Why do so many women nag?

[Stravinsk]

Multiple reasons.

Reason 1) Men are usually not multi-taskers unless they have to be and tend to focus on one thing at a time. I know I am this way. When I get into something - it can take alot of my attention - whether that be a composition, a research project or whatever - and other stuff tends to get pushed aside temporarily. Like the vacuuming.

Reason 2) As per above - often priorities are different.

Reason 3) Some women talk too much - and we learn to tune out. I remember once in a past relationship I spent the whole day with her running errands around town. I really tried to listen and take in everything she said - and at the end of the day - I felt like - there was no *me* anymore - it was all her. So I learned to "half listen" to save my sanity and sense of self. The end result in many future conversations was in the midst of her talking she might tell me we had a meeting at such and such a time or a party to go to on a specific date - and I'd miss it because I'd only be half listening. I just needed my head space that wasn't jammed full of her thoughts all the time.

Reason 4) Sometimes as men, we can, admittedly, be just plain lazy.

I don't think nagging really does any good for a relationship. Women don't like to do it, but feel something important to them justifies it. Men often resent it - and I know for myself - if I get to the point where I am so sick of hearing the whinging I'm likely to get angry and just do it so I don't have to hear it any more. Then she's upset because I got angry. Cool beans eh?

 

[BRISH]

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[BRISH]

Multiple reasons.

Reason 1) Men are usually not multi-taskers unless they have to be and tend to focus on one thing at a time. I know I am this way. When I get into something - it can take alot of my attention - whether that be a composition, a research project or whatever - and other stuff tends to get pushed aside temporarily. Like the vacuuming.

Reason 2) As per above - often priorities are different.

Reason 3) Some women talk too much - and we learn to tune out. I remember once in a past relationship I spent the whole day with her running errands around town. I really tried to listen and take in everything she said - and at the end of the day - I felt like - there was no *me* anymore - it was all her. So I learned to "half listen" to save my sanity and sense of self. The end result in many future conversations was in the midst of her talking she might tell me we had a meeting at such and such a time or a party to go to on a specific date - and I'd miss it because I'd only be half listening. I just needed my head space that wasn't jammed full of her thoughts all the time.

Reason 4) Sometimes as men, we can, admittedly, be just plain lazy.

I don't think nagging really does any good for a relationship. Women don't like to do it, but feel something important to them justifies it. Men often resent it - and I know for myself - if I get to the point where I am so sick of hearing the whinging I'm likely to get angry and just do it so I don't have to hear it any more. Then she's upset because I got angry. Cool beans eh?

:/ now I feel bad. Moreso in my "younger" days.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

Being a doormat or indifferent is wrong, but going out of your way to be otherwise is typically a recipe for disaster, as finding somebody who appreciates the work and gives you respect and credit for it almost never happens. And despite however hard we try to be Christlike, we aren't going to be happy slaving endlessly for somebody who loves us but doesn't respect how hard we work.


To the OP,
that is one dumb question.

Lol doormat, you've got it all wrong bud. As somebody who's been engaged a few times, take it from me, the 30 minutes of your day to do some dishes, or the hour you spend cooking with your lady, translates well in bed

Women enjoy doing thing for you too dude, and when they know you're willing to do the same for them they go out of their way to make sure you know how much they appreciate it; lol, or maybe it was only me, which I highly doubt. Not to mention women like things done a specific way, for instance I never had to clean the bathroom because my lady would always want it done a certain way. You following?

 

[Obzocky]

It passes the time.

Edit: serious moment.

If I ask someone to do something I can not physically do, and they say they will do it, then they do not do it, I will mention it again. If the pattern repeats itself twice I will ask if they intend to do it or whether they think saying yes will make me forget that it needs to be done. If someone has no intention of doing something within an hour of agreeing to do it then it would be easier for them just to say "no" or "not tonight" or some other answer that is not "yes".


When I remind people that things need to be done within a certain time frame and they do not want to do those things, i'm a nag. When i'm reminding people that things need to be done within a certain time frame and they do not mind doing it, i'm organised. The accusation of nagging generally depends on the individuals perception of what is being asked and how annoying they find the manner the other person is asking them to do whatever it is they need to do.

 

[BRISH]

Lol doormat, you've got it all wrong bud. As somebody who's been engaged a few times, take it from me, the 30 minutes of your day to do some dishes, or the hour you spend cooking with your lady, translates well in bed

Women enjoy doing thing for you too dude, and when they know you're willing to do the same for them they go out of their way to make sure you know how much they appreciate it; lol, or maybe it was only me, which I highly doubt. Not to mention women like things done a specific way, for instance I never had to clean the bathroom because my lady would always want it done a certain way. You following?

