Why are you Single?

[passionforchrist590]

I figured everyone could post here as to why they are single and what brought them here. I didn't find any thread's similar to this, so I figured I would start my own. I apologize if there was one already.

So I guess I will go first as to why I am here and why I am "single".

I am single because I am divorced. I was married to my ex wife for 15 years, we also had a son together, whom is now 14. She was having an affair that went on for 2 years and I had not a clue. I am the type that loved being married. I enjoyed going to work, coming home and getting to spend time with my family. I am a firm believer/supporter in my wife (by her choice) staying home taking care of the home, children, bills, etc. Since the day her and I got married, she was able to stay home. I thought our marriage was perfect, I could never once have a negative thought about our marriage. She was everything God Blessed me with. She was my other half and best friend. I thought that no two soles could have been more perfect for one another in God's image.

Once I discovered her affair, it devastated me. I began to question God as to why he had allowed for it to happen. It was about 6 months after my divorce, I than realized that this was just a milestone that God had placed in front of me. I knew that instead of blaming and questioning him, if I just accepted it I would see a much bluer sky, and I did. I realized that his plans were so much more for me.

I am a stronger and wiser person because of it. I am now at the stage where I can be happy for my ex wife and her husband. I am happy for my son, because he has now been able to gain a step-father that loves and cares for him, that is able to teach him things that I cannot. I am confident enough in God and my relationship with my son that this is for the best for everyone. I could not imagine being one of those people that consistently punishes another for mistakes that were made. My ex and I were able to be civil for our son. He is one of the happiest, well grounded and intelligent young men that I know. My ex wife and I do not feel it is imperative to inform him of the reasons our marriage ended. When he was younger, he would ask such questions and we both sat him down and explained that sometimes God has a plan for everyone. We told him that his mother and I still loved each other, but it was just not meant for us to be husband and wife anymore. We reminded him that no matter what her and I would always be there for him AND each other. I cannot let anger, hurt and sadness dwell in my mind forever. God set me free and I am the happiest because of it.

I now am single, independent, stable financially and emotionally. My heart is for God and my son and through God all things are possible.

Sorry for the long post :o I just want to be able to share not only my positives in my life, but also my hardships as well. I have an open ear and am great for listening and offering advice to anyone in need.

Thank you everyone for your kindness you have shown me

 

[SplendidTree]

I am single because I am not ready to be in a relationship at the moment.

I think there was a thread here somewhat similar to this but not sure.

 

[SnowyMacie]

Short Version: I am not ready.

Long Version: I struggled a lot in high school with shyness and self-confidence. Shyness, meaning I was very behind in social development. I also had a fairly bad home life, even though it didn't look like it, which effected (affected?) my emotional health, even had clinical depression which has been in remission for over a year now. It's been a struggle for me through my latter high school years and now early college years working on self-confidence and just understanding social workings. I've come a long way from where I was four years ago, and I still have a long way to go before I am ready for a serious relationship of that nature.

 

[passionforchrist590]

I am single because I am not ready to be in a relationship at the moment.

I think there was a thread here somewhat similar to this but not sure.

Its always wise to wait until YOU are ready to do things. Pressure only leads to a negative outcome. I am happy I am single and if/when I ever meet the right person, I know God will guide me and be there for me every step of the way.

 

[SplendidTree]

Its always wise to wait until YOU are ready to do things. Pressure only leads to a negative outcome. I am happy I am single and if/when I ever meet the right person, I know God will guide me and be there for me every step of the way.

My thoughts as well.

 

[MehTeh]

I am single because I have not been able to find someone who has a mutual attraction with me. I know my faults and issues and they aren't a barrier to a relationship that is built on a solid foundation of communication. Meeting women can be problematic in that I seem to have exhausted all current areas of interaction, which means I need to change things up. Just not sure where or how yet.

 

[leothelioness]

I am single because I don't get asked out. Also because I don't really care to be in a relationship right now.

 

[EyesOfKohl]

Because I'm the last of my kind.

 

[Saucy]

Because Crystal refuses to marry me. It's that simple.

 

[broken_one]

I'm hesistant to write this sort of thing, but it's because I'm still reluctant after previous relationships and past/present issues, and I lack the boldness needed to take what I want.

In a nutshell.

 

[Nanopants]

Is it me or does this question seem to be opening up a barrel of misery?

Oh well, I guess I'll contribute anyways.

I've been hurt very badly in the past, betrayed by my ex-wife a few years ago. I fail to see how there is any justice or anything good or right about the fact that after being stabbed in the back, her going on to be with some other man while I am left in the dust, could be anything good from the hand of God.

