Is a marriage without adultery in your heart possible?
I have been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend for 2 years. He is a Christian and a wonderful man. We have planned on marriage in the near future. A problem we have is his wandering eye. He doesnt just look at women, but he gets theses obsessions. Theres always one woman who he becomes obsessed with for a period of time, this time shes a stranger who he sees in his class (were both college students). Hes never spoken to her or had any contact with her but he stares at her whenever shes around and thinks about having sex with her. This has happened with other women before.
This situation became unbearable for me, I felt constantly paranoid and devastated. He has said he is doing his best to fix this by getting closer to God and reading the Bible and seeking counsel with other Christians.
I have been looking to God for a way to live with this problem. I realized that what caused me so much pain was the thought that this would never stop and that would be a part of our marriage in the future. I would rather be single than have that life. We are both virgins and have waited for marriage but I cant imagine marrying him and having sex with him knowing he is obsessing about other people, it would crush me. I dont expect him to be perfect and never feel lust for someone, but the situation now is too extreme for me.
Am I wrong for not wanting to enter marriage knowing that he will be committing adultery in his heart, a lot? Or is this inevitable in a marriage?
I will deeply appreciate any input.
I have been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend for 2 years. He is a Christian and a wonderful man. We have planned on marriage in the near future. A problem we have is his wandering eye. He doesnt just look at women, but he gets theses obsessions. Theres always one woman who he becomes obsessed with for a period of time, this time shes a stranger who he sees in his class (were both college students). Hes never spoken to her or had any contact with her but he stares at her whenever shes around and thinks about having sex with her. This has happened with other women before.
This situation became unbearable for me, I felt constantly paranoid and devastated. He has said he is doing his best to fix this by getting closer to God and reading the Bible and seeking counsel with other Christians.
I have been looking to God for a way to live with this problem. I realized that what caused me so much pain was the thought that this would never stop and that would be a part of our marriage in the future. I would rather be single than have that life. We are both virgins and have waited for marriage but I cant imagine marrying him and having sex with him knowing he is obsessing about other people, it would crush me. I dont expect him to be perfect and never feel lust for someone, but the situation now is too extreme for me.
Am I wrong for not wanting to enter marriage knowing that he will be committing adultery in his heart, a lot? Or is this inevitable in a marriage?
I will deeply appreciate any input.