 

[Inkachu]

Multiple reasons.

Reason 1) Men are usually not multi-taskers unless they have to be and tend to focus on one thing at a time. I know I am this way. When I get into something - it can take alot of my attention - whether that be a composition, a research project or whatever - and other stuff tends to get pushed aside temporarily. Like the vacuuming.

Reason 2) As per above - often priorities are different.

Reason 3) Some women talk too much - and we learn to tune out. I remember once in a past relationship I spent the whole day with her running errands around town. I really tried to listen and take in everything she said - and at the end of the day - I felt like - there was no *me* anymore - it was all her. So I learned to "half listen" to save my sanity and sense of self. The end result in many future conversations was in the midst of her talking she might tell me we had a meeting at such and such a time or a party to go to on a specific date - and I'd miss it because I'd only be half listening. I just needed my head space that wasn't jammed full of her thoughts all the time.

Reason 4) Sometimes as men, we can, admittedly, be just plain lazy.

I don't think nagging really does any good for a relationship. Women don't like to do it, but feel something important to them justifies it. Men often resent it - and I know for myself - if I get to the point where I am so sick of hearing the whinging I'm likely to get angry and just do it so I don't have to hear it any more. Then she's upset because I got angry. Cool beans eh?

I'm such a dude. I canNOT multi-task to save my life. I can't stand endless chattering, and I tune people out constantly If I realize someone's talking to me, I'll say "Sorry, what?" LOL

Does this mean guys would like me more, for being more like them? Or would they be turned off by it, for being more like them?

 

[acropolis]

I've developed an allergy to nagging, particularly to constant criticism, which means I can only date women who don't do it. They do exist! My allergy is so bad that if I were to hear another person remind me to do the dishes while I'm still eating the meal I just prepared with those dishes, I would probably need to be hospitalized.

edit: Part of my coping mechanism with this particular affliction is to a) write everything down on my daily to-do list if it is actually required of me to do it and b) be absolutely crystal clear about what I will and will not do in terms of assigned tasks from a girlfriend.

 

[Starpuppy]

Or perhaps nagging is trying to cover more than just what is coming out of her mouth

all she had to do was get to the point

 

[Stravinsk]

I've developed an allergy to nagging, particularly to constant criticism, which means I can only date women who don't do it. They do exist! My allergy is so bad that if I were to hear another person remind me to do the dishes while I'm still eating the meal I just prepared with those dishes, I would probably need to be hospitalized.

edit: Part of my coping mechanism with this particular affliction is to a) write everything down on my daily to-do list if it is actually required of me to do it and b) be absolutely crystal clear about what I will and will not do in terms of assigned tasks from a girlfriend.

Sounds like a reasonable idea - B. I have to do A or so many things don't get done.

 

[bliz5]

Maybe it's just the type of girls your picking. Try dating a girl that would normally not be the type of girl you would date.

Better yet, try dating women.

 

[white dove]

Maybe it's because we keep giving them things to nag about. The solution is obvious.

The thread probably could've ended with that. But, if someone is nagging (male or female), it tells you something is clearly wrong in the communication portion of your relationship. There's a bit of a break-down somewhere and unless you enjoy living in misery, it's best to confront it and see what the heck is wrong before it even gets to the nagging.

 

[benf]

Better yet, try dating women.

Thank you.




Also Nicholas, you completely misread my post.

 

[Tim Myers]

"Why do so many women nag?"

Why do so many men give them a reason to??......

 

[Inkachu]

Deflecting questions doesn't answer the questions. Just wanted to point that out

 

[BRISH]

I guess not letting this one die out is sort of, in its own way......nagging.
~finger tips over mouth~ *oh my*




YouTube - The Nag Song (The Mom Song)

 

[Stravinsk]

I'm such a dude. I canNOT multi-task to save my life. I can't stand endless chattering, and I tune people out constantly If I realize someone's talking to me, I'll say "Sorry, what?" LOL

Does this mean guys would like me more, for being more like them? Or would they be turned off by it, for being more like them?

Just addressing the multi-tasking part - I find it a plus in females. It's useful - especially because I tend not to be. But - if I find myself getting lost in the whirlwind of her plans...

 

[Stravinsk]

I guess not letting this one die out is sort of, in its own way......nagging.
~finger tips over mouth~ *oh my*




YouTube - The Nag Song (The Mom Song)

That made me cringe and smile at the same time.

 

[Thunder Peel]

This thread makes me so glad I'm single. I had no idea that so many people and relationships are like this.

 

[BRISH]

This thread makes me so glad I'm single. I had no idea that so many people and relationships are like this.

Not many hun, just most.


j/k



I can't let this one die out. It's too funny.