I have NEVER been so confused in my life. Well I know everything happens for a reason. Anyway one of my so called bestfriends who I thought was the closest friend I ever had in my life stopped talking to me. He wouldn't speak to me so I had no idea why. Well anyway after I went through the whole depressing time of my life, I finally felt like God was healing my heart and I felt like I could finally move on. I want to move on and I feel like I'm in the process, but everywhere I go people are always talking to me about him and asking me questions about him because they know how close we used to be. The reason why I find it most difficult to move on is because I have actually seen him a couple of times too. I know we live in the same community, but we see each other in the most unexpected places. One day before I went to church I saw him at the gas station and we just happened to be filling our gas at the same time. We didn't say anything to each other. The second time I saw him on Christmas day and we just happened to be watching the same movie at the same time, sitting in the same theatre. This time when I saw him I just couldn't hold myself together. People are telling me that they think God is trying to teach me and my ex friend something. They say it's not just a coincidence and God is doing something, but I just don't understand. God knows I'm trying to move on. Why is God doing this?? Well the only reason I can think of that God is doing this is because I know deep in my heart that I can't COMPLETELY move on without finding out why my friend stopped talking to me. Maybe I should try speaking to him the next time I see him. What do you think??
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wonderwaleye
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Dear KemiOmar
Are you sure you both are JUST friends and there isn't anything more??? Either on just one or both sides???
Before I know that it would be FOOLISH to go on. I will be waiting for your reply.
ALWAYS REMEMBER:
X Even though you can't see him, GOD is there!!! O
( click on the x and drag to the O ) ( then see who is with you ) steven
Are you sure you both are JUST friends and there isn't anything more??? Either on just one or both sides???
Before I know that it would be FOOLISH to go on. I will be waiting for your reply.
ALWAYS REMEMBER:
X Even though you can't see him, GOD is there!!! O
( click on the x and drag to the O ) ( then see who is with you ) steven
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Beautiful Fireball
Tomorrow is another day
Have you attempted to speak with your friend? Does he seem receptive to it?
Honestly, you may just have to live with the fact that you will never know what really happened. My advice would be to attempt once to contact him, whether it be through e-mail or a phone call. If he does not seem receptive to it, then back off. Being pushy will just make matters worse. I am sorry you're in this situation, and I pray that God will give you a clear answer on the best solution
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Elijah2
No weapons formed against me will prosper.
Well my dear sister, I suggest that you contact your friend asap, and ask him why he had dumped and why he is avoiding you.
You never know, but you may have said something to another person, a friend, in a simple statement and it got back to him. The old saying is, "So and so said this, and so and so said that!" Good old-fashion Christian backbiting and gossip.
Of course God is involved, that is why you have been running into him all the time.
Ring him and ask him straight to the point, by saying, "Have I offended you?"
It's obvious that there is something in the background, and like most misunderstandings it comes through back-biting and gossiping and saying the wrong words unkowingly.
Love in Christ
You never know, but you may have said something to another person, a friend, in a simple statement and it got back to him. The old saying is, "So and so said this, and so and so said that!" Good old-fashion Christian backbiting and gossip.
Of course God is involved, that is why you have been running into him all the time.
Ring him and ask him straight to the point, by saying, "Have I offended you?"
It's obvious that there is something in the background, and like most misunderstandings it comes through back-biting and gossiping and saying the wrong words unkowingly.
Love in Christ
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we were really close friends. we went out one time when I first moved to Texas in the 8th grade and we became really close in 11th grade and a couple of days before I graduated we went out again and that was the end. I could care less about the whole realtionship, but I cherished our friendship!!Dear KemiOmar
Are you sure you both are JUST friends and there isn't anything more??? Either on just one or both sides???
Before I know that it would be FOOLISH to go on. I will be waiting for your reply.
ALWAYS REMEMBER:
X Even though you can't see him, GOD is there!!! O
( click on the x and drag to the O ) ( then see who is with you ) steven
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wonderwaleye
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Dear KemiOmar
It is possible your post is your answer. LOVE can demand more. When someone is hurt bad they tend to stay away from what hurt them.
BEST FRIENDS??? Best friends make GOOD WIVES!!!
JUST REMEMBER:
X Even though you can't see him, GOD is there!!! O
( click on the x and drag to the O ) ( then see who is with you ) steven
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hey hun, i'd talk to him. you'll regret not otherwise, give it a try, at least you can say you tried that way
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Well, if you guys went out, I think there might be some feelings there... If you don't have them, _he_ might.. So if you just wanna be friends, he's hurt by that... Sometimes you just can't be friends with someone if there have been romantic feelings involved (even if they'd wish it so), I'm in that situation right now myself..
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