Not to derail the thread (that was a joke) .... but just to comment on this statement right here .... if a person doesn't want to hear what they don't want to hear, and the Spirit is speaking ... I don't think it's a matter of being able to identify the Spirit's leadings verses your own hearts desires because it's very difficult ... I think it's a matter of *accepting* what the Spirit is saying instead of rationalizing, denying, or choosing to reject it away. The very difficult part is you making a choice to trust the Spirit or not.IF, of course, the Spirit so leads, and He sometimes won't, and the self-deceitfulness of our heart makes it VERY difficult to know. (We don't want to hear what we don't want to hear.)
Keith Green was married to Melody Green.BIG amen. [It's all about motive.]
Church attendance was not a factor. I was attempting to be as ambiguous as possible out of respect. I didn't even personally know her. It was something God used to teach me during my prep for ministry.
Same was true, or so i allege, concerning K, who on his last album b4 his premature death told his followers to "JUST GO" in to whatever their perceived mission, not waiting upon the Lord's timing. How does one spell that horn noise when a goal is made at a hockey game, used in the opposite sense during conversations?
Very, very sad. But we can and should learn from the errors of others.
That's good advice, Prophetess.I just had to write you Ash. Wow! I've SOOOOO been in your situation before. I can feel your pain.
But let me explain some ideas to you the way a Hebrew/Greek teacher showed me.
God has three ways to answer us.
1. Yes.
2. No.
3. Wait.
The first is easy. It comes fairly quickly--maybe in a week or at most a month.
The second is frustrating. Man, I hate it when the Lord tells me "no." In fact, I've spent a great share of my life saying, "Yep, I know I can figure this out better than You, Lord. And anyway, I think it looks good, and I really think, since it looks so good and all good things come from God, so it seems to me that you really meant to say yes." OHHHHHHHHH, have I created problems for myself in this.
The third way is this:
Wait. Just wait until I get it to you says the Lord.
Daniel 10: 12 Then he continued, Do not be afraid, Daniel. Since the first day that you set your mind to gain understanding and to humble yourself before your God, your words were heard, and I have come in response to them. 13 But the prince of the Persian kingdom resisted me twenty-one days. Then Michael, one of the chief princes, came to help me, because I was detained there with the king of Persia.
Now you see, sometimes the angels who are bringing you something (even something as simple as a message) can't quite get there in your timing. So we have to wait upon the Lord.
Sometimes someone has to find something out before you can get your blessing (like your future wife needs to learn something).
Numbers 9: 8 Moses answered them, Wait until I find out what the LORD commands concerning you.
Maybe you need to learn to be strong and patient (women will try your soul--just ask an older married man.)
Wha does David, a man after God's own heart, tell you to do in Psalm 27: 14 Wait for the LORD;
be strong and take heart
and wait for the LORD.
Just as a side note, David, you know? The guy who didn't wait on the Lord and stole Bathsheba from her husband and then killed her husband and lost his kingdom for a while? Yep, that David!
But the Lord will answer. He always does.
Ps 38:15 LORD, I wait for you;
you will answer, Lord my God.
...and He will hear your cry.
Ps 40: 1 I waited patiently for the LORD;
he turned to me and heard my cry
If you don't wait, there are consequences:
Ps 106: 13 But they soon forgot what he had done
and did not wait for his plan to unfold.
14 In the desert they gave in to their craving;
in the wilderness they put God to the test.
15 So he gave them what they asked for,
but sent a wasting disease among them.
I don't think I would want whatever it is with a "wasting disease." I think I'd rather wait on the Lord.
Ps 130: 5 I wait for the LORD, my whole being waits,
and in his word I put my hope.
Sometimes, the Lord seems to be hiding His face. But He will answer.
Isaiah 8: 17 I will wait for the LORD,
who is hiding his face from the descendants of Jacob.
I will put my trust in him.
The Lord wants very much to make you happy. But in being happy, you have to consider what is happening to the woman you will marry. Is she ready for you? Are you praying for her several times a day? What problems does she have that would make it hard for you and her to stay together? Would you rather have her today or be blessed when she comes?
Isaiah 30: 18 Yet the LORD longs to be gracious to you;
therefore he will rise up to show you compassion.
For the LORD is a God of justice.
Blessed are all who wait for him.
Nobody has ever heard that God let them down. Nobody.
Isaiah 64: 4 Since ancient times no one has heard,
no ear has perceived,
no eye has seen any God besides you,
who acts on behalf of those who wait for him.
So is it time to make God your portion instead of a woman (that isn't ready for you yet?)
Lamentations 3: 24 I say to myself, The LORD is my portion;
therefore I will wait for him.
25 The LORD is good to those whose hope is in him,
to the one who seeks him;
26 it is good to wait quietly
for the salvation of the LORD.
Maybe you need to try to seek the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and he will direct your paths to the woman of your dreams.
Hoseh 12: 6 But you must return to your God;
maintain love and justice,
and wait for your God always.
Your God will hear you and respond!
Micah 7: 7 But as for me, I watch in hope for the LORD,
I wait for God my Savior;
my God will hear me.
But you have to have faith to get what you want.
Hebrews 11: Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see. 2 This is what the ancients were commended for.
...and you need to wait on the Lord.
Romans 8: 25 But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.
