DZoolander
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Hold on a sec...
There have been a couple of things in this whole discussion that have kinda creeped me out. Mostly until now - it's the freedom with which he shares this information with you. Using myself as an example - I didn't feel comfortable discussing (to a limited degree for illustrative points only) my flights of fancy when I was a teenager until well after the fact. I think I was probably in my late 20's - and just discussing "what it was like growing up" with friends of mine - and seeing if there was a common theme.
There's *no* way I would've discussed that stuff with any girl I was ever dating while it was going on.
But...in your last post...here's the part that caught my eye.
That kinda weirds me out. Like - when I was going through my own adolescent phase - girls/women were simply vessels...lol I know that sounds bad - but it's the best way for me to characterize it. In a way - I don't think I ever fantasized about anyone I ever knew. That would have felt like crossing a line. I think in a sense, I sort of took comfort in the anonymity of my fantasies. I certainly didn't go so far as to imagine precursor dialog, what they were like, what kind of movies they preferred, how well they did in class, whether I could discuss philosophy with them, etc.
There have been a couple of things in this whole discussion that have kinda creeped me out. Mostly until now - it's the freedom with which he shares this information with you. Using myself as an example - I didn't feel comfortable discussing (to a limited degree for illustrative points only) my flights of fancy when I was a teenager until well after the fact. I think I was probably in my late 20's - and just discussing "what it was like growing up" with friends of mine - and seeing if there was a common theme.
There's *no* way I would've discussed that stuff with any girl I was ever dating while it was going on.
But...in your last post...here's the part that caught my eye.
You mean - he has concocted ideas and fantasies about what the women are actually *like*, personality wise?I think that he formulates ideas of how these women are in his mind even though he doesnt know them to fit in with an idea of them being very promiscuous and not very intelligent ( thats what Ive understood from what hes told me).
He told me a few days ago that the idea that its okay and completely acceptable to ogle women is something that was always reinforced by his parents, friends, and society in general so he never questioned it.
That kinda weirds me out. Like - when I was going through my own adolescent phase - girls/women were simply vessels...lol I know that sounds bad - but it's the best way for me to characterize it. In a way - I don't think I ever fantasized about anyone I ever knew. That would have felt like crossing a line. I think in a sense, I sort of took comfort in the anonymity of my fantasies. I certainly didn't go so far as to imagine precursor dialog, what they were like, what kind of movies they preferred, how well they did in class, whether I could discuss philosophy with them, etc.
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