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[ShannonMcCatholic]

Can you just get out and stroll every day? I know from experience that sometimes what will be most helpful, also seems like so much work..

Are there any mom's groups of any kind around you? Perhaps someone would be willing to give you a ride? I think all mom's can relate to the need for adult interaction and would likely be willing to help you out. Is there a bus system where you are? Are there story times at the library or book store??

I dunno- My kiddos don't talk until age two, and go through stage of eating and not eating--of feeding themselves and needing to be fed, of eating off a plate and throwing the plate...so all of what you're describing seems within the realm of "normal" to me---not meaning to diminish how, how very hard it is, but rather to not worry you overly.

Remember that the feeling of wanting to run away is a serious signal to ask for and make sure you get your needs met.

 

[CrystalBrooke]

I only have Emily for 2 days at a time and I still feel this way sometimes..I think it's her age tho..sometimes she's just horrible.

About Justin not talking...do you respond to his sceams and grunts? If you do..then stop. If you're getting him what he wants without him asking for it then he's not going to start talking until you make him. Emily tried that when she was younger and eventho I knew what she wanted, I would make her at least try to say it before I would get it for her.

 

[Laurie919]

I have wanted to leave our life here and start over. I just want to bring Taylor with me.

That is one of the good things about working, you aren't with them all of the time. That would really be hard. I can't even imagine it. I'm not saying that in a bad way so please don't take it that way.

No one needs to be together all the time. You look forward to your time together when you aren't together all the time.

Is there a parents day out program in your area where you could have a day a week to yourself?

 

[3girls2dogs]

Do you still have my number? Call me. I'll be there soon, and we will do tons of stuff.

 

[Laurie919]

me too! I need adult interaction SO badly!

Is there a church close? Where are you?

 

[ShannonMcCatholic]

Is there a parents day out program in your area where you could have a day a week to yourself?

That sounds like it might be a great idea! Even if it's just a morning or something--just that little bit of time to not be on high need patrol.

LOL! You know what one of my biggest fantasies is--to just spend 8 hours some time in my home without any kids around. The diligence of always listening and being aware of struggle or conflict or even just needs for attention is very exhausting. I'd probably end up bored off my tookus--but just that sense of not being immediately needed would be awesome for a little while!

 

[jessesgirl]

I can't say that I know how you feel because I don't but I've certainly had moments where I needed a little rejuvination so I had someone watch my DS while I got out, took a nap, had some tea, took a bath...or whatever I wanted to do with my "me time". I think it's SO VITAL for a SAHM to have that at least a few times a week, even if it's for 20-30 minutes. Since it's just you and Jesse, you should work something out with him where this is possible and where it works best for both of you. You really need to express to him just how important it is for you to have a break from time to time. I also would suggest seeing a couselor about this, it might be good to talk to a professional about this who knows how to give you the best advice and direction you need.

Also the way you describe Justin does concern me as well. Have you seen anyone about this behaviol and speech issues? It might be worth it to take him just to make sure everything is alright there.

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this, I will say a prayer for you!

Going to reply to these one by one. Early Intervention came out and finished their evaluations on him today. They said that he *definitely* needs their services for behavioral issues and is right on the verge of needing it for speech. His motor skills, fine motor skills, received communication skills, non verbal communication skills and cognitive skills are all that of a two year old or better. He is so smart and so advanced everywhere else. They said that he probably has the behavioral problems *because* he doesn't communicate well.

I have gone to the gym two days this week and he has stayed home with daddy. It has been nice and I'm a little more refreshed, so our last couple of days have definitely been better.

 

[jessesgirl]

Can you just get out and stroll every day? I know from experience that sometimes what will be most helpful, also seems like so much work..

Are there any mom's groups of any kind around you? Perhaps someone would be willing to give you a ride? I think all mom's can relate to the need for adult interaction and would likely be willing to help you out. Is there a bus system where you are? Are there story times at the library or book store??

I dunno- My kiddos don't talk until age two, and go through stage of eating and not eating--of feeding themselves and needing to be fed, of eating off a plate and throwing the plate...so all of what you're describing seems within the realm of "normal" to me---not meaning to diminish how, how very hard it is, but rather to not worry you overly.

Remember that the feeling of wanting to run away is a serious signal to ask for and make sure you get your needs met.

It has been really rainy and gross so even going outside has been out of the question. Unfortunately Justin doesn't do well in a stroller, he never has and I didn't force the issue whe he was smaller...he was always carried. I'm paying for it now.

We do have a mommy group and I often take a cab back and forth to the stuff. We live out of the way of most of the stuff and most of the mommies. We are on the island and all the mommies and events are on the mainland. I'm really not very familiar with it here because we haven't gotten out and explored very much.

Jesse and I looked into getting his car shipped over here so that Justin and I could have mine, especially since we're going to be here awhile. It will cost us a thousand dollars, but I think it will be worth it.

 

[jessesgirl]

I've got more to respond to but J just woke up and is crying, so I'll be back later to finish.

 

[JulySheMustFly]

That's good that you've been able to have some time away and that early intervention gave you an idea of where your little guy is.

 

[marezee]

Going to reply to these one by one. Early Intervention came out and finished their evaluations on him today. They said that he *definitely* needs their services for behavioral issues and is right on the verge of needing it for speech. His motor skills, fine motor skills, received communication skills, non verbal communication skills and cognitive skills are all that of a two year old or better. He is so smart and so advanced everywhere else. They said that he probably has the behavioral problems *because* he doesn't communicate well.

I have gone to the gym two days this week and he has stayed home with daddy. It has been nice and I'm a little more refreshed, so our last couple of days have definitely been better.

This was my first born to a tee.
Everyone thought he was autistic or had PPD, but he was just a late talker.
We did get him speech therapy, and they taught him some sign language at first, so he could communicate with us while he was getting up his gumption to speak.
that helped!
My DH and I also took a course called "It Takes Two To Talk." The Hanen Program. It really opened our eyes to communicating with a two year old.
And, Nick was talking within 3 months, and reading soon after!
Hugs to you!

 

[heart of peace]

Going to reply to these one by one. Early Intervention came out and finished their evaluations on him today. They said that he *definitely* needs their services for behavioral issues and is right on the verge of needing it for speech. His motor skills, fine motor skills, received communication skills, non verbal communication skills and cognitive skills are all that of a two year old or better. He is so smart and so advanced everywhere else. They said that he probably has the behavioral problems *because* he doesn't communicate well.

I have gone to the gym two days this week and he has stayed home with daddy. It has been nice and I'm a little more refreshed, so our last couple of days have definitely been better.

This was the same thing I was facing one year ago myself. It was this time last year that EI finished his evaluation and basically gave me the same report. His behavior issues were mainly due to his frustration of his inability to communicate his needs/thoughts. He was speech delayed and only required 6 months of ST!!! Today people remark at how well he speaks and how MUCH he says! Our relationship is a million times better now and he has grown in so many ways because of EI. I love his ST and we still have a friendship after it all. She even came to me for prayer for her own personal things and she said to me that she felt as if God Himself placed her in my home. Of course, I knew that already the moment she walked in my home.

I am so so happy for you! This is such a good thing and it is so great to help him early on with any delays in development. There is a brighter future ahead.

I really can't say enough good things about EI.