Is there any specific reason for why He would? I've sought how I can seek out ways to become no longer interested in women, but the general agreement was I was wasting my time. So I dropped it. But the truth is that God does seem to want me to follow the single and celibate path in my life, and I'm not really sure why. I have my own ideas which I've already mentioned before, but I'm open to other ideas too.
Why does God want me single / celibate?
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No one knows the mind of God. You still have not told us if yiu made any attemps to change your life.
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You have it sort of backwards. It's more like I believe that God wants me single or celibate, so I decided it would be better to not be interested in them. Does that make more sense for you? I have been called a priest, but they were not Catholic, so it may not have been meant that way.
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If I may ask, exactly why do you believe God wants you to be single? Before, with your other threads, I sort of got the impression you felt ashamed to want a woman. But do you really feel God calling you to the single life?
I would suggest you pray on this, and talk to your pastor about it. I have a friend who was called to become celibate, and it was not an easy thing for her at all. But she felt certain God wanted her to do this, and God helped her overcome lust.
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I mostly feel this way because I pray and nothing happens. When I look at the circumstances of my life, God is silent. He does not answer. Which is weird, because when I pray for other things, or for other people, I see results! He answers! So I know the problem is not a communication problem. He clearly hears me and clearly answers my other prayers... but not these. So clearly, something is wrong. My answer is either God is wanting me to suffer, which is overly religious and maybe true, but now I'm not so sure anymore. I don't want to second guess God. "Who can fathom the mind of God?" Or maybe it is a punishment for sin? That's also possible. Or it could be something else, which is why I'm asking... maybe we can brainstorm what exactly is the truth here... because I don't know.
Yeah. Well even if God magically helped me to overcome lust, I don't think He'd do the same with my emotions or desires. I don't like being single and find it very depressing at times. I know many people who all got married lately, but I am alone. I feel like an old maid, but as a guy.
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Welcome to the club. Being single is painful, and for some of us, finding someone special is nearly impossible.
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Heya well, first off, most desires of our hearts are also given by God.. but sometimes we get the wrong understanding of it or have the wrong heart for it, that's what He deals with. Remember, God always looks at the condition of our hearts.
Sounds like it is your desire to be with someone.. If He wants you to be celibate you should have no desire for marriage or the desire is not as strong as wanting to stay single.. but if you do, have you ever considered that maybe it's just not your time yet?
You see sometimes, areas where we struggle or where we are most emotional about are areas where we tend to be deaf with God's voice and hazy about interpreting His message for it.. for one, our emotions can be deafening or blinding --I can say that because I've been through it..
God's delays doesn't necessarily mean His denials. You gotta stay grounded with His word, grow in your relationship with Him because as you do, the clearer things will be to you. Pray and ask for His revelations and for you to be able to discern it the way you SHOULD. When God wants to tell us something, He wouldn't have a hard time telling us. Don't rely too much on your capabilities to hear or interpret it, but rely more on His power to make it known to you.
Hmm.. Let's say your observations are right, don't worry.. He will change your heart, He will change the desires of it for His will.. also to answer your question of what can be the reason for celibacy.. Read 1 Corinthians 7
Bottomline is, as you are waiting for God's revelations and/or confirmations and His perfect time.. focus on your relationship with Him. Maybe He wants you to enjoy your being single first with Him.. your contentment with just Him in your life is more than enough reward.. everything else, of course, is a bonus..
"Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need" Matthew 6:33
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The bible says that we as children of God filled with his spirit have the mind of Christ, you can know the mind and heart of God through the power of the holyspirit. 1 Cor 2
Paul said that he was different than some but that he recommended most people to have a partner to help with and to meet their sexual needs. Unless you know and believe that God has called you to be celibate I would simply accept that you should find a loving and caring woman to take care of you and you of her.
With men in general, most of the time their number one need in a relationship is sexual satisfaction. They need someone to meet their sexual needs, This is typically very different for women but for most men, their is a large, common and accepted need for sexual satisfaction.
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I believe children are our future adult Christian warriors against Satan's power of sin that wants to put the Word of God on the bookshelf, hidden away and gathering dust, so that non-Christians can bring about their desires for idol worship in a different god - or atheists who want to worship idols such as TV/movie stars, music superstars, or the rich and famous. That's why having a wife for creating children through pregnancy is God's purpose to bring the Word of God to future generations. Only because God has closed his business of dust-creation-born adult couples where Adam and Eve were born as adults and it didn't take long for them to be in a... Well, I believe... a non-sexual relationship because it's not really needed for Eve to be pregnant and have children if God continued his business of dust-creation-born adult couples, and where every person has a partner in God's kingdom: that is my belief. You have a choice to remain single like Jesus or get married. I think we need to be in God's kingdom to really experience the pure and holy non-sexual nature of our Jesus Christ where we are married as one spirit with Christ when our earthly-born minds are transformed to minds of Christ when Jesus returns in the future. The supernatural confidence of Jesus is like a bowl of fruit salad with all the positive emotions mixed together such as joy, laughter and gladness -it's like riding on a rollercoaster every single second of your life - but that powerful enthusiasm has been robbed by sin since Adam and Eve took a bite of God's precious forbidden apple. I pray that the patience of Jesus is with all Christians, knowing that when Jesus returns we will know the meaning of being brothers and sisters of Christ in God's most massive and most modern place of community: the Kingdom of God on a new Earth.:*:.
