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I tested the merchandise when I was out shopping. apparently I wasn't supposed to do that at all- i.e not touch anything.
He didn't like that. He was anal. In my country that means a neat freak.
But my reason i didn't date him again was he was allergic to seafood and that was a deal breaker.
Mine was also God related. After 2 hrs of sleeping, he wakes up to "God telling him that we had served His will and purpose" and basically our time was over.
Mine was also God related. After 2 hrs of sleeping, he wakes up to "God telling him that we had served His will and purpose" and basically our time was over.
I don't know if I've had bad reasons or excuses. Either we grew apart, circumstances changed or it was mutual.
I don't really even consider it dating with this one guy one time. We had met once. I remember it was like 2007, I was on the phone with him and I realised that he was incredibly boring, I said "I can't do this anymore" and hung up. I feel bad about it now, but it never would have worked (for obvious reasons as well lol) . We had nothing in common and I found him pretty boring.
With the latest ex, I moved, she was still in Wales and I was in California. I didn't see either of us moving anytime soon so it was a mutual decision to end it and see where life takes us. I'm glad it happened because I met C and we are really happy. Just had our six month yesterday. Time flies.
Mine was also God related. After 2 hrs of sleeping, he wakes up to "God telling him that we had served His will and purpose" and basically our time was over.
The last guy I was seeing didn't give me a reason. He decided to start avoiding me one day. I don't know if anyone's heard of "ghosting", but that's basically what he tried to do. Even though we have 3 classes together
At first I figured, you know, maybe something's up; I'll give him some space.
After awhile I decided nothing was up - he apparently felt enough to spend time with his other female friends. I literally had to corner him after class one day to even speak to him. I asked what the deal was, and he told me he didn't know what I was talking about. I said whatever. I haven't spoken to him since. I have too many other things going on to deal with that.
I'm just angry that he apparently didn't respect me enough to say it to my face that it's over.
This happened recently, that's why I'm still salty about it It feels good to vent though.
Over a year later, and I still don't really know how to describe what she did. It's very difficult to sum up what she said, because it made so little sense. lol.:
We'd been best friends for over two years, talked constantly, knew everything about each other, flirted *all the time*, and had one of those relationships where we were just completely comfortable in talking about anything with the other, and everyone was constantly asking: "Are you two an item?". She was the one who first confessed deeper feelings than friendship. I let her know I'd been hopelessly smitten by her, but I'd be content with friendship, and I left it in her hands whether we stayed friends or tried something more. A few weeks later she brought it up again, and had decided she wanted more than friendship.
Fast forward a bit, and everything is going along well; pretty much as it did before, but we'd grown even closer if that was somehow possible, then without warning, she goes totally silent on me. And then after three days of my head on the chopping block, waiting for the ax to fall, she sends me a breakup letter *on facebook*.
She said how these are her thoughts, and how they're jumbled, but make sense in a way, and how there's this song by the Spin Doctors, and how there's a line about something of the heart, and how oddly she forgets the entire rest of the song, and... Yeah, it kind of went on vaguely like that for a bit, then she took a complete 180 on everything she'd ever said about our friendship and relationship. It was like it was written by a total different person.
Then she blamed God for all of it, and started actually preaching at me; as if my faith was so shallow that her dumping me was going to destroy my relationship with God
As far as actual reasons go, she said that she'd been going through dry seasons spiritually (which is not what she'd said the entire time I'd known her), and that it was all about choices, and how instead of doing things like she used to, she'd been... doing "other things" (like spending time with me). So reading between the jumbled lines, she basically said I'd been a cancer in her life; sucking her dry and slowly killing her.
So that's what she said without saying by way of hinting without hinting. lol. But it was all a crock to make herself feel better, because she couldn't admit the truth. I didn't find this out until recently, but in talking with a mutual friend, I learned that basically, though she'd committed to me, she had kept her options open behind my back, and then dumped me for another guy.
Don't have a relationship for it so far.
But I've had people say they're too busy, then see them online again, and wish it wasn't a lie.
Other times just they're dating somebody, and never said. Just a lot of people fizzle, and I wish there was some honesty initially without pinning people down. I suspect once I have people IRL it'll be easier since there is more commitment and accountability. Some of the excuses people have been given by others here are sad, and I hope to avoid most of them but that's a pipe dream.
My first serious gf told me we had to take a break because of sexual immorality (which is a good reason).
