My wife says she hates me.
She says she wants me to move out.
She yells at me for almost everything I do, but claims she is not yelling.
She is just "speaking with emotion." It is probably a combination of yelling, crying, and blaming.
I do not compliment her often enough, but when I do, she dismisses them. I wasn't sincere enough, or I was just trying to make up for a fight, or it doesn't make up for all the times I didn't compliment her.
I am not overly helpful around the house, but I do have a good income, and do what I can when I am home. (Put the kids to bed 3-4 times/wk; clean the dishes daily, but not every meal; Shovel snow; take out trash; mow the lawn; help with dinner 1-2 times/wk; bring kids to sporting events or other events 30-40% of the time.) But, it is seldom recognized. I am just doing my responsibility.
When I ask her questions about what we shoud do about something, she gets angry because I am putting it all on her. When I don't ask questions, I am accused of not including her.
I don't want to move out because I don't believe there has been any infidelity, either emotional or physical. I also don't want to move out for the sake of our children. But we have had 2 marriage counselors suggest that we should separate.
I have tried and tried to do what she asks, but I always fail, or what she expects changes. It is probably a combination of me not being able to give her what she wants, and her not being able to accept what I do give. Either way, I do not think I can meet her expecations.
But what is more loving, to separate/divorce because she is asking me to, even though God hates divorce ? or to refuse to separate/divorce, even though she seems to be having deteriorating mental and emotional health?
She says she wants me to move out.
She yells at me for almost everything I do, but claims she is not yelling.
She is just "speaking with emotion." It is probably a combination of yelling, crying, and blaming.
I do not compliment her often enough, but when I do, she dismisses them. I wasn't sincere enough, or I was just trying to make up for a fight, or it doesn't make up for all the times I didn't compliment her.
I am not overly helpful around the house, but I do have a good income, and do what I can when I am home. (Put the kids to bed 3-4 times/wk; clean the dishes daily, but not every meal; Shovel snow; take out trash; mow the lawn; help with dinner 1-2 times/wk; bring kids to sporting events or other events 30-40% of the time.) But, it is seldom recognized. I am just doing my responsibility.
When I ask her questions about what we shoud do about something, she gets angry because I am putting it all on her. When I don't ask questions, I am accused of not including her.
I don't want to move out because I don't believe there has been any infidelity, either emotional or physical. I also don't want to move out for the sake of our children. But we have had 2 marriage counselors suggest that we should separate.
I have tried and tried to do what she asks, but I always fail, or what she expects changes. It is probably a combination of me not being able to give her what she wants, and her not being able to accept what I do give. Either way, I do not think I can meet her expecations.
But what is more loving, to separate/divorce because she is asking me to, even though God hates divorce ? or to refuse to separate/divorce, even though she seems to be having deteriorating mental and emotional health?