Why has God punished me?

[drich0150]

I am born with bad genes. I lack the masculinity. God made me socially anxious. God gave me bad looks. God gave me a high pitched voice. God made it so that everyone makes fun of me for the fact how I look and speak. Why did God do this?

Why did God give other boys good puberty growth and have them have a good looking head shape with high testosterone and was I not gifted this?

I had to 'grow into my look as well.' had a bad stutter then 'blessed' with the look of being 1/2 of two races.

Looking back I say it was to keep me humble. to keep me from going down the paths I wanted to . to keep me from being one of the shallow people that would be the first to make fun of someone like me. to keep me from taking the easy way out, to help me earn and later see and be ready to cease opportunity when it presented itself. Granted I did not grow up like everyone else I grew up much faster and matured really fast as well. school slowed me down but by 25 I had my second business and things really began to take off while the rest of my peer group at 25 was still partying.

One thing I learn is you can not be special if you are like everyone else.

 

[Handmaid for Jesus]

One thing I learn is you can not be special if you are like everyone else.

Amen!

Titus2:14 Who gave himself for us, that he might redeem us from all iniquity, and purify unto himself a peculiar people, zealous of good works.

 

[buck1hunter]

I've been there and I understand how mundane everyone can be. You see, the flesh and spirit are two different things. We're all equal when it comes to the spirit. People who don't know God can't see this. They determine your worth by your looks and what you have. This is wrong and you don't need to surround yourself with people like that. There's another way. Find a hobby, a group, or something at your local church where you can meet people who have the same mindset as you. They're out there. You've just got to try.

 

[Steven Wood]

I am born with bad genes. I lack the masculinity. God made me socially anxious. God gave me bad looks. God gave me a high pitched voice. God made it so that everyone makes fun of me for the fact how I look and speak. Why did God do this?

Why did God give other boys good puberty growth and have them have a good looking head shape with high testosterone and was I not gifted this?

I've gotta tell you brother, Though I feel for you, and nothing will really give you comfort when other may bully you and hurt you, you are in a better position than ANY of the people that you may feel envious of. Everything that you have and will ever get you will fight for. You will appreciate everything and everyone in your life, and you will always know that the loved ones in your life truly care for you. You will have the character that all of those bullies and jerks will NEVER obtain. I am socially anxious as well. I am an introvert but not because GOD made me that way, because i can not stand the society we live in or the people that make it up. Please remember this. Many people were born the exact opposite of you and they consider everything you wished you had an affliction. They may wish to be just like you. I am not sure what your beliefs are but I'll say this because it's my belief. Lucifer was made the most beautiful and adorned. He had secret knowledge that other angels did not know. Because of this, he became cocky and arrogant. He was filled with conceit and thought he was better than even his maker. What happened to him? There was nothing physically attractive about Jesus but because of his love, character, and nature, every decent person flocked to him while the evil, prideful, greedy, bullies mocked and hated him. Let your character shine through, Be kind and loving, and for the love of GOD, be proud and confident in yourself. Know that if you ever want to talk, I'll be here and I'd be proud to consider you a friend. Take this from someone who knows, I would rather have one person like yourself as a true friend than a million fake good for nothings that mock you because they know they have no redeeming qualities like you do. Stay strong my friend and GOD bless you.

 

[Steven Wood]

How?

This is very true. As a child a was over weight and a late bloomer. Even when I started to become a man my voice was still sort of high. I cant quite tell you how I deepened my voice but I can tell you what i did and maybe it will work for you. I was always a huge music fan and my favorite singers all had very deep, bass voices. I was sing along with them and try to sing as deep as I could to match them. A few years later, in my early 20's my voice became very deep and now I actually struggle to sing as high as the same artists that I tried so hard to imitate as a teenager. Most times I have to shout to be heard.

 

[Steven Wood]

@I-Love-God There have been quite a few people with high pitched voices who trained their voices and became quite famous. In the music industry, having a falsetto(high pitched) voice can be very profitable. Here is a video showing some famous falsettos. For the record, I disagree with some of the choices for the "best". LOL.My choice for number 1 would be Bobby DeBarge followed by his brother El.

Honestly now as a singer I am kind of envious of people like Justin timberlake, Ed Sheeran,and one of my very favorites, Chris stapleton. I have more or less a baritone voice with tendencies more towards a very deep base. As a child I wanted noting more than to sing bass but now I see that a high voice with goof control and falsetto training is beautiful.

 

[Handmaid for Jesus]

Honestly now as a singer I am kind of envious of people like Justin timberlake, Ed Sheeran,and one of my very favorites, Chris stapleton. I have more or less a baritone voice with tendencies more towards a very deep base. As a child I wanted noting more than to sing bass but now I see that a high voice with goof control and falsetto training is beautiful.

I know you meant good control and not goof control. . I agree. Here is a hauntingly beautiful by one of my favorite falsetto artists.

 

[Steven Wood]

Haha. Yes, good control. Darned smart phones. I got used to auto-correct lol. El Debarge? Is that the 80's group that sang rhythm
of the night?

 

[Handmaid for Jesus]

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Haha. Yes, good control. Darned smart phones. I got used to auto-correct lol. El Debarge? Is that the 80's group that sang rhythm
of the night?

The one and only! His brother Bobby was lead singer in the group called Switch, also had a nice falsetto.

 

[Steven Wood]

Very nice

 

[Grand_Commander_Zhou_Ziyu]

When I was a preteen, I was shorter than a lot of the kids of my mum's friends. She berated me for my short stature at the time, and said very hurtful things to me like how short people won't be liked, short people can't get girls, short people won't have kids, friends etc. It was very hurtful of someone who was supposed to care for me to not only FAIL to tell me that I am good for what I am, even by the standards of unbelievers though at that time I was also an unbeliever.

Now I'm 22 and at a perfectly normal height of 5'10. At the age of 15 I was 5'7, and she still thought I was short, she took me to a doctor, who told me I was at the average height for grown men in many countries, and I'd be considered above average in height in many countries. She thought: "That's [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]." Excuse my language but if there's one thing I've hardened my heart to it's these people that have used me, toyed me, and abused me, deriving satisfaction out of it because of how messed up and how utterly miserable their lives have been but they'd never admit it because it's a loss of pride.

So yeah, please remember God made you the way you are, and there's nothing inherently wrong with you. I don't care if my friend is a few inches taller or shorter than me, I don't care if you're made fun of by people who think they know better. If you're my friend, I won't abandon you and think less of you as long as you're good. Now, I hope that you can accept Christ at some point in your life and become Good. Best wishes, remember you were made to be this way. )

 

[DarkSoul999]

I am born with bad genes. I lack the masculinity. God made me socially anxious. God gave me bad looks. God gave me a high pitched voice. God made it so that everyone makes fun of me for the fact how I look and speak. Why did God do this?

Why did God give other boys good puberty growth and have them have a good looking head shape with high testosterone and was I not gifted this?

If your only problem in life is low testosterone then go see a doctor and get some medication to help with that.You can also take up weight lifting and attempt to fix that naturally. It is a lot of work but definitely beats spending all your time feeling sorry for yourself.

I find it hard to believe that this is your only problem. If it IS your only problem then go out in public and make friends with awkward flawed people. You can even marry an awkward flawed woman if you want.

Your perspective is very out of wack here...