Why did God gave us men so much more sex drive/lust?

[BranwenUerchLlyr]

Then why is it that it is always men watching porn? Men hearing "you're not getting any for a week" ? Men hearing "did you get any tonight?" from a friend?

How often do you hear a man asking a girl those last two questions?

Because the girls are talking to each other about it, not to you, silly. It is the only time we're not afraid of being labeled ___s, ___s and ____s because of our own natural desires.

Google "Passion Parties" if you are unconvinced.

 

[GoodNewsJournalist]

It causes so much imbalance in many relationships..... and when you don't have one, it's just a pain. I as much have to see an attractive lady with big shoulders and automatically the purely sexual lust starts, before even knowing her, let alone marriage after when it's allowed. I don't act upon it, and i don't "choose" to feel it either. What was the purpose of this? Sometimes it drives me crazy!

Sex drive isn't lust.

Lust is giving in to it. Lust is using the sexual act in a disordered way. So if you see a good looking girl and think she's attractive, and like her chest, it really isn't disordered, because that is how God made us.

The whole thing is not to give into performing the action.

 

[Lady Bug]

its not really true, women often have just as high sex drives.

I agree. It takes 2.

Then why is it that it is always men watching porn? Men hearing "you're not getting any for a week" ? Men hearing "did you get any tonight?" from a friend?

How often do you hear a man asking a girl those last two questions?

A lot of women have struggles with porn. You'd be surprised how much it can be a woman's problem.

Women deal with exactly the same things we do. Their sex drive/lust is just as high, they are no different in this regard.

Alot of guys have trouble with women because they put them on a pedestal, but the fact is, women struggle with sex/lust, and have problems, and aren't perfect, the same as us men. And if anyone tells you diffferent, they're lying to you.

I agree with all this.

and I am also glad to see many of the same sentiments here about women and sexual desires.

for the longest time, the issue of sex in the Christian community (well at least in the online community) has been that these are male issues. You can find an article on a Christian webzine with the headline "Sex and the single man" or "Men and celibacy" or something but you will rarely if ever see any article that talks about women's struggles with the same issue. Putting the "visual" issue aside, it angers me very deeply that some people in the Christian community think that women can handle it better without sex than men can - that they're more capable of taking it easy if they're "not getting any." Or that they're more easily able to be celibate than a man. It's as if sex is a man's issue - not really a woman's issue. I get so angry about this sometimes that it isn't even funny.

 

[20MoreMiles]

A lot of women have struggles with porn. You'd be surprised how much it can be a woman's problem.

I WOULD be surprised, because in my entire life, i've never heard that, and every second of porn is made from a male-fantasy point of view.

Why is the "Porn addiction" thread flooded with posts from male members? (no pun intended)

and I am also glad to see many of the same sentiments here about women and sexual desires.

for the longest time, the issue of sex in the Christian community (well at least in the online community) has been that these are male issues. You can find an article on a Christian webzine with the headline "Sex and the single man" or "Men and celibacy" or something but you will rarely if ever see any article that talks about women's struggles with the same issue. Putting the "visual" issue aside, it angers me very deeply that some people in the Christian community think that women can handle it better without sex than men can - that they're more capable of taking it easy if they're "not getting any." Or that they're more easily able to be celibate than a man. It's as if sex is a man's issue - not really a woman's issue. I get so angry about this sometimes that it isn't even funny.

Don't get me wrong, i'm not saying this is exclusively a male phenomenon, but it is predominantly so. Males are much more likely to touch than females, which goes to show you women often like sex for the love-side, whereas in the case of men it can also be pure lust.

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

women have high sex drives too, some higher than men, period.

Stupid assumption to make.

 

[WileyCoyote]

Why did God gave us men so much more sex drive/lust?

Such a loaded question. It assumes two things:

1. God gave men more sex drive than women.
2. God gave us lust.

He didn't do either. Women have just as much of a sex drive as men. Women get freaky too. (Don't ask me how I know this. ) And God didn't give us lust.

Your question, therefore, is unanswerable.

 

[Lady Bug]

I WOULD be surprised, because in my entire life, i've never heard that, and every second of porn is made from a male-fantasy point of view.

Why is the "Porn addiction" thread flooded with posts from male members? (no pun intended)

That's because the Porn addiction thread is in the Men's Forum. If you put a porn (or masturbation) addiction thread in the Women's Forum, I can assure you women will start going there.

Which all proves my point that sex issues are more thought of as men's problems.

Don't get me wrong, i'm not saying this is exclusively a male phenomenon, but it is predominantly so. Males are much more likely to touch than females, which goes to show you women often like sex for the love-side, whereas in the case of men it can also be pure lust.

In the Struggles with Sexuality forum, there's definitely females there as well as males.

 

[BranwenUerchLlyr]

That's because the Porn addiction thread is in the Men's Forum. If you put a porn (or masturbation) addiction thread in the Women's Forum, I can assure you women will start going there.

Which all proves my point that sex issues are more thought of as men's problems.


In the Struggles with Sexuality forum, there's definitely females there as well as males.

What she said.

Nobody hears about female sexual struggles because there is no outlet for it. Even in this thread, we hear some men rehashing the old idea that this is a man's problem, and that women with this issue are an exception to the rule. Even when women here are telling you that we face it to--and every women does. It is a human problem.

If 50% of the population have this problem, is it still an exception?

 

[Gwendolyn]

Lol. This is the internet. There's tons of porn online geared towards a female audience. And also, even though women tend to be chatty amongst their friends when it comes to sexual escapades, you will also find that women can also be more mum about it, too. They'll keep their indulgence to themselves. Men can be more vocal for it. There is definitely a stigma that women don't struggle with sex, that it's not an issue for them, or that women shouldn't even be interested in sex or whatever. But the women who struggle are definitely there.