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Good observation.
There is a parallel in the Bible, but it's sort of invisible.
God is silent about certain topics in the Bible, or at least very quiet. Why?
God does not give us written instructions on when to have children.
On what career path we should take, or which job to accept.
On how a couple balances their financial responsibilities and assets.
On how to talk to each child as they go through life struggles.
Oh where to take our inventions, how to market our novels, how to discover the cure for cancer.
The pursuit is a joy He has given us in life. The process is part of the fun. The chase is a rewarding challenge. Creativity is expressed in our problem-solving.
Every person's situation and background are different. But more importantly, our preferences are different. What good would come from God assigning careers to each person, resulting in hurt and jealousy? What benefit comes from God mandating a marriage, which some days you will regret and some days you will enjoy?
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Too little information provided by you once again makes your
question sound more like a declaration in which you are
not really interested in any real answers but parading
your celibacy around as a virtue from God.
God is not behind your celibacy, you are.
You have made the choice unless of course you are
are physically unable to be anything but celibate.
To say that God wants you the way you are is to say
you have no freewill in the matter.
To say you have no freewill in the matter makes you a puppet
and puppets have no feelings or disappointments.
So which is it?
Puppet or parader?
question sound more like a declaration in which you are
not really interested in any real answers but parading
your celibacy around as a virtue from God.
God is not behind your celibacy, you are.
You have made the choice unless of course you are
are physically unable to be anything but celibate.
To say that God wants you the way you are is to say
you have no freewill in the matter.
To say you have no freewill in the matter makes you a puppet
and puppets have no feelings or disappointments.
So which is it?
Puppet or parader?
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OP,
Perhaps you're mixing up terms here.
Are you saying you think God wants you to remain CHASTE before marriage (i.e. not getting sexually involved until marriage)?
Or...
Do you mean NEVER married and celibate the rest of your life?
The latter would be difficult for most, as most want to marry and enjoy sexual fulfillment in their lives.
Perhaps you've had sex before coming of faith and have lots of regrets. Being celibate won't affect or "make amends" for past actions. Speaking from experience here.
Methinks you're asking if you need to be "responsible" in your dating and not have sex with women you're not married to.
Perhaps you're mixing up terms here.
Are you saying you think God wants you to remain CHASTE before marriage (i.e. not getting sexually involved until marriage)?
Or...
Do you mean NEVER married and celibate the rest of your life?
The latter would be difficult for most, as most want to marry and enjoy sexual fulfillment in their lives.
Perhaps you've had sex before coming of faith and have lots of regrets. Being celibate won't affect or "make amends" for past actions. Speaking from experience here.
Methinks you're asking if you need to be "responsible" in your dating and not have sex with women you're not married to.
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Dont take my advice if you feel not ready or it sounds too painfull. Maybe I could be terrible wrong.
I went(or maybe still going)through a similair story as yours.
Later, I found out that not everything lovely/cuddly is approved by god.(But praise those who naturally spread love/cuddlyness, because those are the people born from god!)
And that I really needed to harden up, and get away from the desire of love.
Hopefully not forever, but it might be. But from that time on, trust on the path of god. And work for him.
This period of time; was probally my most mind opening and gettin'-stronger on many things. In one month or so, there were four times I wake up,feelin' almost as a new person each time. Try to harden up, and stay with god, and be loyal.
Pray for his spirit to come to you for learning. Whilst the spirit is with you, you will feel in peace
PS/edit: Pain/struggle/hardship=progress=growing your tree/buildin' things in heaven.
I went(or maybe still going)through a similair story as yours.
Later, I found out that not everything lovely/cuddly is approved by god.(But praise those who naturally spread love/cuddlyness, because those are the people born from god!)
And that I really needed to harden up, and get away from the desire of love.
Hopefully not forever, but it might be. But from that time on, trust on the path of god. And work for him.
This period of time; was probally my most mind opening and gettin'-stronger on many things. In one month or so, there were four times I wake up,feelin' almost as a new person each time. Try to harden up, and stay with god, and be loyal.
Pray for his spirit to come to you for learning. Whilst the spirit is with you, you will feel in peace
PS/edit: Pain/struggle/hardship=progress=growing your tree/buildin' things in heaven.
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I have found when God is "silent" he is working behind the scenes so to speak.
While I was looking/wondering where my future spouse was...God was getting
him "cleaned up"... I also admit that the Lord was also trying to work on me as well.
I got too busy seeking the right man when I should have been seeking the Lord
--building my personal relationship with Him who is Mr. Right and our heavenly Father.
While I was looking/wondering where my future spouse was...God was getting
him "cleaned up"... I also admit that the Lord was also trying to work on me as well.
I got too busy seeking the right man when I should have been seeking the Lord
--building my personal relationship with Him who is Mr. Right and our heavenly Father.
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