The youth pastor, on Father's day morning immediately after the service explained to Me, her mother and my daughter that she was playing too rough with a couple of brothers. That their parents had gotten with him a month ago to observe them to see if it was in fact happening i presume. We had just been on a river float, church function the Monday/Teusday before. In the time between that trip and Sunday their parents explained that on the trip she played too rough with them on the bus ride down there. So much in fact that they may not go to summer camp. I was on that bus ride and never perceived a problem. I would also add that, that does not make me think there's nothing to the claims. The boys parent were not present on the trip.
Our church is small and my is the only girl her age, 12. And one of the brothers is about the only person her age. We ( us and them) are part of the same home school play group. Over the last couple months ive noticed their mom distancing or avoiding me a little, not showing up for park play day, not very chatty when we are at church.
So much i was beginning to think maybe i had offended her is some kind of way but i now assume it the issue with the kids.\
My Problem!!!
1: The parents never got with me or my wife explaining the issue.
2: They explained the problem with her youth pastor and without listening to anything from my daughter or talking to me explained that she had a problem and that an apology would probably be appropriate without ever asking her about it. They let this alleged activity go on for 2 months with out raising a flag or talking to any of us about it! It's like my daughter was on a watch list at her church.
3: their problem with my child had a direct impact on the relationship between their whole family and mine.
4: There has been no evidence detected by our youth pastor until they complained
I am shocked at myself at how angry i am but i am remaining cool on the outside and will continue. When we started going to church there i almost decided not to join there because i did not think there would be many relationships for my daughter and now it seems there will be strain. And she may be utterly alone in her demographic.
I have explained to her that she should offer a sincere apology for anything she had done to intimidate the 2 boys. She did explain that the boys too had messed her too.
I am very angry and i need your prayers. I cannot understand why my Christian brothers and sisters cannot come to me and say something. Is fear the end of our faith! No! I do love them and her youth pastor but how do i trust them now.
For the record my daughter does owe them an apology and she is a good kid, imperfect but, a good kid.
It amazes me sometimes what people who claim to be my brethren won't tell me.
Please pray for me, maybe I'm too angry but i think i have a right to be. Tell me like it is folks
Our church is small and my is the only girl her age, 12. And one of the brothers is about the only person her age. We ( us and them) are part of the same home school play group. Over the last couple months ive noticed their mom distancing or avoiding me a little, not showing up for park play day, not very chatty when we are at church.
So much i was beginning to think maybe i had offended her is some kind of way but i now assume it the issue with the kids.\
My Problem!!!
1: The parents never got with me or my wife explaining the issue.
2: They explained the problem with her youth pastor and without listening to anything from my daughter or talking to me explained that she had a problem and that an apology would probably be appropriate without ever asking her about it. They let this alleged activity go on for 2 months with out raising a flag or talking to any of us about it! It's like my daughter was on a watch list at her church.
3: their problem with my child had a direct impact on the relationship between their whole family and mine.
4: There has been no evidence detected by our youth pastor until they complained
I am shocked at myself at how angry i am but i am remaining cool on the outside and will continue. When we started going to church there i almost decided not to join there because i did not think there would be many relationships for my daughter and now it seems there will be strain. And she may be utterly alone in her demographic.
I have explained to her that she should offer a sincere apology for anything she had done to intimidate the 2 boys. She did explain that the boys too had messed her too.
I am very angry and i need your prayers. I cannot understand why my Christian brothers and sisters cannot come to me and say something. Is fear the end of our faith! No! I do love them and her youth pastor but how do i trust them now.
For the record my daughter does owe them an apology and she is a good kid, imperfect but, a good kid.
It amazes me sometimes what people who claim to be my brethren won't tell me.
Please pray for me, maybe I'm too angry but i think i have a right to be. Tell me like it is folks