Would you date someone who didn't find you physically attractive -- a BETTER poll!

[Boondock_Saint]

male/no

Although I wouldn't date a woman I find attractive, the more I get to know a woman the better looking she gets.

 

[mina]

no, what would be the point? I want to marry someone that loves how i look and who i admire as well. That's not the only point of attraction but it has to be there.

 

[ProAntiRevolution]

no, what would be the point? I want to marry someone that loves how i look and who i admire as well. That's not the only point of attraction but it has to be there.

Just out of curiosity, let's say someone doesn't age very well, do you divorce them at that point?

 

[mina]

no, marriage is about lifelong commitment- better or for worse (even in appearance). And as you grow older together there is a deeper level of love beyond just physical that hopefully exists in a healthy marriage. But I do think to be initially attracted to someone in the dating or engagement or early marriage stage there has to be physical attraction at some point. I wouldn't date someone that wasn't attracted to me or I to them (physically speaking). And i wouldn't get engaged to someone that was frank about not being attracted to me or someone that i wasn't attracted to.

 

[ProAntiRevolution]

Yes I'll agree with you. I'm married too but if i was single i wouldn't date someone unattractive for me. But maybe someone can be more interesting if have some of this gadgets mytinygadget.com. Take a look they are free and interesting. All you need to do is to fill some survey.

So in short you're telling us you want us to look at your tiny gadget?

 

[ProAntiRevolution]

no, marriage is about lifelong commitment- better or for worse (even in appearance). And as you grow older together there is a deeper level of love beyond just physical that hopefully exists in a healthy marriage. But I do think to be initially attracted to someone in the dating or engagement or early marriage stage there has to be physical attraction at some point. I wouldn't date someone that wasn't attracted to me or I to them (physically speaking). And i wouldn't get engaged to someone that was frank about not being attracted to me or someone that i wasn't attracted to.

Just sounds a bit like leveraging something that is by nature temporary against more important qualities in a priority set. Shrug.........

 

[mina]

so you would date someone that found YOU unattractive? lol

 

[yam]

I expected this. Most women are willing to date someone who they do not find Physically attractiive unlike men . It is all about the physical with Most men not all but majority . women who are not attractive have it bad in the dating world than unattractive men.

 

[webbiest]

I expected this. Most women are willing to date someone who they do not find Physically attractiive unlike men . It is all about the physical with Most men not all but majority . women who are not attractive have it bad in the dating world than unattractive men.

so far the poll says otherwise though. seems like both men and women wont go for someone they find unattractive

 

[Sapphyre]

In my experience (and I also hear this a lot from others), when you start having feelings for someone, you find them increasingly physically attractive, even if you didn't initially. Just sayin'.

 

[yam]

so far the poll says otherwise though. seems like both men and women wont go for someone they find unattractive

Either way , but I don't buy the polls from what I see daily . Most times, unattractive men are see with beautiful women. It is very hard for you to see an attractive man with a less attractive woman.

 

[Blank123]

Either way , but I don't buy the polls from what I see daily . Most times, unattractive men are see with beautiful women. It is very hard for you to see an attractive man with a less attractive woman.

I've seen it go the other way too. The problem is you can't be objective with something like attraction. What is unattractive to you, may actually be quite attractive to another woman.

 

[ProAntiRevolution]

so you would date someone that found YOU unattractive? lol

Sure, why not? If sexual attraction is the big priority in the relationship then it would be foolish of me not to assume that the relationship wouldn't break down as soon as the sexual attraction does.

 

[ProAntiRevolution]

I'd actually have to go with Yam on this one as far as real life is concerned. A fat wallet will turn any frog into a prince to women. But as far as women to men go there really is no such counterbalance, you're either physically attractive or you aren't going to be a high status mate selection.

 

[Trashionista]

No way in hell.

 

[leothelioness]

I expected this. Most women are willing to date someone who they do not find Physically attractiive unlike men . It is all about the physical with Most men not all but majority . women who are not attractive have it bad in the dating world than unattractive men.

I'm a woman and I would not be willing to date someone I find ugly. It's not just men that go off the physical, but us ladies as well.

 

[Trashionista]

I'd actually have to go with Yam on this one as far as real life is concerned. A fat wallet will turn any frog into a prince to women. But as far as women to men go there really is no such counterbalance, you're either physically attractive or you aren't going to be a high status mate selection.

I don't know. Rubirosa didn't seem to have many standards for marriage (for just sex, maybe he was more selective) other than how deep their pockets were...

 

[CrusaderKing]

I'm a woman and I would not be willing to date someone I find ugly. It's not just men that go off the physical, but us ladies as well.

To start, there always has to be some form of physical attraction. What's attractive to one person isn't always the same for another person. Physical attraction is a bit of a relative thing anyway.

 

[ProAntiRevolution]

I don't know. Rubirosa didn't seem to have many standards for marriage (for just sex, maybe he was more selective) other than how deep their pockets were...

Fair enough, there are certainly men that are interested in women with large sums of money. But speaking in general terms a guy with a six figure salary would stand a far better chance of getting a woman physically out of his league than a woman in the same position would have.

 

[Squeakers]

We need to differentiate between "doesn't think I'm bikini-model material" and "thinks I'm so repulsive he gags everytime we're together".

The first one, sure I'd date him, if he geniunely liked/loved me and didn't care about outer shell so much (I voted yes in the poll along this line of thinking). There are soooo many couples out there who are just plain ol' average-looking people, and they love each other, and that's all they care about. To think that you just can't love a person who isn't smashingly hot on the outside...is such a disservice to our humanity and the possible depth with which we CAN live if we choose to.

If the second one...umm...why would he even ask me out if he couldn't hold his lunch around me?

This post, completely.

In my experience (and I also hear this a lot from others), when you start having feelings for someone, you find them increasingly physically attractive, even if you didn't initially. Just sayin'.

I've heard of that too.