Even if your wife asks you about the budget, that's not a bad thing. It's none of your nephew's business how you manage the finances in your marriage.
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That just sounds childish and like a challenge, and evidently they do know somehow, so it leaves them open to say "yeah, we do. You make $xxx" and that would probably make him feel even worse. Better to figure out with his wife - bearing in mind this is her family of birth - how best to tackle this issue. Or to let her handle it, because her handling it shows them that she is one with her husband, and that she will not let them be offensive to him.
Congratulations on your marriage. If that were me, it would mean the world to me if it were my husband that corrected his nephew (or anyone) that was making comments about income being his. What was your wife's reaction, BTW?Thanks guys. Not every man can come home to a beautiful wife and dinner already cooked every single day. I need to let little stuff like this go. You're right, it's hard sometime especially when you're stressed out about something but I'll learn to pray and let go.
I will speak up next time and put them in their spot(in a nice way of course)
I was very angry at her nephew but felt it was out of my place to yell at him.
She was jokingly asking if she can get a haircut because we both understand that we have to communicate when it comes to our budget so she had no intention of hurting me.
FYI. We've been married 8 months.
That's what I'm wondering as well.....what the two of you make is your own business. Questions about spending money should be kept private, if possible, too (IMO).Why do all these people know how much you earn? My family (and my husband's) don't know how much we earn. They know our earning potential, but not the actual figure. It may be a cultural thing, but it's considered rude where I live to ask how much someone earns. I know you can't erase their memories, but for the future, I just think not talking about it with everyone might help stop the comments.
Better to figure out with his wife - bearing in mind this is her family of birth - how best to tackle this issue. Or to let her handle it, because her handling it shows them that she is one with her husband, and that she will not let them be offensive to him.
You know what? It didn't even occur to me that his wife asking if she could get a haircut would be about anything other than spending money.
Then you need to share the full picture. I know it is still early in your marriage, and that's why I think it is important to establish good communication and openness. If writing her a letter helps, then go for it, but really commit to explaining your full feelings.She understood some parts of it because I didn't really go into details and showed the whole picture about how I feel like I've been sharing with you guys that's the thing.