Would you ever, as a Christian, date an Atheist, Muslim, Jew, Buddhist, Scientologist, FSM, etc...
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Noting that OP is an atheist themselves lol I digress.
Religion doesn't define personality, although it can determine moral judgment. Alongside this point you should note that you can date whomever you feel like smooching with. The thing is...can you get that person to date you? Maybe, maybe not.
Religion doesn't define personality, although it can determine moral judgment. Alongside this point you should note that you can date whomever you feel like smooching with. The thing is...can you get that person to date you? Maybe, maybe not.
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I will say that devout Christians shouldn't date non-Christians because it is easy to fall in love with whoever you're dating, and if you get married with someone who doesn't share your same morals and beliefs, the relationship will be either rocky, or broken off.
God should be the foundation for any Christian relationship, because He will bless it and make it the most satisfying and loving relationship humanly possible.
Plus if there are children they will have two people teaching them different things all at once which can make them very emotionally/mentally confused as they grow up.
They are just too different for that kind of relationship.
But, I absolutely love Atheits, Jews, Buddhist, Muslims, or any religion!
A true Christian will not be a hater, or judge people or treat them differently because of what they believe. And you can have very close relationships and friendships with people of other religions! But when it comes to the extent of becoming one spirit, flesh, and united in body and soul as marrage does, it just simply would never work out long term.
God should be the foundation for any Christian relationship, because He will bless it and make it the most satisfying and loving relationship humanly possible.
Plus if there are children they will have two people teaching them different things all at once which can make them very emotionally/mentally confused as they grow up.
They are just too different for that kind of relationship.
But, I absolutely love Atheits, Jews, Buddhist, Muslims, or any religion!
A true Christian will not be a hater, or judge people or treat them differently because of what they believe. And you can have very close relationships and friendships with people of other religions! But when it comes to the extent of becoming one spirit, flesh, and united in body and soul as marrage does, it just simply would never work out long term.
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avra34v2
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I wouldn't
If Christ is the most central thing in my life, it just wouldn't make sense.... both from a 'what I want' and a practical standpoint.
Like... in my relationship I want us to be pursuing Christ together. That's the MOST important thing I want in a girl when it comes to a relationship. So if a girl's not pursuing Christ... I'm just not really all that interested.
And practically it would never make sense. All my major decisions in life will be made with pleasing God as the end in view. It would never make sense to live life together with someone who wouldn't be considering that.
If Christ is the most central thing in my life, it just wouldn't make sense.... both from a 'what I want' and a practical standpoint.
Like... in my relationship I want us to be pursuing Christ together. That's the MOST important thing I want in a girl when it comes to a relationship. So if a girl's not pursuing Christ... I'm just not really all that interested.
And practically it would never make sense. All my major decisions in life will be made with pleasing God as the end in view. It would never make sense to live life together with someone who wouldn't be considering that.
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Yeah I probably would, but it would be helpful if they understood spirituality to some extent. Hopefully the person I marry will care about spiritual/ethical/meaningful/deep things if they are Christian or not.
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Would be a bit pointless, wouldn't it? I mean, the whole religion thing would end up coming up in every argument, so it'd just make things more complicated then they need to be
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It depends on how both sides feel you know, like johnny said if all it is going to do is lead to arguments over both sides of religion then it may not be the best idea.
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I wouldnt, I have been tempted in the past though. I have been up and down in my faith, being with someone who dosnt believe the same things as me wouldnt help. Plus how would a relationship work if you both worship diffrent Gods?
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Actually, No. No, it really doesn't.
It may have an influence over certain approach-avoidance behaviors that are considered moral, but that does not make it moral judgment.
It may determine what behaviors you partake in, but that does not make behaviors moral/immoral. For instance, I don't see premarital sex as immoral. A Christian may disagree but their disagreement does not make their position more moral.
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Spikey4672
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Personally no. the bible warns us about becoming unevenly yolked and having someone who u really care about but is not helping u grow in christ or in some cases driving u away from it is too much of a risk. christianity is a lot more than morals
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Before I am male, before I am American, before I am white, before any other classsification of human, I am Christian. My faith in Christ defines me. It drives me. It is at the core of who I am. My whole life is being based on my walk with my Father. There are two types of people in the world, Once-born of the flesh and twice-born of the Spirit. How can I be with someone who isn't my species? You have to understand, from a Christians point of view, we are aliens here. Pilgrims passing through. The rest of the world makes its home here. I cannot be with someone who is wanting to make their home here. My heart searches for a fellow Pilgrim.
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I would not date someone of another religion. A leader at camp described it as playing with fire: some people might be able to do it safely, but it's dangerous (for our faith). I'm uncertain if I have the strength it would take, and I don't want to risk it. I can't imagine ever marrying a non-Christian, and I hope to enter any romantic relationship with the intention of it lasting, so I respect people who do it but it's not for me.
