As you probably know, I don't believe in such a God. I know you've quoted passages that suggest He is but I believe al these have alternative meanings. I don't want to go through them one by one because I'd have to do a lot of study to do that but also I doubt it would make much difference anyway. We tend to believe in the God that benefits us the most, ironically even if it's one that makes us unhappy. There are hidden pay offs to being unhappy - we don't have to take the risks that happiness inherently brings with it for instance. I'm not saying that you don't have real problems to deal with btw.
I first read the bible like actually read it cover to cover, after I became disabled.
I'd already had the "everything is Sunshine and Rainbows with God" idea shattered, and reading scripture.. just showed how severe the sovereignty of God could be, reading that even the men who were close to God, like the prophets, were at times very unhappy people, and even Jesus was described in THE "this is the chapter that Jews won't even read because it points right at Jesus" Suffering Messiah Chapter, Isaiah 53, as a man of sorrows, acquainted with grief, and at Gethsemane.. sweat blood, begging for God to find another way if it were at all possible, but then resigned Himself to the fate of the cross. He went willingly, obediently, to die for us, but it's not like He was skipping and singing joyfully all along the way. The Apostle "count it all Joy" Paul, wrote that if there was no resurrection, then we would be counted among all men most miserable.
I have a feeling Paul was just good at putting on a front hiding the suffering he must have gone through, imprisoned, lashed, stoned, shipwrecked, and ultimately executed.
Reading through the bible has shown me.. that God will use you for His glory, no matter what it does to you, and it won't always make you happy. But what are we to do otherwise, we're dust, and cannot question our maker.
Romans 9
20 Nay but, O man, who art thou that repliest against God? Shall the thing formed say to him that formed it, Why hast thou made me thus?
21 Hath not the potter power over the clay, of the same lump to make one vessel unto honour, and another unto dishonour?
and never forget.. when Job, suffering Job, questioned why God had made him suffer... this was the answer:
Job 38
1 Then the Lord answered Job out of the whirlwind, and said,
2 Who is this that darkeneth counsel by words without knowledge?
3 Gird up now thy loins like a man; for I will demand of thee, and answer thou me.
4 Where wast thou when I laid the foundations of the earth? declare, if thou hast understanding.
In other words "who are you to question me?"