 

[GoodNewsJim]

When I see the color red, it could appear blue to someone else's brain.

One person may have more pleasure from sex than another, but you can't blanket claim that men enjoy sex more than women.

 

[Servant_Of_The_Lord_Jesus]

The Problem is you've built your sex drive beyond your normal sex drive when you look at sexual pictures of women wether it be porn or just a catalog, Poster, Tv show, And just girls in tight clothing God didn't give us this lust. You have to teach your eyes to bounce and not watch such ranchy shows you have to guard your eyes. See we can turn our sex drive into a sumosex drive its like being a sumo wrestler and your feeding you opponent so he constantly is bigger and he thrashs you. You have to starve him so your sex drive returns to what its original was. And Just remeber when you look at a girl lustfully your stealing from her husband or future husband and her thats not yours. It can be overcomed you need to Read Every Young Mans Battle Its is a very Good book about this kinda stuff. But More then anything continue to look to good for strength For The Lord just used this book to show me in a way i could understand because the men that write this book use Gods word to explain sexual purity. MAY All The Glory Go To The Lord Jesus.

 

[20MoreMiles]

That's because the Porn addiction thread is in the Men's Forum. If you put a porn (or masturbation) addiction thread in the Women's Forum, I can assure you women will start going there.

Why do you think it's placed at the men's forum?

And there's plenty of replies and advice from females at that forum, but curiously, none of them start the threads or have those issues (outside of perhaps their partner).

In the Struggles with Sexuality forum, there's definitely females there as well as males.

Sure, but female problems tend to me oriented about other things, like reaching [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse], not being able to get aroused, what it's like (for virgins), etc.

As for the Sexuality Forum, you will find that on the current front page there are 5 threads about masturbation/porn, 4 of which are started by males, and the only female one is by someone who was abused, i.e. special circumstances (i'm not passing judgement, if it comes across like that).


Lastly, why do you think "the oldest profession on earth" is exclusively females who have males pay for their desires? If women have that same desire, then why don't men cash in, so to speak ?

 

[1usul1]

We are to deny ourselves daily, if it were easy to deny ourselves in this area it wouldn't really be denying oursaelves and then we really wouldn't be making that much of a decision to love God.

 

[ryanb6]

Then why is it that it is always men watching porn? Men hearing "you're not getting any for a week" ? Men hearing "did you get any tonight?" from a friend?

How often do you hear a man asking a girl those last two questions?

Maybe you have the wrong friends?

 

[deliciousBass]

Considering a lot of the men on this forum are in their teens and early 20s, I DO think we have a bigger sex drive than the women (for now anyway) since women peak later.

Women will start to feel this way like between 25-35 or something like that. I forget when.

 

[Mikeb85]

Lastly, why do you think "the oldest profession on earth" is exclusively females who have males pay for their desires? If women have that same desire, then why don't men cash in, so to speak ?

Hint - because throughout history, men have had the resources to pay. And not all women become prostitutes out of sheer necessity... BTW, these days, many men do 'cash in', so to speak.

 

[Wren]

I think that women (even those in their teens and early 20s) have just as high a sex drive as men (and in some cases higher). Like others have already said in this thread, it's just not considered as acceptable for women to admit that they have porn addictions or even just a high sex drive. Studies have shown that other studies that show women have lower sex drives are from faulty data because many women will not admit certain things that men will admit much more freely as a result of the double standard regarding sex and gender. ETA: There is no way to gather data on something like sex drive other than asking people. It's not like there is a blood test for sex drives.

Regarding the claim that women don't suffer from porn addictions as much as men because they don't post in a thread for that purpose, there is a section in the women's forum titled For Women Who Struggle. I have a really hard time imagining that a woman is going to share a struggle with a porn addiction on a Men's forum when they can go to a section in a forum that is closed to men.

 

[Wren]

Hint - because throughout history, men have had the resources to pay. And not all women become prostitutes out of sheer necessity... BTW, these days, many men do 'cash in', so to speak.

Exactly. Also, for a long, long time women were considered property (and in some countries still are) and some did not have a choice but to become prostitutes.

 

[deliciousBass]

Well I will say that it is "faulty data" that women have just as high a sex drive in their teens to early twenties.

The argument is not falsifiable if you can always claim "faulty data."

WHY IS IT SO WRONG TO ADMIT THAT MEN AND WOMEN ARE MADE DIFFERENTLY?

It's okay you know. It doesn't change the fact that men are willing to do and say almost anything to have sex with you. So you will always have the trump card.

 

[deliciousBass]

Personality and Social Psychology Review Copyright © 2001 by​

2001, Vol. 5, No. 3, 242–273 Lawrence Erlbaum Associates, Inc.

Is There a Gender Difference in Strength of Sex Drive? Theoretical
Views, Conceptual Distinctions, and a Review of Relevant Evidence​

Roy F. Baumeister, Kathleen R. Catanese, and Kathleen D. Vohs​

Department of Psychology
Case Western Reserve University
The sex drive refers to the strength of sexual motivation. Across many different studies
and measures, men have been shown to have more frequent and more intense sexual
desires than women, as reflected in spontaneous thoughts about sex, frequency and
variety of sexual fantasies, desired frequency of intercourse, desired number of partners,
masturbation, liking for various sexual practices, willingness to forego sex, initiating
versus refusing sex, making sacrifices for sex, and other measures. No contrary
findings (indicating stronger sexual motivation among women) were found. Hence we
conclude that the male sex drive is stronger than the female sex drive. The gender difference
in sex drive should not be generalized to other constructs such as sexual or orgasmic​

capacity, enjoyment of sex, or extrinsically motivated sex.