Why are you Single?

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[Jack of Spades]

Would be especially interesting if you took people from the same community like CF Singles.

Yeah, having a bit of background knowledge would be better than total strangers.

Game on!

Okay ladies, who wants to marry me? ...or actually nevermind, let's rather just ask, who will marry me? No need to worry about particularly wanting it!

Please be quick, the clock is ticking!

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[MotherFirefly]

Looks like the first to be married is @Jack of Spades and princess leia's twin sister, princess Helga!

 

[Jack of Spades]

I have a feeling that with that wife I wont live long enough to get my points...

 

[CCHIPSS]

One reason why I might be single is because the first girl I fell in love with told me that no girl would ever want to be with me because I "had such an unattractive personality".

And this was a girl who was a compulsive liar, had no volume control, was a social outcast at my school, obsessed with anime and wanted a reputation for being sadistic probably from watching too much Elfen Lied.

Last time we spoke was 2013 which was years after she moved away to a city in a frozen wasteland she kept making out to be a paradise. She made new friends, started getting invited to parties and said she preferred her new friends than me. Sorry to say on her behalf, the honeymoon was soon over and it proved she wasn't the tough girl she thought she was. Many of her new 'friends' turned on her and made her life rough to the point where she attempted suicide by swallowing pain killers. She now has a bad liver that won't allow her to drink alcohol which just made her even more unpopular with her peers.

Karma is a female dog, isn't it?

Haha! I think most anime are very clear on what is right and what is wrong. In the anime there are terrible people. But at the end they always get what is coming to them. I don't recall seeing that many anime where the bad guys wins or gets away with it at the end.

I guess she idolized some evil characters in the animes and never saw their endings.

 

[CCHIPSS]

Plus I question whether women are really worth it after seeing videos like these...

And the fact that she would lie to her boyfriend and get into a car with a total stranger because he's rich and handsome. This is also the same guy who made those social experiment videos where he masqueraded as a 15-year old boy on Facebook to lure young girls out to certain locations to prove that Social Media is a breeding ground for predators.

I hope her boyfriend watched the video. She has some explaining to do.

Well, not every woman is a gold digger. XD

There is no explanation needed. She will just break up with him and find another guy that doesn't know this story.

And from what I can see, chances are she was already cheating on her BF before this incident. She didn't even think twice about her loyalty to her BF. All she ask the guy was "Do you really have a jet?" Her decision to cheat was never in question.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[CCHIPSS]

Someone told me the other day that the only reason they were able to marry is because they lowered their standards, and if I ever hope to find someone I have to do the same.

I am torn between this either being screwed up thinking or it was an insult. lol

My heart burns from what your friends said. So they are pretty much saying their husband sucks and is not really what they wanted. But they are "forced" to marry their husband because there is no better options.

And in the same breath they are saying you aren't as good as you think you are. So you must lower your standards.

What an insult to you and their own husbands!

Are these women Christians? They are so lost they need to talk to a pastor who knows what it it means to love. If they think they are "so perfect" and their husbands are "so bad", they have no idea what happened when the perfect Jesus loved and died for the sinful Christians. They got some nerve to complain against their God given husbands this way. They don't realize that they themselves are sinners and, now that Jesus has forgiven them, that they must love their sinful husband.

Instead of asking "Is my husband doing good enough to love me?", why don't they ask "Am I doing good enough to love my husband?"

As for yourself, ignore what they say. What they said came purely from the world. There is not a single word there that is from God. You just focus on loving God, loving others and yourself. Go out and meet more new people, real life and online. And wait upon the Lord. =)

 

[CCHIPSS]

We were talking about virtues like patience, being a gentleman, intelligence, responsible, etc.

Those are very fair standards. You should stand firm here.

The bad standards (not what you are doing) are "I want a guy who is 6.5 feet, 6 packs, makes $3 million a year, has his own yacht so we can go fishing, oh and he must be funny!"

 

[CCHIPSS]

Then in that case, don't lower your standards at all. There's a reason why divorces rates are sky high now.

My mother married the bad boy who liked to party but as soon as they had me, relations went downhill. They fought and fought and eventually divorced when I was 13. They still have bitter relations because my father had no sense of patience and responsibility.

My step-father, however, is incredibly calm, patient, wise and responsible and my mother is incredibly happy with him. My mother admits thought that if she met him during her younger years she would not have taken interest in him.

The bad view is that good guys ends up with sloppy seconds.

The good view is that good guys wins at the very end.

Same situation. We Christians are call to view one over the other. =)

 

[MotherFirefly]

My heart burns from what your friends said. So they are pretty much saying their husband sucks and is not really what they wanted. But they are "forced" to marry their husband because there is no better options.

And in the same breath they are saying you aren't as good as you think you are. So you must lower your standards.

What an insult to you and their own husbands!

Are these women Christians? They are so lost they need to talk to a pastor who knows what it it means to love. If they think they are "so perfect" and their husbands are "so bad", they have no idea what happened when the perfect Jesus loved and died for the sinful Christians. They got some nerve to complain against their God given husbands this way. They don't realize that they themselves are sinners and, now that Jesus has forgiven them, that they must love their sinful husband.

