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Hi all. I come from a mixed conservative Protestant background. My parents raised me in relative freedom, first in WELS churches, and then later with a heavy Pentecostal vibe (emotional worship, healings, visions, and emphasis on signs of the End Times). I also encountered a group of extremely patriarchal Calvinists who confused me further with their focus on women's roles, which my parents found legalistic. However, these Calvinists seemed to have a deeper and more analytic grasp on Scripture, so I have been torn for a number of years as to which path is the most Scriptural. Currently, I'm LCMS, who I think have more balance about these matters. Still, I welcome feedback.
A bit more about my background, for context:
I met my husband at a time when I wasn't in the faith. He can best be described these days as a "noble agnostic." He gives me choice in my faith, but as a secular liberal, he really hates patriarchal systems, so my concern about submission etc. seems foreign to him.
Since the turmoil with my Pentecostal-ish family and the Calvinists, I've tried to pray and study Scriptures and theology, and I believe conservative Lutheranism has the best balance. But I've seen diversity in the understanding and application of women's roles here, too. My current church and elder pastor warn strongly against those who would view women as property (which seems to be the way my former Calvinist Vision Forum friends viewed women). At the same time, they admirably stand against the secular political left, which would wrongly allow women to change gender, dominate (or else see themselves as equal in every way) to men, make careers their lifelong obsession, etc.
I'm just trying to get the women role thing in Biblical perspective. I've been told I'm unusually logical and systematic for a woman. I also view sex unusually, which caused all kinds of awkwardness especially in the Calvinist circles, where women are generally viewed as asexual robots who need to learn to submit to their husband's desires. Well I'm a nympho who loves handsome men (including my husband, who is the only one upon whom I act upon my desires), and I won't apologize for TMI here because of the dogmatism of the Calvinists, who I believe were too preoccupied with generalities instead of individual variation in this realm. Yes, I understand men are more tempted by sex than women, but again, I'm a nympho, and I don't need lectures on how women need to submit even if they're not "in the mood." I'm ALWAYS in the mood!
Lastly, my husband likes me to work at least part-time. Calvinists often forbid women to work almost entirely. The Lutherans appear to be less dogmatic about this, other than one guy I saw on Facebook who claimed to be LCMS and yet was really against women's right to vote, their right to work, etc. He definitely came across more conservative Calvinist in this realm, but that's not how the pastor at my LCMS views things.
Any further insight into these matters would be appreciated, especially with Scripture in context (everyone loves to quote Scripture in support of their views, but Calvinists in particular often think they have a monopoly on contextual interpretation of Scripture, hence their denouncement of my father and others who they think view Scripture too liberally).
A bit more about my background, for context:
I met my husband at a time when I wasn't in the faith. He can best be described these days as a "noble agnostic." He gives me choice in my faith, but as a secular liberal, he really hates patriarchal systems, so my concern about submission etc. seems foreign to him.
Since the turmoil with my Pentecostal-ish family and the Calvinists, I've tried to pray and study Scriptures and theology, and I believe conservative Lutheranism has the best balance. But I've seen diversity in the understanding and application of women's roles here, too. My current church and elder pastor warn strongly against those who would view women as property (which seems to be the way my former Calvinist Vision Forum friends viewed women). At the same time, they admirably stand against the secular political left, which would wrongly allow women to change gender, dominate (or else see themselves as equal in every way) to men, make careers their lifelong obsession, etc.
I'm just trying to get the women role thing in Biblical perspective. I've been told I'm unusually logical and systematic for a woman. I also view sex unusually, which caused all kinds of awkwardness especially in the Calvinist circles, where women are generally viewed as asexual robots who need to learn to submit to their husband's desires. Well I'm a nympho who loves handsome men (including my husband, who is the only one upon whom I act upon my desires), and I won't apologize for TMI here because of the dogmatism of the Calvinists, who I believe were too preoccupied with generalities instead of individual variation in this realm. Yes, I understand men are more tempted by sex than women, but again, I'm a nympho, and I don't need lectures on how women need to submit even if they're not "in the mood." I'm ALWAYS in the mood!
Lastly, my husband likes me to work at least part-time. Calvinists often forbid women to work almost entirely. The Lutherans appear to be less dogmatic about this, other than one guy I saw on Facebook who claimed to be LCMS and yet was really against women's right to vote, their right to work, etc. He definitely came across more conservative Calvinist in this realm, but that's not how the pastor at my LCMS views things.
Any further insight into these matters would be appreciated, especially with Scripture in context (everyone loves to quote Scripture in support of their views, but Calvinists in particular often think they have a monopoly on contextual interpretation of Scripture, hence their denouncement of my father and others who they think view Scripture too liberally).