For me, that's really the first thing I'm looking for, how compatible we are/will be. How is her relationship with God? Where is she in ministry, where does she feel she's going? How's her personality in comparison to mine? Not looking for a eerily creepy clone, but do we connect? Do we think on the same wave length about 'simple' things/overall interests? What are her goals in comparison to mine ministorially, family/life wise, career-wise? Basically, what's important to her, what's her goals, ambition, dreams? What is God showing me, how can I be a blessing to her? Friendship or potential relationship? Do I line up with what she's looking for? How do I feel about her, do I feel peace when I'm around her, does she? These are some of the things that are going through my mind, spirit.
Sure, looks play into it, but to a degree. I'm not only thinking about how she looks. If it's something like an overweight issue, I'm thinking "why" as opposed to just looking at her and saying, no way. Some folks have legitimate health issues, or other challenges are going on. But overall and typically, I'm looking for someone healthy, not a super stick, but someone who's healthy and taking care of themself.
I think when you sit down and get to know someone, that's when these things reveal themselves, and through prayer. Looks can only get you so far. A carton of milk can look good when you're thirsty, but what good is it if you don't look, see and smell that it's one month old? too late...gulp... But at the same time, it's a factor.
But once I get past the initial meeting of someone and spend some time with them, these are the things I'm considering, thinking about. Sometimes it works for me, and keeps me out of bad situations. Other times against me lol, since sometimes I wonder if I'm thinking too much, not acting and missing out. Sometimes, you just have to step out on faith and say, hi, how are you, would you like to get a soda?
It can get frustrating. While it's good to think all of these things out, I'm so busy thinking, I don't do enough talking
It's a balance, you've got to be careful not to rule out someone because they don't meet every single thing. That's why I pray for guidance. I don't believe in 'soul mates', but I do believe in making God-lead choices. There's been times that things haven't worked out like I've originally wanted. But in the end, it turned out God was looking out for me, and it was for my good.
*breathes*
hmm...oh, compatibility. Err yes, compatibility. Ya, it's important
I am a man. And I do feel insulted. 
