Would you date someone that doesn't find you attractive?

[penNpaper]

Indeed I am a dork!

Oh really

An Texan and 32 hmmm *gets out my cowboy hat*

Sooooooo *ahem* tell me more about your dorkness factor



God Bless,
Drew

 

[Tink]

Oh really

An Texan and 32 hmmm *gets out my cowboy hat*

Sooooooo *ahem* tell me more about your dorkness factor



God Bless,
Drew

LOL!!!

You're silly.

 

[penNpaper]

LOL!!!

You're silly.

Yuppers

Probably the reason why I'm single...

I'm either too overweight...
I'm either too silly...
I'm either too kind...
I'm either too shy...
I'm either too dorkness...
I'm either too much to handle
I'm either too lovable like a teddy bear
I'm either too too too too too or just a woman hasn't went all

over me...tackles me...and screams I'M KEEPING HIM SO BACK OFF LADIES

God Bless,
Drew

 

[Im_A]

I would not date someone that I found unattractive...plain and simple, no questions asked, no give and take on this one.

 

[kingoffools13]

Bringing back this thread from 1969?

in 1969 ... there was like one military scientist online ... his name was bob and he was married. he shouldn't have been asking him,self dating questions.

k
o
f

 

[Tink]

Yuppers

Probably the reason why I'm single...

I'm either too overweight...
I'm either too silly...
I'm either too kind...
I'm either too shy...
I'm either too dorkness...
I'm either too much to handle
I'm either too lovable like a teddy bear
I'm either too too too too too or just a woman hasn't went all

over me...tackles me...and screams I'M KEEPING HIM SO BACK OFF LADIES

God Bless,
Drew

LOL! That made me laugh!

I would not date someone that I found unattractive...plain and simple, no questions asked, no give and take on this one.

Good deal.

in 1969 ... there was like one military scientist online ... his name was bob and he was married. he shouldn't have been asking him,self dating questions.

k
o
f

Yeah! What a weirdo Bob was.

 

[lostaquarium]

LOL! It was probably me... either that or I participated in it a lot, because I remember it clearly.

 

[MehGuy]

I don't know I guess so, like if the person was an asexual? Even not would be fine I guess... but I wouldn't return the same favor. I just need someone that least has a good looking face and not overweight.

 

[Im_A]

I don't know I guess so, like if the person was an asexual? Even not would be fine I guess... but I wouldn't return the same favor. I just need someone that least has a good looking face and not overweight.

Ya know the asexual would be interesting. Don't think I could date an asexual person. My experience with a bisexual ended pretty bad so maybe I'll just stick with heterosexuals.

 

[MehGuy]

Ya know the asexual would be interesting. Don't think I could date an asexual person. My experience with a bisexual ended pretty bad so maybe I'll just stick with heterosexuals.

Lol I think I would be ok with going out with an asexual at least on a date. I don't know why lol, I guess sex just isn't that big of an issue with me, though I guess I assume they'd have a shot being interested in other things like ropes which some Asexuals are and well I can do with that and without the sex fairly easily I think. *which I've discovered some Asexuals are in fact heavily into that* Though I'm probably being incredibly unrealistic

Anyways... what happened with that bisexual lol? Just going to stick with the heterosexual women with a tab bit of bisexual curiosity?

 

[Im_A]

Lol I think I would be ok with going out with an asexual at least on a date. I don't know why lol, I guess sex just isn't that big of an issue with me, though I guess I assume they'd have a shot being interested in other things like ropes which some Asexuals are and well I can do with that and without the sex fairly easily I think. *which I've discovered some Asexuals are in fact heavily into that* Though I'm probably being incredibly unrealistic

I don't want someone to have sex with me because of obligation or for only to pop out a child so we can have a family. I want someone to run free in their sexuality with me, and asexuality is just one race I don't want to be a part on.

Anyways... what happened with that bisexual lol? Just going to stick with the heterosexual women with a tab bit of bisexual curiosity?

I have no beefs with bisexual people. I don't consider women who get drunk and make out with their best friends to be bisexual or lesbian...just horny. I mean it doesn't speak too much to real bisexual people, when it takes poison to come out of the closet. Bisexuality and women that just want some tongue and action while drunk(only saying that because that is where I have normally heard the tad bit of bisexuality in women argument from.

