Do YOU have a crush on anyone?

[GQ Chris]

Jessica Alba is a perpetual crush of mine... and even when she turns 60 years old I would still be in love with her.

 

[Luther073082]

I had a crush months ago but that's over now. He's getting married.

Currently no crushes for me. Praise Jesus!

You know you want me baby.

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

You know you want me baby.

lol!

 

[sampa]

yes, most definitely. Known for 13 years, liked for over 10...
recently he changed his mind about being settled at 40years old, we had a talk/ disagreement about it once, and funny thing is he's not with a girl????? He's pretty much always been. Problem is he's always traveling -work (so was I) and his hometown is 5 states north east of me.

 

[KomissarSteve]

My dad just had a friend from med school come to visit from New Hampshire or one of those completely irrelevent states out there. (j/k, j/k!) He brought his wife, son, and daughter. His daughter, who's 19 or 20, is very cute. Seemed shy and uninterested, but then I struck up a convo with her and made a lot of dumb jokes and quips, and she laughed pretty genuinely at all of them. We exchanged numbers and e-mail addresses before they left, and she's gonna be in east Pennsylvania while I'm interning in DC, so we might at least meet up to hang once or twice this summer.

 

[Manda_24]

Yeah thats rough, one time I had a crush on this girl and she helped get me a job someplace when we where teenagers. So I go into work the first day and I'm waiting in the break room for the time when I can punch in. She's comming in at the same time, so we are talking and this other guy that I don't even know comes in and starts making out with her.

uggg shove a spear through me next time.

Yep, I pretty much felt the same way. Talking on the phone for three hours and IMing all the time and never mention that you are dating someone was sure nice of him and quite a surprise for me. Here I thought we had a great thing going but boy was I wrong.

Right now I just want to get to know the guys at the church, if something more than a friendship develops that's great but I'm not really looking for it right now.

 

[sampa]

My dad just had a friend from med school come to visit from New Hampshire or one of those completely irrelevent states out there....

Interestingly, that's where this guy is from I mentioned above, I wonder if they know each other since it's such a small state. Now that would be a coincidence, wouldn't it?

 

[knownbeforetime]

I got a job at a camp this summer and I am bound and determined not to 'meet' any guys there. Nope, there are 3 places I do NOT want to find my FH and that is 1) Online 2) in a bar or 3) at this camp.

 

[joanna1]

Well I don't have a crush but I'm trying very hard to develop one for this "theoretically perfect" guy I've recently met. Does that count?

 

[Lbiagm]

i like crushes sometimes.

 

[sampa]

I got a job at a camp this summer and I am bound and determined not to 'meet' any guys there. Nope, there are 3 places I do NOT want to find my FH and that is 1) Online 2) in a bar or 3) at this camp.

I'm not sure where your camp is, but yeah I had one summer (watersports camp - not christian) where most of the counselor were from Europe. The western Europeans or cool group had the idea they were on a holiday and anything goes. It really was hard to stand ground as a Christian and do the "uncool" thing.

 

[catofhope]

I got a job at a camp this summer and I am bound and determined not to 'meet' any guys there.
Nope, there are 3 places I do NOT want to find my FH and that is 1) Online 2) in a bar or 3) at this camp.

Why not?
Think this topic needs its own thread...
Where to or not to find future spouse?

 

[sampa]

Why not?
Think this topic needs its own thread...
Where to or not to find future spouse?

oh good one, get it started. I'd especially be interested in thoughts on going to pubs/bars and if you meet a christian, then what?

 

[Luther073082]

Yep, I pretty much felt the same way. Talking on the phone for three hours and IMing all the time and never mention that you are dating someone was sure nice of him and quite a surprise for me. Here I thought we had a great thing going but boy was I wrong.

Right now I just want to get to know the guys at the church, if something more than a friendship develops that's great but I'm not really looking for it right now.

It probably just never came up and I doubt he thought you had a crush on him. I sort of got lucky with Laura mentioning she was going on a non romantic date with some guy to a wedding. Yeah I guess there is a bit of jealousy there but you know, it was far more valuable to me in the fact that it indicates that she is most likely not seeing someone right now on a romantic basis.

Meet as many good Christians as you can. Don't be afraid to ask a guy out, this is 2007. And don't make a big deal about having "never been on a date before" I know a lot of girls on here do that a bit and they think its really bad but its not a big deal at all.

Oh and btw there is a pretty good chance I'm going to be comming with my mom this fall to see Iowa beat Purdue, so just so I get this out early. . . Go hawks!

 

[Braticus]

Crush is such junior high kind of word. I prefer to think that the feelings I have now go beyond a simple crush. A crush to me is an infatuation for another person, and usually has to do with physical appearance. I prefer to think that I can see beyond that. That said, Thomas you scoundrel!

 

[Luther073082]

Crush is such junior high kind of word. I prefer to think that the feelings I have now go beyond a simple crush. A crush to me is an infatuation for another person, and usually has to do with physical appearance. I prefer to think that I can see beyond that. That said, Thomas you scoundrel!

I disagree, I think it can be both physical and personality attraction and I don't think it is a middle school term.

One could say "I have a school boy crush on Vanna White" which the school boy typically indicates immature and typically physical.

However I don't think there is a better term to describe the intial attraction to someone's personality and appearence (All good relationships have attraction to both) other then the term crush.

I mean what do you call your intial attractions?

 

[sampa]

Crush is such junior high kind of word. I prefer to think that the feelings I have now go beyond a simple crush. A crush to me is an infatuation for another person, and usually has to do with physical appearance. I prefer to think that I can see beyond that. That said, Thomas you scoundrel!

Actually I'd agree with you in a sense, but maybe it should be broken down Infatuation, mature interest (like over time) or something other??? any thoughts.

I know mine isn't a crush because he actually liked me 13 years ago, but I wasn't interested.....and 2yrs later I had thoughts of marriage and have never again about anyone else. So mature interest, but I try not to cross the line in thinking beyond a brother in Christ. Every once and a while I'm like, wow yeah that's another thing I like about him as I've gotten to know him.

 

[sampa]

I disagree, I think it can be both physical and personality attraction and I don't think it is a middle school term.

One could say "I have a school boy crush on Vanna White" which the school boy typically indicates immature and typically physical.

However I don't think there is a better term to describe the intial attraction to someone's personality and appearence (All good relationships have attraction to both) other then the term crush.

I mean what do you call your intial attractions?

what about initial spark?

 

[Luther073082]

what about initial spark?

Spark at least to me indicates that it is necessarily mutual. For me I don't know at this point if the attraction is mutual.

And I don't like "mature interest" because in the name it seems to indicate maturity and maturity is always relative. Plus honestly, its easier for me to say "I have a crush on Laura" then "I have a mature interest in Laura." It just doesn't roll off the tongue as well.

Now one could say "I'm interested in Laura" and that would be alright.

 

[sampa]

Spark at least to me indicates that it is necessarily mutual. For me I don't know at this point if the attraction is mutual.

And I don't like "mature interest" because in the name it seems to indicate maturity and maturity is always relative. Plus honestly, its easier for me to say "I have a crush on Laura" then "I have a mature interest in Laura." It just doesn't roll off the tongue as well.

Now one could say "I'm interested in Laura" and that would be alright.

yep interest works too.