The worst reason why I broke up with a girl was because I took her iPod (had a cracked screen) so that I could fix it. She said don't worry about it and to give it back but I was stubborn at the time and said NO I'm going to fix it, and then I told her what ipod? (so I could surprise her with it).
Anyway I broke up with her after that because of the waay she handled it at her end.
Worst reason I broke up with someone: he was drunk when I met him....but when he sobered up (I didn't date drunks), I realized he had very little personality and he started to become completely dependent on me.
Worst reason someone broke up with me: A girl he knew in high school contacted him on Facebook and admitted to having a crush all those years ago. In his mind, he saw her as the 17 year old girl he remembered and not the 40something woman she was...but he met me in my 40s, so that was as good as I ever got in his mind. She also had a job where she worked with famous people but he would talk like they were her friends and not that it was her job to cater to them (hotel industry).
Over a year later, and I still don't really know how to describe what she did. It's very difficult to sum up what she said, because it made so little sense. lol.:
We'd been best friends for over two years, talked constantly, knew everything about each other, flirted *all the time*, and had one of those relationships where we were just completely comfortable in talking about anything with the other, and everyone was constantly asking: "Are you two an item?". She was the one who first confessed deeper feelings than friendship. I let her know I'd been hopelessly smitten by her, but I'd be content with friendship, and I left it in her hands whether we stayed friends or tried something more. A few weeks later she brought it up again, and had decided she wanted more than friendship.
Fast forward a bit, and everything is going along well; pretty much as it did before, but we'd grown even closer if that was somehow possible, then without warning, she goes totally silent on me. And then after three days of my head on the chopping block, waiting for the ax to fall, she sends me a breakup letter *on facebook*.
She said how these are her thoughts, and how they're jumbled, but make sense in a way, and how there's this song by the Spin Doctors, and how there's a line about something of the heart, and how oddly she forgets the entire rest of the song, and... Yeah, it kind of went on vaguely like that for a bit, then she took a complete 180 on everything she'd ever said about our friendship and relationship. It was like it was written by a total different person.
Then she blamed God for all of it, and started actually preaching at me; as if my faith was so shallow that her dumping me was going to destroy my relationship with God
As far as actual reasons go, she said that she'd been going through dry seasons spiritually (which is not what she'd said the entire time I'd known her), and that it was all about choices, and how instead of doing things like she used to, she'd been... doing "other things" (like spending time with me). So reading between the jumbled lines, she basically said I'd been a cancer in her life; sucking her dry and slowly killing her.
So that's what she said without saying by way of hinting without hinting. lol. But it was all a crock to make herself feel better, because she couldn't admit the truth. I didn't find this out until recently, but in talking with a mutual friend, I learned that basically, though she'd committed to me, she had kept her options open behind my back, and then dumped me for another guy.
My relationship had went really well, we never had an argument, we talked about everything and I completely without a doubt felt he was "the one". As did my Mom, and everyone else who knew us. Nine months down the road, things still going well, felt like we were moving forward to our future. One night after, I felt, a great conversations, he apparently wakes up 2 hrs later by God Himself, with this undenying feeling that God was telling him that nope... we weren't meant to be together, that after nine months of what we completely (or maybe it had only been me?) felt was God putting us together, was false. That what it actually was was God getting us through this year and we had served our purpose in Him. That we were now to go our separate ways.
Mine was also God related. After 2 hrs of sleeping, he wakes up to "God telling him that we had served His will and purpose" and basically our time was over.
Over a year later, and I still don't really know how to describe what she did. It's very difficult to sum up what she said, because it made so little sense. lol.:
We'd been best friends for over two years, talked constantly, knew everything about each other, flirted *all the time*, and had one of those relationships where we were just completely comfortable in talking about anything with the other, and everyone was constantly asking: "Are you two an item?". She was the one who first confessed deeper feelings than friendship. I let her know I'd been hopelessly smitten by her, but I'd be content with friendship, and I left it in her hands whether we stayed friends or tried something more. A few weeks later she brought it up again, and had decided she wanted more than friendship.
Fast forward a bit, and everything is going along well; pretty much as it did before, but we'd grown even closer if that was somehow possible, then without warning, she goes totally silent on me. And then after three days of my head on the chopping block, waiting for the ax to fall, she sends me a breakup letter *on facebook*.
She said how these are her thoughts, and how they're jumbled, but make sense in a way, and how there's this song by the Spin Doctors, and how there's a line about something of the heart, and how oddly she forgets the entire rest of the song, and... Yeah, it kind of went on vaguely like that for a bit, then she took a complete 180 on everything she'd ever said about our friendship and relationship. It was like it was written by a total different person.