The relationship ended badly. It didn't end because of the bisexual part. Its just the co-relation. There was a lot of bad things that led her to the realization of her bisexuality. I just want a simple heterosexual lady.


With both cases, if I find someone who clears up this stuff, then I will stand corrected.

 

[MacFall]

No. I can't imagine that if a woman who doesn't find me attractive is nonetheless willing to date me, there must be some ulterior motive.

 

[MacFall]

1969?

I want that clock.

 

[Thunder Peel]

I don't think a woman's ever found me attractive, so I'd just have to take what I can get! Maybe I'd just wear a fake mustache or something.

 

[Blank123]

Okay, to get rid of the confusion - I didn't start this thread. It said that there was a thread from 1969, so I replied to it just to see if it would bump with the 1969 as the date of the OP and INSTEAD - it created this thread.

So, agreed - why would anyone date someone that didn't find them attractive...I don't know.

this thread confuzzled me

but no I wouldn't. My self-esteem isn't so low that I'd date someone who wasn't attracted to me.

 

[Windmill]

EDIT, read it wrong.

No, I wouldn't. Why? Because its probably a bad sign.

Look: I don't really "get" attractiveness When we say "attractive", we generally mean in terms of physical attraction. I am Asexual. I don't find people physically attractive. I get crushes/romantic feelings etc through my relationships with people, but their looks have no influence.

So... in regards to this... if it was another asexual, great! But from what I've heard, if I'm dating someone that finds me unattractive, then thats bad, because they clearly don't feel much for me, because what one feels seems to be inheriently linked to physical attraction too. Like, even if they didn't find you attractive previously, people can fall in love with someone BUT this always changes how "attractive" they are; they skyrocket, or something. So I want the person to love me/be in love with me (or in early days to at least "like" me) and all of this apparently requires attraction.

 

[Windmill]

I don't want someone to have sex with me because of obligation or for only to pop out a child so we can have a family. I want someone to run free in their sexuality with me, and asexuality is just one race I don't want to be a part on.

Fair enough too.

I have a bf who knows about my sexuality, but I consider myself pretty lucky. Lets just say: love and relationships for most asexual people ends badly from what I've seen. Being asexual doesn't mean you can't enjoy sex, but thats not enough usually for most people.. I can get how it could kill the mood.

Like, if my relationship breaks up, I'm pretty much resigned to never getting into another one ever again.

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

*Heck no*

 

[lostaquarium]

EDIT, read it wrong.

No, I wouldn't. Why? Because its probably a bad sign.

Look: I don't really "get" attractiveness When we say "attractive", we generally mean in terms of physical attraction. I am Asexual. I don't find people physically attractive. I get crushes/romantic feelings etc through my relationships with people, but their looks have no influence.

So... in regards to this... if it was another asexual, great! But from what I've heard, if I'm dating someone that finds me unattractive, then thats bad, because they clearly don't feel much for me, because what one feels seems to be inheriently linked to physical attraction too. Like, even if they didn't find you attractive previously, people can fall in love with someone BUT this always changes how "attractive" they are; they skyrocket, or something. So I want the person to love me/be in love with me (or in early days to at least "like" me) and all of this apparently requires attraction.

This is how I feel too. I know that, objectively speaking, very few people would look at me and say, "woah there's a physically attractive young woman". But I hope that someone will get to know me and become attracted to my personality, and therefore to me as a whole. That type of "attraction" would be essential.

But purely physical attraction would not be essential.

 

[GQ Chris]

A few years back, I always wanted some gal that would just use me as a "boy toy" and I told myself I would be totally okay with that. I was wrong, I basically met a smokin hot chic (mormon) who basically dated me because I was her "flavor of the month". I felt all good for awhile but I wanted something more with her than just being her toy for pleasure, I wanted a relationship. I wanted to introduce her to my Mom, the whole nine yards. lol. I was pretty broken up about it when it didn't work out back at the time. In fact, it was like my first post on CF. But I am totally over her now. Luckily we didn't have kids or anything, that would've been disaster.