Warning may be a bit graphic to some. As you may know, if you don't [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse], and as sperm builds up (it's been over a month now). I'm finding the urge for sex, will likewise increasingly intensify. Along side this, lustful thoughts will also intensify and bombard the mind (even if you're completely avoiding all an any type of inappropriate content). I now have highly and intensely lustful thoughts for many more females. So it's a double-edge sword. If you [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse], this greatly reduces the lustful thoughts, but if you don't and sperm builds up, the lustful thoughts will actually become much more intense and frequent. Any advice?
I admire your honesty here.
For the Christian Single male, this is got to be THE biggest struggle. Im single and love the Lord, so heres my advice which helps me :
1. Stay clear away from graphic sexual pictures whether on TV, movies, DVD's, Billboards, etc...as much as you are able to.
2. When you see a female in public that perks your testosterone, immediately pray for her and ask God to become very real in her life , ask God to bless her day, and ask God to protect her . I find this difuses the lure of going deeper into lust with a woman you find real appealing.
3. When you see a female from a distance coming your way and you feel yourself getting 'worked up' ... turn your head from her and concentrate on something else. If you have to look in her general direction, then work at not going below the neck . It takes practice but its doable.
4. Make sure you get plenty of physical excersise because it really reduces the stress and sexual tension alot.
5. If you truly feel you are intended to be married but havent found the right one yet, ask God continually for him to make this happen . If you feel you are being called to Singleness, then ask God to diminish your sex drive . He has with me and im called to Christian Singleness.
6. It gets easier with time . Keep that in mind, that, your sexual urges will become easier to cope with.
7. As for masturbation, ive read alot on this and ive attended sermons which are pro and con on this issue. Scripture is silent on this, but, scripture can and does give some guidelines in a very general sense when it comes to our sexuality . Pray about it and see how the Lord directs you in conjuction with reading everything about sex in the Bible. Talk it over with your Pastor in private .
8. Remember, you are NOT alone in this struggle my Brother.