Then she blamed God for all of it, and started actually preaching at me; as if my faith was so shallow that her dumping me was going to destroy my relationship with God
As far as actual reasons go, she said that she'd been going through dry seasons spiritually (which is not what she'd said the entire time I'd known her), and that it was all about choices, and how instead of doing things like she used to, she'd been... doing "other things" (like spending time with me). So reading between the jumbled lines, she basically said I'd been a cancer in her life; sucking her dry and slowly killing her.
So that's what she said without saying by way of hinting without hinting. lol. But it was all a crock to make herself feel better, because she couldn't admit the truth. I didn't find this out until recently, but in talking with a mutual friend, I learned that basically, though she'd committed to me, she had kept her options open behind my back, and then dumped me for another guy.
Wow, that is disgusting and horrible. Where do people who break up with others come up with this stuff? Why not just be honest?! She had no right to say half of that stuff to you. She very clearly had some issues.
Ladies and Gentlemen, I am very sorry that you all went through such garbage.
He likes rock music, I cant stand it. It gives me a headache.
He dissed Carpenters, my favourite band.
We not even going to try to date. Lol.
Most guys dont really give a reason why they will no longer go out with me. They dont have to, maybe they found someone else, but then i didnt get too attached to them to be hurt. Or i try not to. Although when it first happened it made me sad to think someone else was better. But then i think God has a match for me and Hes the one he will bring us together on his timing.
Actually sometimes its a bit of a relief cos being with someone all the time isnt always a bed of roses. I dont like thorns anyway. I think I prefer solitude.
Some people think this is crazy, esp the cute young psychiatrist that you find out have a crush on you. Ok that one blows the mind a bit. But that relationship is doctor to patient in the hospital! He wrote me a letter and everything.
To this day I dont know what that was all about. Years later this haunts me. Was i in love or was it just the drugs?
I only had 1 ex-GF. And in all honesty we broke up because of faults from both of us. So in no way am I blaming her for the whole thing. But one of the reason was that I refused to have pre-marital sex with her. Once again this was just one of the reasons.
On the other hand I have casually dated quite a few ladies. These very short relationships ends after 1 or a few dates. These doesn't count as break ups since we weren't BF/GF. But the reasons are:
1) I am very busy now: My friends wants to hang out. My parents need me. My church and job got very busy. (By far biggest reason/excuse. A good 90%.)
2) My standards are too high. I get bored with most guys very rapidly. I want a guy who really impresses me. (One lady told me to my face like that. )
As for my reasoning for ending these relationships, here is usually what I say.
1) Sorry I don't want to lead you on. So I will be clear here. Can we stay friends? I had fun spending time with you. But I just do not feel that kind of feelings and emotions. You are a very nice person! Don't worry you will find someone.
My relationship had went really well, we never had an argument, we talked about everything and I completely without a doubt felt he was "the one". As did my Mom, and everyone else who knew us. Nine months down the road, things still going well, felt like we were moving forward to our future. One night after, I felt, a great conversations, he apparently wakes up 2 hrs later by God Himself, with this undenying feeling that God was telling him that nope... we weren't meant to be together, that after nine months of what we completely (or maybe it had only been me?) felt was God putting us together, was false. That what it actually was was God getting us through this year and we had served our purpose in Him. That we were now to go our separate ways.
Sounds like he is from a Pentecostal church. I know his lady who was dating a Pentecostal guy. After just a few months he suddenly told her that God told him to marry her. She was like uh no we just started. Then the BF bought the GF to an elder of the Pentecostal church and the elder said God told her that the BF and the GF should marry. The GF was like uh I will think about it but right now is too early. The GF even told the BF flat out that God never told her anything about that.
A few weeks later the BF told the GF that, since she refused to obey God's will, God now commends him to break up with her. And that's what he did.
Sounds like he is from a Pentecostal church. I know his lady who was dating a Pentecostal guy. After just a few months he suddenly told her that God told him to marry her. She was like uh no we just started. Then the BF bought the GF to an elder of the Pentecostal church and the elder said God told her that the BF and the GF should marry. The GF was like uh I will think about it but right now is too early. The GF even told the BF flat out that God never told her anything about that.
A few weeks later the BF told the GF that, since she refused to obey God's will, God now commends him to break up with her. And that's what he did.
