Would you date me...?

[Inkachu]

No, I'm not asking anyone out, lol.

My question is to the men: Would you date a 30 year old single mother?

Sometimes I think to myself "Nobody's going to want you...why would they want you when they could find someone younger, with no kids...just give it up".

I'll try to keep my chin up, even if some of you say you wouldn't. I would really like some honest answers, though. Just be kind, please.

 

[Mark2010]

No, I'm not asking anyone out, lol.

My question is to the men: Would you date a 30 year old single mother?

Sometimes I think to myself "Nobody's going to want you...why would they want you when they could find someone younger, with no kids...just give it up".

I'll try to keep my chin up, even if some of you say you wouldn't. I would really like some honest answers, though. Just be kind, please.

Heaven's yes!!!!

In fact, I've been wanting to get to know you better.

What on earth is wrong with being a 30-year-old single mother? I could never disqualify someone based on that. (Actually, I'm pretty accepting of all people.)

You seem like an awesome person.

 

[wildthing]

The simple answer is YES!

 

[JohnDB]

Yeah,
I would if there were things about you that attracted me to you. IF you were approachable and affible that usually helps. (sorry don't know you well yet)

But...Just because you have a child doesn't mean that no one will want you...many of us guys love children. More so when the child is well behaved. Not meaning that he/she can't behave like a child...after all they are. But a child that isn't a nightmare of behavior issues that come from unresolved anger issues or some other kind of issue.

Dating leads to marriage...and marriage is tough. A child from a previous relationship can destroy a new relationship.

But on the other hand...some can't have children and a person bringing a child along into a relationship can have something very wonderful to add to the relationship.

It is just tough for a single mom to be out there and approachable for guys to find and date. You have a full plate. And it is gonna take a lot of extra work for you to be out there to be found. (us guys are rather slow to notice sometimes when a woman likes us)

just a tougher row to hoe than most seem to have. But you keep your chin up and always have a smile on your face and all will end OK...

 

[Inkachu]

Heaven's yes!!!!

In fact, I've been wanting to get to know you better.

What on earth is wrong with being a 30-year-old single mother? I could never disqualify someone based on that. (Actually, I'm pretty accepting of all people.)

You seem like an awesome person.

R-r-really?

Oh, there's nothing 'wrong' with being who I am. But it's a massive undertaking to begin a serious romance, and even more massive to consider becoming an instant father. I understand that such an idea turns many men away...I might feel the same way if the positions were switched. I have dated men in the past who loved my son and were willing to accept him with open arms...but they never matched ME as well...and it has to be a match for both...truly something only God can arrange, if you ask me!

Thanks again for such kind words *rubs the toe of her shoe in the dirt*

 

[Inkachu]

The simple answer is YES!

Thank you

 

[Inkachu]

Yeah,
I would if there were things about you that attracted me to you. IF you were approachable and affible that usually helps. (sorry don't know you well yet)

But...Just because you have a child doesn't mean that no one will want you...many of us guys love children. More so when the child is well behaved. Not meaning that he/she can't behave like a child...after all they are. But a child that isn't a nightmare of behavior issues that come from unresolved anger issues or some other kind of issue.

Dating leads to marriage...and marriage is tough. A child from a previous relationship can destroy a new relationship.

But on the other hand...some can't have children and a person bringing a child along into a relationship can have something very wonderful to add to the relationship.

It is just tough for a single mom to be out there and approachable for guys to find and date. You have a full plate. And it is gonna take a lot of extra work for you to be out there to be found. (us guys are rather slow to notice sometimes when a woman likes us)

just a tougher row to hoe than most seem to have. But you keep your chin up and always have a smile on your face and all will end OK...

I am quite affable, if I do say so myself My son is one of the best behaved children in the world. Of course, I'm biased, but people do comment constantly at how sweet and polite and friendly he is. I was raised to be well behaved, respectful, and polite, and I determined any children that I had would learn the same. Fortunately, he's got a sweet and eager-to-please personality, and he's never been a discipline problem.

He's truly Heaven-sent...designed just for me by God I never stop marvelling at the joy he brings to my life.

 

[ulu]

My question is to the men: Would you date a 30 year old single mother?
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Date yes, get serious no. Don't want the responsibility of someone else's kid.

 

[wildthing]

Date yes, get serious no. Don't want the responsibility of someone else's kid.

