Will all Christian Husbands Cheat?

[If Not For Grace]

Not all men cheat. But neither is the precent close to zero

50% of Christian marriages end in divorce too.

People cheat for the same reason they do anything else, because they give in to temptation. Once a deed is done the 1st time it becomes easier the second time and so on as any habit (good or bad).

It's intriguing for alot of the population to do something "forbidden".
Those who come in contact on personal levels with members of the opposite sex (like ministers, truck drivers,sales staff, rock stars, nurses, doctors, law enforcement) frequently and often on more personal levels or "hero" get more chances than some other people (notice I'm not just talking about men here) might. More exposure-more chances to
fail at being faithful.


The only question is whether you want to stay or leave-change can happen but the truth is it is not likely. Most of us have our "weak" points and it takes serious want to (not got caught itis as I call it) & a coup0le of re-lapses to change anything. The percentage of "cheaters" who become faithful is about the same as for drug dealers who are rehabillitated about 1 in 30. So If you stay I would try & have realistic expecations including the fact that you
now have to "square" your chances of STD's by every one he has slept w/and Their histories for 5 years
minimum (dormat stages for HIV/Aids, even hep C can lay dormat) I hope you have been tested. People can be carriers & not be infected themselves.

Good Luck to you-Being betrayed by your spouse is the utmost bad emotional experience one can bear. You will get better. You already show promise by joining a support group. Keep going-regardless of what your spouse does. Just know you did cause nor can you control nor cure your spouse.

Love & Prayers
Grace

 

[Rudolph Hucker]

I don't see a Christian husband or a non-Christian husband being any more or less likely cheat than a Christian wife.

FWIW, I do do see a Moslem or Hindu wife being less likely to cheat than a Christian wife.

 

[HIM_In_Me_In_HIM]

anymore?

 

[Rudolph Hucker]

The chattering classes are ....

 

[DZoolander]

Considering the OP was made nearly 2 years ago - probably not

 

[HIM_In_Me_In_HIM]

a CF website? are not the adminis (et al) Christianly offended,

averse to taking this kind of $$$ to promote demonic "ways?"

{i just saw it on ad box above....hmmm}

 

[dbhost]

I'm not intentionally trying to be cynical here but I recently discovered that my Christian husband of 16 years has had affairs with over a dozen women over the course of our marriage. The last one was not even 2 years ago. (I still don't think he has fully disclosed to me the full truth).

I'm in a support group for betrayed women and going to a professional counselor as well as meeting with our pastor and his wife.

I'm so disheartened at how many Christian husbands (especially in ministry) cheat on their wives. Is this just something to be expected from men? I mean am I really that ignorant to think that a man who professes to love God would remain faithful to his wife?

I have always been there, available for my husband! I'm against the feminist movement in the church and believe that the wife should be submissive (not mousy) to her husband so it has not been because I'm not ready and willing to meet his needs.

My heart goes out to you in this painful time. I did want to reassure you that not all Christian men are unfaithful, in very much the same way that not all Christian women are unfaithful. My ex wife who claims to be a Christian woman left me for the man she married afterwards. (By my previous associate pastor no less). She had no fewer than 8 affairs that I had direct physical evidence of, and at least 6 more that I had strong suspicion of. (She actually kept a diary of this garbage).

In the entire 13 years of marriage to her, I had not once laid a hand on another woman in anything beyond a friendship fashion. (the obligatory hug at church sort of thing...), so physically, no I was never unfaithful.

Having said that, I will say this. I was tempted, and if Jesus meant what he said in Matthew 5:28.... "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."

I'm guilty. And in turn I believe what he said applies to reversing the genders... And while I can not speak for women, and I certainly do NOT claim to speak for all men, but I suspect we all fail there. And now that I have remarried it is my nightly prayer that my physical, and emotional desire be only for my wife.

 

[chaz345]

50% of Christian marriages end in divorce too.

That may be true but the huge majority of divorces don't involve adultery.

 

[Created2Write]

Husbands cheat far more often than wives. Let's keep the record straight and fair. I'm sorry to hear of your experience, but it doesn't change the fact that boys need to be taught from day one to respect females.

Actually this is not true. It's been proven that women are far more likely to have a physical affair than men.

 

[JaneFW]

They overwhelming majority of husbands cheat, and this needs to be addressed by the church. Your case is an exception, but it doesn't mean that most women have your experience.

22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives.
14 percent of married women have had affairs at least once during their married lives. Infidelity Statistics, Cheating Spouse Statistics - WomanSavers

Conservative estimates are that 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an extramarital affair. DearPeggy.com - Who has Affairs - and Why

Statistics identify that according to the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy, approximately 60 percent of married men and 50 percent of married women will, at some point in their marriage, have an extramarital affair. Emotional Affairs - What Percentage of Men Cheat?

Conservative estimates are that 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an extramarital affair. How Prevalent are Affairs?

It's kind of scary.

 

[Conservativation]

Yea...we all will

 

[hijklmnop]

Actually this is not true. It's been proven that women are far more likely to have a physical affair than men.

I've never heard/seen that statistic before. I've always seen the statistics that Jane posted...60-ish percent of men and a little less for women. Not that it matters all that much. The point is, it would seem that statistically, MOST marriages will suffer from adultery at some point. It is very sad.

 

[Romanseight2005]

My heart goes out to you in this painful time. I did want to reassure you that not all Christian men are unfaithful, in very much the same way that not all Christian women are unfaithful. My ex wife who claims to be a Christian woman left me for the man she married afterwards. (By my previous associate pastor no less). She had no fewer than 8 affairs that I had direct physical evidence of, and at least 6 more that I had strong suspicion of. (She actually kept a diary of this garbage).

In the entire 13 years of marriage to her, I had not once laid a hand on another woman in anything beyond a friendship fashion. (the obligatory hug at church sort of thing...), so physically, no I was never unfaithful.

Having said that, I will say this. I was tempted, and if Jesus meant what he said in Matthew 5:28.... "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart."

I'm guilty. And in turn I believe what he said applies to reversing the genders... And while I can not speak for women, and I certainly do NOT claim to speak for all men, but I suspect we all fail there. And now that I have remarried it is my nightly prayer that my physical, and emotional desire be only for my wife.

That is big! I have never lusted after another man, since I have been married, and I do think that one spouse lusting, while the other is faithful sexually in the heart and mind, can be a devastating disparity in the marriage.