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Why I stop hoping online for a mate

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hockeysistah12 said:
After 1,000 tries and meetings and everything else and not living up to become a "perfect christian woman who does not measure up to anyone because I cannot fit the perfect christian mode," I am giving up finding someone online.

You are wondering why I'm am posting this thread? I am about to give up this online dating fairy tale because I lost hope in ever finding someone.

I've lost hope because all people are online are either dealing with mental health issues, pretenders, people who have sexual orientation issues. I wonder if there is all there is online, where are the christian men, the real persons who dearly love christ without no compomise, are the leaders in the home? And yes, some will tell me that you should find them in the church, and you know what? the church has its issues too.

But if anyone can convince me otherwise not to give up finding or even giving my dream of ever getting married at my age, please tell me why because I just need some encouragment right now about this issue.

you know, everyone has issues (even if they are small). I think that's what makes us human. If we didn't have issues, Christ wouldn't have had to die for us. I think it is important to find someone who knows Christ and seems compatible with you, then you both can work on the issues together.
 
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I am so glad I read this thread, I too have been stuck in this "online dating scene" and I'm about to give it up also. Been doing it for almost four years now, and I never seem to meet someone real... know what I mean? I mean anyone can be whoever they want to be on the internet, ya never really know the person you are contacting or IM'img with really.

And like someone here said, I have not met not even ONE christian man on there. So where are the good christian men seeking real christian ladies??? I dont think they are online LOL. They might pretend to be christian or whatever, but none of them has held true. I mean they will start cussing or start with preverted stuff with me.

I'm not desperate, I live in a small town and I know practically every one who lives here LOL.

One man I met and actually dated for six months... yeah turned out he was separated. LONGGGG story, but needless to say when I found this out, I though I was gonna get sick right there in front of him, and I was shaking all over... it was terrible.

Maybe I need to just let go and let God :prayer:
 
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I actually met my "new bf" online last Tuesday.... I know that sounds weird b/c I havent' known him that long at all...but he's a really super guy. I met him online tuesday, hung out w/ him wednesday, thurs, fri, sat. he came over and met my parents and talked about me going to church w/ him on sunday, sunday i went to church w/ him.

He's actually only the 2nd person I've ever met in person from the internet; he wants to be a youth pastor and he seems like an awesome christian guy.

Try Christianmingle.com
 
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am I the only one offended by this?

At first, that did sound kinda crazy...but as long as yer open about it and tell the people that yer not "seeing them exclusively" it's ok. I mean..he didn't say that he "has 3 girl friends" from there, just that he was "dating" 3 girls from there...

There's no set definition for "dating" it could mean "interviewing people for the position of girl friend"..
 
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Terri12345 said:
At first, that did sound kinda crazy...but as long as yer open about it and tell the people that yer not "seeing them exclusively" it's ok. I mean..he didn't say that he "has 3 girl friends" from there, just that he was "dating" 3 girls from there...

There's no set definition for "dating" it could mean "interviewing people for the position of girl friend"..

well, I still think that is wrong...
 
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JPPT1974 said:
I tried online dating briefly but felt I needed to meet the person face-to-face in order to get to know that person all together.

lol, tell me about it... lets just say I know from experience... :cry:
 
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