was it men that claimed they wrote it through God's inspiration and you are choosing to believe that. Proven facts are different from things that you are choosing to believe.

The bottom line is that teenagers are going to touch and having them feel guilty and ashamed is not going to make their life any better.
 
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Bluelion, I only read the first few things you quoted, and none of them actually talked about masturbation specifically. You just read into them what you wanted to. So taking pleasure in anything is a sin? I get pleasure when I relieve myself through going to the bathroom, I guess I need to stop that as well.

Also, who exactly wrote those things? Was it God or was it men that claimed they wrote it through God's inspiration and you are choosing to believe that. Proven facts are different from things that you are choosing to believe.

The bottom line is that teenagers are going to touch and having them feel guilty and ashamed is not going to make their life any better.

and implying that Jesus is not able to accomplish bringing them into absolute freedom from the bondage of the sinful flesh would make them without Hope ... a far greater danger .

Jesus did not come to make us partially free ..but mostly still slaves to the flesh and its EVIL desires . that is a stance of unbelief and a false message - it is not the Gospel of the lord Jesus .
 
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Bluelion, I only read the first few things you quoted, and none of them actually talked about masturbation specifically. You just read into them what you wanted to. So taking pleasure in anything is a sin? I get pleasure when I relieve myself through going to the bathroom, I guess I need to stop that as well.

Also, who exactly wrote those things? Was it God or was it men that claimed they wrote it through God's inspiration and you are choosing to believe that. Proven facts are different from things that you are choosing to believe.

The bottom line is that teenagers are going to touch and having them feel guilty and ashamed is not going to make their life any better.

First off you should not comment on what i said if you did not even take the time to read it.

Are you suggesting the Bible was not written by God, but men? @ Pteter says the bible was written by God through men. So if you disagree with peter and the bible you are not a Christian.

I don't think you know enough about the Bible to argue it.

They feel guilty well it is a sin, hey gays feel guilty to some say it is now not a sin so we don't hurt their feelings. Tell me which is better tell the truth or lie and lead the person to hell.

The bible doesn't say it no masturbation it does deal with under sins of the flesh. Doesn't say we don't have wings either put i am pretty sure we don't, and if I read the story of creation of man i would see hey they were not there, but you would argue they could be.

I am just sick of all the bull, people claim to be Christians and denies the Bible. Blind leading the blind.
 
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and implying that Jesus is not able to accomplish bringing them into absolute freedom from the bondage of the sinful flesh would make them without Hope ... a far greater danger .

Jesus did not come to make us partially free ..but mostly still slaves to the flesh and its EVIL desires . that is a stance of unbelief and a false message - it is not the Gospel of the lord Jesus .

I agree with you.

Let me ask, if a person won't admit sin how can he be forgiven?

Another point Paul struggled with sin we are free from the punishment from judgement, if there is not punishment no judgement but forgiveness. The where is the sting? If you say you don't sin it is a lie, everyone sins even when they are saved. The freedom is from judgement, and a new nature that struggles with the old to become like Jesus, prefect. Jesus said, and if the Lord sets you free you will be free indeed. You don't get any more free. Jesus works in us to make us New and prefect, and when we fail he gives us a hand back up.

so if that comment was to me i think you misunderstood me.
 
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Bluelion, I only read the first few things you quoted, and none of them actually talked about masturbation specifically. You just read into them what you wanted to. So taking pleasure in anything is a sin? I get pleasure when I relieve myself through going to the bathroom, I guess I need to stop that as well.

Also, who exactly wrote those things? Was it God or was it men that claimed they wrote it through God's inspiration and you are choosing to believe that. Proven facts are different from things that you are choosing to believe.

The bottom line is that teenagers are going to touch and having them feel guilty and ashamed is not going to make their life any better.

Originally Posted by michaelmynameIs
and implying that Jesus is not able to accomplish bringing them into absolute freedom from the bondage of the sinful flesh would make them without Hope ... a far greater danger .

Jesus did not come to make us partially free ..but mostly still slaves to the flesh and its EVIL desires . that is a stance of unbelief and a false message - it is not the Gospel of the lord Jesus .


I agree with you.



Let me ask, if a person won't admit sin how can he be forgiven?

Another point Paul struggled with sin we are free from the punishment from judgement, if there is not punishment no judgement but forgiveness. The where is the sting? If you say you don't sin it is a lie, everyone sins even when they are saved. The freedom is from judgement, and a new nature that struggles with the old to become like Jesus, prefect. Jesus said, and if the Lord sets you free you will be free indeed. You don't get any more free. Jesus works in us to make us New and prefect, and when we fail he gives us a hand back up.

so if that comment was to me i think you misunderstood me.

oops SORRY my mistake .. it was meant to be under the quote from TravisK- as now above :)
 
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