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Barricade24
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There are several key things that I want from a girl.
1) She is a Christian.
2) She is an excellent personality.
3) She is attractive.
So to put it simply, I probably wouldn't date a girl who wasn't a Christian.
1) She is a Christian.
2) She is an excellent personality.
3) She is attractive.
So to put it simply, I probably wouldn't date a girl who wasn't a Christian.
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No, I would not.
Do not yoke yourselves with non-believers. What does a believer and a non-believer have in common? nothing.
Do not yoke yourselves with non-believers. What does a believer and a non-believer have in common? nothing.
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Now that's not fair. You ignore dozens of hypotheticals where the only thing that they don't have in common is religion. A persons religion has little to no effect on how good of a boyfriend/girlfriend they can be.
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Forgive me if I'm being slightly obtuse here. But what do you mean by "pursuing Christ"? How does one go about doing that? I thought he died about 2000 years ago.
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I don't get it. How is it playing with fire? You make it sound like anyone who isn't Christian is dangerous in some way.
So, you say it's dangerous for your faith. If your faith really is the truth you say it is, you should have no problem having a discussion with someone who doesn't believe it. If you hear all their arguments and come out the other side convinced they haven't made a salient point, then your faith is worth following, isn't it? But the fact that you think a person can turn you from your faith simply by dating you shows you don't believe it can withstand scrutiny from the outside.
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HarborOrange
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Hey, I would. I mean, as far as I've observed, most Christians don't have it as figured out as they claim to anyway. Back when I was a Christian, I dated this girl who claimed to be a 'Christian'. She'd cry every worship service and get all into it. Then she'd go home and update her facebook, saying "how amazing" God is. Well, she cheated on me. Twice. I ended it between us, that wasn't something I'd stand for. At the time of my speaking, she has had multiple pregnancy scares, has probably had sexual relations with any man willing about once a week (I'm assuming, since I don't talk to her anymore. But last time I talked to her about a month ago, she told me that she's been sleeping around almost chronically.). She applied at a hooker bar (kind of like Hooters) and swears and drinks profusely. Yeah, she's not a good person... Yet, she's a "Christian"... I went to a Lutheran school when I was younger (freshman year-sophomore year.) and dated many girls from the school as a result. I was used, cheated on (seems to be a chronic thing amongst many of the 'Christian' girls I've met.), and completely ditched without explanation. They were terrible, terrible, relationships. I mean, I know that doesn't go for all Christian girls, but honestly, I've noted some truly toxic and horrendous relationships (both based on my experiences, and the experiences of my friends.) when it comes to 'Christian' girls these days. Granted, that is not always the case, as I have been with a very devoted and faithful Christian girl for a year now.
But, my point stands that, often times, Christians are really no different than the common secular person these days. Everyone is pretty much the same... Besides, being more in tune with the ancient system of beliefs now, I'm starting to realize how dedicated Jewish people are (assuming they're practicing Jews, and not just calling themselves Jews based on their heritage.). I'd date a Jewish girl any day. A Muslim girl, well, not so much, since they're inclined to hate me based on my set of beliefs. A Hindu girl, probably not, since our beliefs wouldn't coincide whatsoever... Buddhist and Atheist, I'm not sure, they both do not believe in YHWH, which is the most integral part of my life. However, many Atheists are phenomenally nice, and understanding people so long as they're not militant- and the same goes for Buddhists. I would eventually hope they would believe in God, but hey, Moses married a Pagan... So, it happened, even with the great Patriarchs. So, really, it all depends, but I'm not against it entirely.
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But, my point stands that, often times, Christians are really no different than the common secular person these days. Everyone is pretty much the same... Besides, being more in tune with the ancient system of beliefs now, I'm starting to realize how dedicated Jewish people are (assuming they're practicing Jews, and not just calling themselves Jews based on their heritage.). I'd date a Jewish girl any day. A Muslim girl, well, not so much, since they're inclined to hate me based on my set of beliefs. A Hindu girl, probably not, since our beliefs wouldn't coincide whatsoever... Buddhist and Atheist, I'm not sure, they both do not believe in YHWH, which is the most integral part of my life. However, many Atheists are phenomenally nice, and understanding people so long as they're not militant- and the same goes for Buddhists. I would eventually hope they would believe in God, but hey, Moses married a Pagan... So, it happened, even with the great Patriarchs. So, really, it all depends, but I'm not against it entirely.
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It doesn't matter if they would be a good versus poor girlfriend/boyfriend. What matters is the commonality of loving God with all of your heart, mind and soul and your neighbor as yourself.
The Bible tells me to not yoke myself with other non-believers, I love the Lord and obey His Word. It's simple.
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