Now if you've read this far, I will give you a very key verse that will help speed up the answer.
Ps 50: 23 Whoever offers praise glorifies Me;
And to him who orders his conduct aright
I will show the salvation of God.
This will open doors for you. Any time you have a request, give it, then start thanking the Lord for the answer. Do it times and times a day. It works!
And then, I prayed the prayer of Jabez: I Chronicles 4: 10 And Jabez called on the God of Israel saying, Oh, that You would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory, that Your hand would be with me, and that You would keep me from evil, that I may not cause pain! So God granted him what he requested.
I prayed this with another person, and I was meeting my future husband within a matter of months.
But I should have waited on the Lord. It has taken me nearly ten years to get him to follow the Lord. He is just beginning to do it. Without my interference, he might have come to the Lord before I met him, and I might have not had to fight so hard to get him there. Trust me, I wish I'd waited and let the Lord prepare him instead of thinking I could do it and NOT!
So my advice to you: Wait upon the Lord. Keep your eyes and ears open, and wait on the Lord.
I recently read, on CF, a couple of posts by two women, either in their late 20s or early 30s, that were also waiting on the Lord. They were both virgins, and they felt the same way that you do. They felt like they were never going to meet that special man. I also read a post by a younger "virgin" who had let her boyfriend play around with her until she was nearly played out and she felt spoiled by him. Very sad. Don't go that direction. It soils your soul.
You can either wait, or go ahead and mess it all up. Which would you rather do?
Heard a minister on the radio the other day quote this great verse:As far as I can understand, God is keeping me single because he's punishing me. I'm not sure why exactly, but it's not for us to know, right?
He seems to enjoy it, evidently.
I assert that ANYONE, be it a spouse or whoever, with whom we have a relationship, has of course their own personal needs and desires, some of which they will look to us to fulfill. The problem is, their needs and desires will often differ from what God needs/wants from us at particular times. And because our flesh seeks to please the people in our lives more than it does God (after all, THEY are the ones we must face, or so it only seems at the time), we who have intimate relationships will more often fail God than if not so involved.
I assert that ANYONE, be it a spouse or whoever, with whom we have a relationship, has of course their own personal needs and desires, some of which they will look to us to fulfill. The problem is, their needs and desires will often differ from what God needs/wants from us at particular times. And because our flesh seeks to please the people in our lives more than it does God (after all, THEY are the ones we must face, or so it only seems at the time), we who have intimate relationships will more often fail God than if not so involved.
On the other hand, providing and caring for others is exactly what God does want us to do, as Matthew 25:37-40 so beautifully illustrates:
neither should we discount the service to God that a married person does in his/her loving devotion to spouse and family.
It looks like Jim is saying that staying single DOES give people more opportunity to help others. He is not saying that married people cannot, (or don't) but that singles have MORE of a chance, or inclination, because they don't have the same obligations to a spouse that marrieds do.
But the point of Jesus saying "whoever loves [family] more than me is not worthy of me" is to teach us that the CHURCH is our family now and we are all brothers and sisters in Christ.
You are correct that a single person probably has more opportunities to serve in a variety of ways
if a celibate person has a generous heart to begin with, along with the proper focus, he/she could potentially touch a greater number of people.
I think the bigger issue with marriage today is that people put themselves above both family and God.
The Bible does not discourage marriage for Christians.
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But the point of Jesus saying "whoever loves [family] more than me is not worthy of me" is to teach us that the CHURCH is our family now and we are all brothers and sisters in Christ.
True, our biological parents will always be our biological parents etc, but in the same way blood is thicker than water, so too is spirit thicker than blood.
I'm not saying that we can (or even should) treat everyone exactly equally, (even Jesus seemed to have his favorites) but invariably this idea of "family" almost always comes with strings attached (i.e. the emotional ties), and that is when it becomes a hindrance to the Kingdom of Heaven.
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On the other hand, providing and caring for others is exactly what God does want us to do, as Matthew 25:37-40 so beautifully illustrates:
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Relating to the above great points, recently read this fromI would also offer this, if I may: I think you must be pretty young. You are clearly devoted to your faith and this is awesome. You have every right to your wish-list concerning a potential mate, but I personally wonder if God isn't giving you time to assimilate a few truths.
Like, Godly women aren't always wrapped up in a neat, tidy package. Actually, no one is, but there are awesome women of faith who just might drink a beer sometimes. Prepare to wince, but some of them might smoke, cuss, or, ohmygosh, have kids outside of marriage.
These things do not make them less Godly. It means that their sanctification is still rocking, just like everyone else. God deals with our messes individually and at His pace.
Is there any specific reason for why He would? I've sought how I can seek out ways to become no longer interested in women, but the general agreement was I was wasting my time. So I dropped it. But the truth is that God does seem to want me to follow the single and celibate path in my life, and I'm not really sure why. I have my own ideas which I've already mentioned before, but I'm open to other ideas too.
Do what you want to do, God doesn't have any demand on you for such a thing.
Is there any specific reason for why He would? I've sought how I can seek out ways to become no longer interested in women, but the general agreement was I was wasting my time. So I dropped it. But the truth is that God does seem to want me to follow the single and celibate path in my life, and I'm not really sure why. I have my own ideas which I've already mentioned before, but I'm open to other ideas too.
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