Instead of asking "Is my husband doing good enough to love me?", why don't they ask "Am I doing good enough to love my husband?"

As for yourself, ignore what they say. What they said came purely from the world. There is not a single word there that is from God. You just focus on loving God, loving others and yourself. Go out and meet more new people, real life and online. And wait upon the Lord. =)

lol, no I am pretty sure she isn't christian. Honestly, the majority of women in my office have that sort of mentality, but I suppose I used to as well.
I think when people get drowned in the distracting noises of the world, materialistic values always become the goal, even obsession.
It is easy to get caught up in those ideas, and when you live with that impression of yourself, of men, and of the world for so long, what else is there?
I feel sorry for their husbands more than I do them.. lol. They can be rather nasty.

Thanks for the support.
As I stated earlier, I learned many lessons the hard way from chasing men for the wrong reasons.
I am cool with leaving it up to what God may have in store for me.

 

[CCHIPSS]

I've been doing some reading and thinking. I think it's time for a more serious answer...

I've chosen a life of celibacy out of circumstance. I've had a very bad history of relationships with people due to being on the autism spectrum, growing up in bad environments and being born into a time where face-to-face relationships are becoming obsolete. Based on this, it is guaranteed that I will die alone. No use fighting it because I do not want to fight anymore. My entire life with people, let alone the opposite gender, was almost pure conflict.

Some preachers say that God chooses some to live a life of singleness and solitude in order to perform a certain ministry. I wouldn't have believed this for myself if I wasn't born into these conditions. Some people on this forum may think I'm an angry, cold-hearted jerk but in real life I make effort to serve God in any way I can through compassion and generosity. If I had a relationship I would be experiencing earthly reward but miss out on Heavenly reward by neglecting what I do best. What I do best requires solitude unless someone else is willing to assist me in doing unpopular methods in raising money for the poor (collecting beer bottles and pop cans and playing FreeRice.com, for example.) I think the most unsettling thing that Jesus said was, "They've already received their reward." This is why I can no longer envy people who already have everything in life.

I'm a big believer in Bible Prophecy and that once we're out of here we will be rewarded based on our good deeds, sacrifices and suffering. My unstable life on Earth has taught me not to put faith in this world but instead work for a better life in Heaven. My citizenship there is guaranteed but before I can immigrate there, I have to earn my wealth and success. Kind of a bizarro twist on the American Dream. Once I'm in Heaven, things will be perfect and I will finally get the peace and co-existence that was denied to me in life.

Like I said before, you can call me a modern day monk. Living in a Cathedral doing services for God in austerity and solitude. I have mixed feelings on it but I'm confident that it will pay off.

I never had a GF until I was 31 years old. So for well over a decade I faced rejection after rejection by the ladies. And I understand that it was extremely disheartening.

It was not until I found my EX and my current GF that I realized the truth: If a girl likes you, she will make is very easy for you to date her.

Why? Because she wants you to succeed in dating her.

A relationship is two sided. Both sides have to give and take. So when you find the right one, you will feel that she is also pulling the weight. You do not have to be the only one pulling the weight in the relationship. That would be no relationship at all.

But back in those days of rejection, I just keep on talking to the ladies and they keep on bushing me off. Some did it politely. Others flat out disrespected me. And back then my opinion was that all girls in the world hate me. But trust me, that is the wrong conclusion.

The girls that do not like you will indeed reject you. But that is ok. You are asked to marry one and only one girl. Dating less is good because there will be less heart breaks for you. Have faith that the right girl will accept you and help you win her over.

 

[Jack of Spades]

If a girl likes you, she will make is very easy for you to date her.

That is so true. My best memory of such thing was with a workmate, I had a crush on her, and there was this thing happening nearby, where I knew that a lot of people from our work were going to go. So, I decided to go to ask if she wants to go there with me, and when I went to her, we both spilled it out at the same time "So, are you going there?" and then laughed a bit. It's my best memory of asking someone out, we were in perfectly equal grounds after both showing the same interest.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[BadHabit]

I'm single because I can't be bothered to meet a woman's parents...again...and seek approval...again.

I'm single because I can't pretend to like her poor choices in friends.

I'm single because I'd much rather stay indoors cleaning a rifle and watching DUNE for the umpteen millionth time.

I'm single because I plan to live in the woods like an 18th century hermit and gals don't dig pooping in a bucket.

I'm single because I like looking like a hobo with bad fashion sense and don't care to change it.

I'm single because I prefer to be the most immature 40 year old on the planet.

I'm single because I'm smart enough to know that if I want loyalty and unconditional love, I should have a dog, not a GF.

 

[MotherFirefly]

I'm single because I'm smart enough to know that if I want loyalty and unconditional love, I should have a dog, not a GF.

 

[ReesePiece23]

Don't analyse it... Just move on.

 

[Toro]

No analyzing ? Thats it, Im gettin outta here.......

 

[Noxot]

nah dogs are jerks... they are always wanting you to throw their toy. and they make all kinds of annoying sounds at you for not throwing the toy. after you throw the toy they make annoying sounds because they want you to throw the toy more. dogs don't love humans, they love the toys we give them. talk about materialistic and selfish.