And yet, she still gave
ALL she had, giving out of her poverty, and Jesus commended her for it. Why?
Do you believe in supernatural provision? I do. There have been plenty of times in my life where I felt God tell me to
give something, even though I had obligations to my family. You see, I have a wife and 2 kids, and I am the sole income for our family. Yet God has asked me time and again to
give, even when it looked like I couldn't afford to. There have even been times when God asked me to
give money that I had earmarked for our
needs. I must confess that I've not always obeyed. Like you suggest, I feel this need to provide for my family as the head of the house. But the times that I have obeyed and given as God directs, even when I couldn't afford it, God has shown me that HE is our provider. Sure, He uses me and my paycheck as a source, but I've learned that HE is our Source.
Without fail, every time God has asked me to give in a sacrificial manner, He has proven that He is our Jehovah Jireh.
I've learned that the best way I can provide for my family is to
listen to THE Provider, Who doesn't always do things like I would.
You tell me;
Mark 14:3-5 (NIV)
While he [Jesus] was in Bethany, reclining at the table in the home of Simon the Leper, a woman came with an alabaster jar of very expensive perfume, made of pure nard. She broke the jar and poured the perfume on his head. Some of those present were saying indignantly to one another, Why this waste of perfume? It could have been sold for more than a years wages and the money given to the poor. And they rebuked her harshly.
Sounds logical, doesn't it? I mean, this jar of perfume was worth more than an ENTIRE YEAR'S WAGES! Won't someone please think of all the poor people that could have been helped?!
But Jesus saw it differently;
Mark 14:6-9 (NIV)
Leave her alone, said Jesus. Why are you bothering her? She has done a beautiful thing to me. The poor you will always have with you, and you can help them any time you want. But you will not always have me. She did what she could. She poured perfume on my body beforehand to prepare for my burial. Truly I tell you, wherever the gospel is preached throughout the world, what she has done will also be told, in memory of her.
We could guess how many poor people could be helped by something that cost MORE THAN A YEAR'S WAGES, but suffice to say, an awful lot of poor people could have had their needs met by selling that perfume. Yet Jesus didn't call her an infidel, nor did He become indignant about the "waste" of the perfume. No, He COMMENDED her for the "beautiful thing" she did.
By any logical measure to us, what this woman did was reckless, irresponsible and wasteful. Our human minds naturally want to side with those who said, "Think of the poor!" But Jesus did not see it that way. There was no "need" for the perfume to be poured on Jesus, but that is where the woman saw fit to use it for Jesus rather than to give it where there was a legitimate need.
So to answer your question, should we give where there is not a need? The answer is, "it depends", and this is why I am an advocate of giving when and where the Spirit leads us, and not based off of any preconceived ideas that we may have. Scripture shows time and again that what we think isn't always what God thinks. So we should follow His lead and obey whatever it is He tells us to do.