Kudos to the OP. You are a truly a saint for seeing and thanking God for the silver linings of the storm clouds. I, however, have lost faith in the plans of God for myself in this area, and that's why I'm still single. I've given up.

[/Eeyore-ish rant]

 

[.Mikha'el.]

I figured everyone could post here as to why they are single and what brought them here. I didn't find any thread's similar to this, so I figured I would start my own. I apologize if there was one already.

So I guess I will go first as to why I am here and why I am "single".

I am single because I am divorced. I was married to my ex wife for 15 years, we also had a son together, whom is now 14. She was having an affair that went on for 2 years and I had not a clue. I am the type that loved being married. I enjoyed going to work, coming home and getting to spend time with my family. I am a firm believer/supporter in my wife (by her choice) staying home taking care of the home, children, bills, etc. Since the day her and I got married, she was able to stay home. I thought our marriage was perfect, I could never once have a negative thought about our marriage. She was everything God Blessed me with. She was my other half and best friend. I thought that no two soles could have been more perfect for one another in God's image.

Once I discovered her affair, it devastated me. I began to question God as to why he had allowed for it to happen. It was about 6 months after my divorce, I than realized that this was just a milestone that God had placed in front of me. I knew that instead of blaming and questioning him, if I just accepted it I would see a much bluer sky, and I did. I realized that his plans were so much more for me.

I am a stronger and wiser person because of it. I am now at the stage where I can be happy for my ex wife and her husband. I am happy for my son, because he has now been able to gain a step-father that loves and cares for him, that is able to teach him things that I cannot. I am confident enough in God and my relationship with my son that this is for the best for everyone. I could not imagine being one of those people that consistently punishes another for mistakes that were made. My ex and I were able to be civil for our son. He is one of the happiest, well grounded and intelligent young men that I know. My ex wife and I do not feel it is imperative to inform him of the reasons our marriage ended. When he was younger, he would ask such questions and we both sat him down and explained that sometimes God has a plan for everyone. We told him that his mother and I still loved each other, but it was just not meant for us to be husband and wife anymore. We reminded him that no matter what her and I would always be there for him AND each other. I cannot let anger, hurt and sadness dwell in my mind forever. God set me free and I am the happiest because of it.

I now am single, independent, stable financially and emotionally. My heart is for God and my son and through God all things are possible.

Sorry for the long post :o I just want to be able to share not only my positives in my life, but also my hardships as well. I have an open ear and am great for listening and offering advice to anyone in need.

Thank you everyone for your kindness you have shown me

Simple. I am single because I am not dating, engaged, married, widowed, or divorced. It's the only option left.

 

[acropolis]

Serious relationships are a lot of work and for the time being I prefer to devote my energies mainly to my career and hobbies and just have casual relationships that don't involve a lot of obligation. Love doesn't pay the rent.

 

[twnsrkr]

Because Crystal refuses to marry me. It's that simple.

lol

 

[Apollo Celestio]

Temperament and will.

 

[Keri]

I think I've seen threads with this exact heading like 15 times over the last 6 years.

Anyway, to answer...

I'm single because I'm not in any hurry to put a label on something. Either feelings are there or they are not. Things happen when they are supposed to.

 

[Hadassah_]

I'm single because there isn't a man alive who can put up with me.

If there is, it hasn't been established yet, so I just live my life and go from there.

 

[KingCrimson250]

Haven't met anyone who I really connect with on a level that makes me say "Yes, I want to marry you."

I generally either connect with a girl on a superficial level but not a deeper one, or vice versa, and I think both are essential to have a strong, working relationship. I'm very interested in the arts and I'll admit that I'm more than a bit of a snob in that regard. It's not that I expect women to have the exact same taste as me, but you've got to be able to at least say something intelligent. If you can't really break things down and you end up saying things like "I like this song because it's catchy" or "I don't like that movie because it's boring" then you and I haven't really got anything to say to each other.

It's strange because at the same time, I try to be selfless and to put the other person first. My mood also shifts a lot - not in terms of good mood and bad mood, but rather in terms of social and antisocial. Some days I'm the life of the party, other days I'm extraordinarily private and cloistered up. All of these things, I think, conspire to make me a rather difficult person to be in a relationship with.

 

[avi8tor]

I am single because I don't want to be held down by the commitment of a relationship. Just kidding. Well maybe not.

I've had to move around a good bit for work and I stay busy with that so having a healthy relationship would be difficult to say the least. That should all change within the next year or so.

I've had a hard time staying the course though. 2011 was a year of firsts. I lost my virginity, bought my first lap dance at a strip club, and got blackout drunk on my birthday. I'm not completely proud of it but not ashamed either.

 

[SOLDIER ❤]

Because no christian man has approached me and asked me out.