Women should stay virgins until they're at a point in their lives where they would not be tempted to terminate an unplanned pregnancy. (If you never want kids, get your tubes tied.) For most women, this point is marriage.
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keith99 said:As to the original question.
If a woman want to marry a man who is a virgin she would do well to be a virgin herself as it will most likely increase her chances.
Men would do well to think the same way.
^this.
Makes a lot of sense.
If you desire someone similar temperament to you, then try your best to remain sexually responsible prior to marriage/ engagement.
Just don't put-down those that aren't following that same path as they have a right to choose their life's direction.
Conversely, those that are sexually active shouldn't intimidate or try to make like those that aren't sexually active are somehow "lesser" than the non-virgins...
citizenthom said:My experience has been that women who wait until marriage to have sex AND have a healthy attitude about sex going in have a much, much, MUCH healthier and higher sex drive within marriage than women who do not; which makes for happier wives, happier husbands, and more harmonious homes. One could speculate as to why this is, but it's obviously a good trend.It's an interesting observation, but personally I've never known someone with a healthy attitude towards sex who -didn't- have sex before marriage. (Healthy = Understanding the risks and how to minimize them, not feeling ashamed of their sexual desires, expecting to be treated with love and respect by their partners, etc.) I'm not saying none exist, but it seems that most people with a healthy, guiltless, unafraid view of sex who are working off accurate knowledge of the risks (not the horror show that abstinence-only education so often pushes) and are in a long-term relationship simply don't have a lot of reasons not to do it.
2. He wants you to offer your husband on your wedding night something that he will cherish with great thankfulness and total appreciation for what you offer him.Well, I'd rather have a wife that's not a virgin, so she already knows how things work.
its the best feeling knowing that both me and my wife where virgins to know that we where both our firsts and only as we plan to be married for life and plan to have a great sex life together... we see people who have sex before they marry and often they divorce later in life or break up cause there relationship is only sex and not true love. i feel god made sex that way he made it to be wonderful when you are married. but if you try before your married he makes it hard for you.
well its in the bible and its what my pastor kept teaching me is that you save yourself til you get married. so both me and my wife waited til we married before having sex. i know in todays would its hard to wait til your married with peer pressue and all.
Unfortunately, it seems that any time a television show has a Christian character in it, that person is always portrayed as obnoxious and/or crazy. Aunt Esther, from Sanford and Son, is among the more *likeable* examples, and she was depicted as a loudmouthed grouch with no sense of humor who disapproved of anything that looks like fun.
This was, and is, done deliberately. Hollywood doesn't want to show a Christian as someone who is happy, agreeable, or enjoyable company, lest someone might consider becoming one. Wouldn't want that to happen, would they?
I guess that´s why atheists have about the lowest reputation imaginable in the USofA. Talk about a counterproductive Hollywood strategy (or - more likely - a conspiracy theory on your part).
Unfortunately, it seems that any time a television show has a Christian character in it, that person is always portrayed as obnoxious and/or crazy.
Of course.What if you don't have a choice...rape removes the chance to remain a virgin by choice...young lives have been devastated by rape because that choice was taken from them. Some can move on and live reasonable lives, but many others have a very difficult time having "normal" intimate relationships. Molestation and rape of children and teens has life long effects.
That rape, by a family friend who was moving out of state, really messed her up.Some can move on and live reasonable lives, but many others have a very difficult time having "normal" intimate relationships. Molestation and rape of children and teens has life long effects.
If a women cheats on her husband before they get married, then it is going to be more difficult for her NOT to cheat on the husband after they get married. Also we are told that the two become one. So to be joined with someone that is not your husband or wife could cause people to be fragmented. This presents issues and problems people really do not need to deal with.]why should women stay virgins until they get married?
Another popular myth. Although as long as we are on the subject. Is that why men have to pay alimony and half their retirement check, because the women was his "property"?It is a notion from a time in which women were considered property
If a women cheats on her husband before they get married, then it is going to be more difficult for her NOT to cheat on the husband after they get married. Also we are told that the two become one. So to be joined with someone that is not your husband or wife could cause people to be fragmented. This presents issues and problems people really do not need to deal with.