What??? Actually I would date her and if I did get serious. I would be honored to have the kid as a responsibility. If I love the gal I would love the child. That is all there is to it.
wt

 

[country woman]

See you now have lot of guys asking you

 

[country woman]

that is very selfish of you ulu

 

[ChooseTheRight]

To me the girl comes first. I have kids myself, so i would have no problems dating or even getting serious with a single mom. Although i would think twice, if the kid was the jealous type and mom let that happen.

 

[ulu]

that is very selfish of you ulu

If you had 19 kids already, from 15 different mothers/fathers, would you be quick to take on another one?

 

[dluvs2trvl]

If you had 19 kids already, from 15 different mothers/fathers, would you be quick to take on another one?

Care to explain how you came to have all these children? You've been asked about it a couple of times but I've never seen an explanation...

 

[tyyppi13]

no

 

[Amped88]

To answer your question, YES I would date you, and if it would lead to more, then I would accept you and your child with the same love and commitment.

Not to steal your thread away from you, but you have hit on what i want to know myself, but from a womans perspective. Would you date a guy with a child that does not live with him but in another state with a mingling crazy ex wife? I have been divorced 2 times of which I believe was not my fault. First and second cheated on me while I was at sea on a sub (to sum it up). Even tho i am single, have my own apartment and live alone, i feel that as soon as i tell a woman that I have been divorced two times she'll immediately throw up the flags and wont see me for who I really am. I have learned my lessons and changed my lifestyle from not meeting women at bars, but will the next woman see that?? I dont know, that is why I am asking. I have baggage tho I am single. I am planning for the worst, which is a lonely life, because im choosing God and my salvation over the wordly way of doing things/meeting women.

 

[country woman]

I would date a single dad. I love kids.

yea why ulu do you have that many kids

 

[country woman]

Welcome all you newbies

 

[dluvs2trvl]

To answer your question, YES I would date you, and if it would lead to more, then I would accept you and your child with the same love and commitment.

Not to steal your thread away from you, but you have hit on what i want to know myself, but from a womans perspective. Would you date a guy with a child that does not live with him but in another state with a mingling crazy ex wife? I have been divorced 2 times of which I believe was not my fault. First and second cheated on me while I was at sea on a sub (to sum it up). Even tho i am single, have my own apartment and live alone, i feel that as soon as i tell a woman that I have been divorced two times she'll immediately throw up the flags and wont see me for who I really am. I have learned my lessons and changed my lifestyle from not meeting women at bars, but will the next woman see that?? I dont know, that is why I am asking. I have baggage tho I am single. I am planning for the worst, which is a lonely life, because im choosing God and my salvation over the wordly way of doing things/meeting women.

You might want to check out this thread as I think there were some good thoughts that pertain to your question

http://christianforums.com/t6989643-ever-wonder-if.html

I think that if you desire to be married and it is the Lord's will then you will find a woman who accepts you, past and all. Now don't get me wrong, yes, I think finding out that someone has been married twice would totally send up red flags for me...BUT if I've had a chance to get to know him and he owns his part in the breakdown of his marriages and he proves over time that he is living his life for the Lord then I wouldn't be opposed to it but I do think I would probably take things slower in a relationship with him than with someone who had never been married or had been divorced once.

 

[HopeFaithLove4u]

To answer your question, YES I would date you, and if it would lead to more, then I would accept you and your child with the same love and commitment.

Not to steal your thread away from you, but you have hit on what i want to know myself, but from a womans perspective. Would you date a guy with a child that does not live with him but in another state with a mingling crazy ex wife? I have been divorced 2 times of which I believe was not my fault. First and second cheated on me while I was at sea on a sub (to sum it up). Even tho i am single, have my own apartment and live alone, i feel that as soon as i tell a woman that I have been divorced two times she'll immediately throw up the flags and wont see me for who I really am. I have learned my lessons and changed my lifestyle from not meeting women at bars, but will the next woman see that?? I dont know, that is why I am asking. I have baggage tho I am single. I am planning for the worst, which is a lonely life, because im choosing God and my salvation over the wordly way of doing things/meeting women.

I don't think I would have a big problem with divorced twice (like an ex-bf) but I would have a HUGE 'red flag' pop up with the in bold part. My ex-bf said neither was his fault either......but then getting to know him, I think (at least) one of the divorces WAS his fault. He claimed cheating too, but he is pretty conservative only HIS WAY of thinking is right and doesn't leave any room for another opinion. No, I don't think his ex-wife cheating helped their situation, but TWO people have accountability for marriages not working, not just one.

Heck my ex cheated on me too, but I do take some responsibility for our marriage not working. So, when someone claims no fault/responsibility......I would pass on that person.

JMHO.....welcome, BTW.