Do you ever

[jessesgirl]

Just want to run away? I don't mean joking around and going oooh, I wanna run away and never come back type stuff...I mean do you ever just want to place your little one safely in his crib and walk out the door and never look back?

I'm there now and it is eating me up.

 

[appleofhiseye]

I have had fantasies, but I would never carry them out. I'm too chicken

Sometimes I feel so used up and frustrated, I just want to leave, but I won't.

 

[AnyaMa]

Everyone has those moments now and again... I havent had anyhting as challenging as being a full time parent before in my life. How often do you feel that way though? If you are constantly frustrated and feeling this way, you might need some help! Does your hubby know how you feel? Is he chipping in?

 

[Neenie1]

When's baby's next nap?

If it's soon just wait it out until then, then sit down with a good book, or movie or whatever it is that would help, and don't worry about the housework etc.

That's what I try to do on days I feel like that.

I have days like that too. Thankfully my youngest still takes a nap. I don't often feel this way so much about my eldest (who is 6) but my 2 year old really gets to me sometimes.

 

[Birbitt]

I used to feel that way sometimes, I would feel like I just couldn't take it anymore. I would put my son in his crib for his nap wait till he was asleep and then I would go outside and relax under a tree and read a book or something. I would take the baby monitor outside with me so that if the baby needed me I was there, or sometimes I would go next door and talk to the neighbor for a few minutes or something but always with the baby monitor...

 

[3girls2dogs]

awww sweetie I'm so sorry you are having such a tough time. I have felt that way, I think if we are all honest with ourselves we have all been there at one point.

 

[Manna]

Absolutely.

 

[angelsgirl]

Oh... I am sorry you are feeling this way!!!

Have some hugs...

I hope things get better for you soon!

 

[sparassidae]

Yeah for sure, it doesn't make you a bad mum

For me it is a cumulative thing- everything in life just builds up until I can't take it anymore. I'm always very quick to tell DH when I get to that point, and he is verrrry good at taking over for a while.

 

[Surrender2Win]

Everyone has those moments now and again... I havent had anyhting as challenging as being a full time parent before in my life. How often do you feel that way though? If you are constantly frustrated and feeling this way, you might need some help! Does your hubby know how you feel? Is he chipping in?

 

[jessesgirl]

I don't feel that way often at all. I've felt that way quite a bit over the last 2 or 3 weeks, but Jesse and I have been having problems and I miss my parents, I don't have anyone to talk to or communicate with IRL, I don't have my car anymroe so Justin and I are stuck in this little bitty apartment all day, every day by ourselves....and I'm just frustrated, fed up beyond anything I've ever felt before. Ihave joked and said I'm going to run away and never come back...but I never meant it.

Justin is going through a stage where if I say no, he thinks that means he should do it, and vice versa. He doesn't use ANY words, just points and grunts. When he gts raedy to eat, he screams and yells and throws fits, throwing himself into the oven (yes, really) and all other types of theatrics. Then when i get him his food, he dumps it off the plate and plays with it and hardly, if even ever, takes a bite.

Jesse can't help out very much right now because he is in the week before finals. His finals are next Tuesday so after that he will be around full time again. It has been hard because I'm used to 20+ people in a 10 mile radius that are chomping at the bits to take Justin or to help out if I need them...and I have no one.

Jess did take him last night while I went to the gym and worked out. That helped a little bit. I fel like i can at least get through today.

 

[jessesgirl]

Justin is *finally* down for a nap..it was such a long time coming today. Going to take a shower!

 

[3girls2dogs]

I wish I were out there already so I could come take you to lunch.

 

[jessesgirl]

me too! I need adult interaction SO badly!

 

[TexasSky]

I started a new thread not to hijack this one, becuase I'm curious to see who many of you actually ever really take time off for yourselves? It is about vacation vs time off and its in the main women's discussion board.

I really am curiuos to see if you ladies are taking care of yourselves or not. I suspect not.

 

[heart of peace]

jessesgirl, I am totally open to chatting over the phone if you ever need to at least hear a human voice! I have mentioned this to you in the past and the offer still stands

 

[RedTulipMom]

Yes, i have felt like this before. When i get to this point i tell my hubby i need a break and leave him with the kids a couple hours and take some time to refresh myself..that seems to work.

 

[JulySheMustFly]

I understand. I was there quite frequently a few years ago when we first moved to our house. I was without a car an hour from all my friends and support with an infant who had the most fierce personality I'd ever had to deal with.

Now it only seems to come once a month when my husband works on Sundays for 12 hours. It is those days that I usually sit in the front garden with a cup of tea waiting for Bart to come home.

 

[Singin4Him]

I can't say that I know how you feel because I don't but I've certainly had moments where I needed a little rejuvination so I had someone watch my DS while I got out, took a nap, had some tea, took a bath...or whatever I wanted to do with my "me time". I think it's SO VITAL for a SAHM to have that at least a few times a week, even if it's for 20-30 minutes. Since it's just you and Jesse, you should work something out with him where this is possible and where it works best for both of you. You really need to express to him just how important it is for you to have a break from time to time. I also would suggest seeing a couselor about this, it might be good to talk to a professional about this who knows how to give you the best advice and direction you need.

Also the way you describe Justin does concern me as well. Have you seen anyone about this behaviol and speech issues? It might be worth it to take him just to make sure everything is alright there.

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this, I will say a prayer for you!

 

[ShannonMcCatholic]

Yup.