Why Is It Wrong?

[abi19]

Why is it wrong to cut yourself? I mean, I know it can be disturbing to people who love you...and your body is the temple of the Lord and all that...but really the only person you're hurting is yourself. And it's always so much worse for me when I don't cut. It makes me feel like I'm going crazy. Nobody knows I do it, and I hide the cuts real well. So why is it wrong? Isn't it my body? Just a question...
I know it's not good for me. But I mean...lots of things aren't. And it really helps. Just wondering.

 

[Renwolf]

I totally understand what you're saying. It used to be that not wanting more scars was good motivation for me to try to stop, but lately I care less and less about the scars. So why even bother fighing the temptation? I'm going to give in to it eventually, right? I might as well do it now and save myself the frustration and feel better sooner.

Here's my way of thinking, though. Cutting isn't about the physical damage. If you're cutting yourself, it means that there's something big time going on below the surface.

I've had mixed experiences with therapy, but one of the things I got out of it was that "normal", well adjusted, emotionally stable, happy people don't cut themselves. It seems obvious, but it really struck a chord with me. I'd never thought of it that way before. Most people, when they're stressed or upset, don't ever think that the way to feel better is to hurt themselves.

So if you're cutting, it means you have some sort of problem somewhere and that problem needs to be addressed. Maybe a good support group is enough. Maybe therapy will help. Maybe even medications. Cutting doesn't help. All it does is mask the symptoms so you can keep surviving day to day, but as long as you keep depending on cutting, you're never going to be able to learn any other way of coping with life. There are other ways of coping with life.

Is there anyone you trust enough to talk to in real life? Take care of yourself, ok? It's your body and your mind and neither deserve to be hurt.

 

[bassdrum1]

i hear you. i'm still struggling with cutting and i feel awful when i don't cut. that's when i reley on my friends to get me though it. yesterday i wanted to cut so bad that i almost did it. i called one of my friends who wasnt at her phone. luckly i fell asleep and couldn't do it. she called back and that's when i woke up. she told me she loved me. i found out its hard to cut when they say they love you and care about you. glad that u r in their life. it really does hurt them once they find out.

 

[alilsa]

Why is cutting wrong? I don't know, maybe the possibility of accidentally cutting too deep and not getting it to stop in time and dying from bleeding to death may be a possibility that it is wrong. I know, cutters don't generally plan to cut too deep. Like you can really control how deep you cut and guarantee that it won't kill you. I thought I could control my cutting and burning too but now, I don't even know where some of the cuts, burns and bruises came from because I blocked stuff out and didn't feel it. Maybe it is wrong to SI too when you don't think anybody cares but you may be surprised to find out how many people actually care that you SI. They just may not know what to say to help you stop but still they care. Maybe this was not too graphic to post.