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why are you single ?

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I am single because I have not really looked for a gf, and even if I did look, I do not necessarily think God would give me success. My focus is trusting God and being obedient to him. God is sovereign and has a plan for my life. So my main focus is following him.

I have also prayed for a few years that I could meet a girl to be my wife. God has not been silent, but has taught me things about this. There is one point I have recently learned. In the bible (I don't remember where) it says that "the gifts and calling of God are irrevocable". This is how I picture it working out for me in the future: I will be married because God has planned it out the whole time and it will be a natural fit.
 
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Why am I single? I think its a combination of reasons, really. Firstly, I have only ever been involved with one relationship, and sometimes I question the validity of it. I was involved with a girl that was taking me down a bad path. One day, I finally broke and decided I wanted to get away from it.

That was roughly a little over two years ago, and during this time God had/has slowly been building me back up. He helped me redefine and purify what I wanted to look for in a woman. I've had several women come my way since then, lots of really nice ones, but not a single one of them shared my greatest passion in life, Jesus. For that reason alone, I never made anything out of any of those opportunities.

I find it frustrating sometimes that there hasn't been any woman to fill this heart with. Its the only thing I ask from God while I'm here on Earth.

If the girl I'm after is out there and reading this, then by all means; get a hold of me! :p I've waited far too long for you.
 
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why are you single ?

Too short? Too fat? Not pretty enough? Won't have sex before marriage? Too many health problems to be worth the "trouble"?

I've heard all of those.

I'm working on getting used to the fact that I'm going to die alone. But that doesn't make it easier, and it doesn't mean I like it. I'm not good enough. I'm never going to BE good enough. So I don't see any point in bothering with other people anymore.
 
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“It’s impossible not to constantly wonder if there’s something better, someone better.”

My good female friend picked up her third glass of Syrah-Merlot and continued: “If I could only choose between three decent guys, it’d be a done deal. I’d be married already.”
I nodded. Having options–perceived infinite choice–isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. How, then, do you tame indecision, particularly in relationships?
The following guest post, written by Claire Williams, explores some of the more successful approaches… and realizations.
 
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some of you should be careful. I have a friend who has been "waiting" for the right man for years now and she is 34. We tried setting her up with guys but she refused to give them a chance. She also isn't outgoing enough to find anyone. She believes God will put the man into her life without anysort of effort from herself. She is a very nice girl that is wasting her time waiting for the right man to fall into her lap. It amazes me how some people can believe that divine intervention will be used for them.
 
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I feel like I should give the proper answer of "haven't found the right guy, yet." But, regardless of the trueness of that statement, that's not what popped into my head when I read the OP. I'm feeling open and not like censoring myself, so here goes...

I'm screwed up. I think that when I was GreenHistorian and Historia, people probably thought I was this an intelligent, together, fantastic person. And I appreciate people thinking nicely of me, but I'm sure people are starting to get a much clearer idea of the real me. I've got issues. Yes, I know lots of people have issues and they seem to find someone, but my combination of issues seems to be a deterrent. Of course, I've also not met anyone locally that I've wanted to date in a very long time, but right now I feel like I'm man repellent.

:D

:sorry:
You were a student and now you've graduated. Situation change can affects how you feel about yourself, but is not going to make you a worse person.
Don't let yourself be lied to.
 
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I think I'm meant to be single for a purpose, which is to encourage and comfort other people. Basically, when a guy feels miserable about himself because he doesn't have a wife or girlfriend, he can think of me and say "Well, maybe being single isn't too bad. At least puffca is single."
So, great responsibilities here. :cool:
 
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From my past threads , I notice that a lot of people here are not in a relationship or have never been in a relationship. Why do you think you are single? Is it because you are too picky ,you have high expectations, you are waiting on God time , you are not attractive, or outgoing, All the good ones are married .... why are you single ? LOL

I'm socially awkward and spend my time behind a computer all day. I put about as much effort into meeting people as I do my own appearance.

Oh wait... :)
 
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From my past threads , I notice that a lot of people here are not in a relationship or have never been in a relationship. Why do you think you are single? Is it because you are too picky ,you have high expectations, you are waiting on God time , you are not attractive, or outgoing, All the good ones are married .... why are you single ? LOL

I'm single for quite an obvious reason, although that doesn't stop every woman who's in my position (and that's okay, I'm not judging anyone - just saying it's not for me). It's amazing to me that it is possible to meet someone even now, but again.. it just feels wrong and I'm not comfortable with it. I have different priorities. For me, it's even more of a reason to be selective although I am and have been contemplating my spiritual "requirements" in a mate and how realistic those might be. Sometimes, I wonder if those expectations run a little too high. So for that and several other far more important reasons, I'm glad to be single right now.
 
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From my past threads , I notice that a lot of people here are not in a relationship or have never been in a relationship. Why do you think you are single? Is it because you are too picky ,you have high expectations, you are waiting on God time , you are not attractive, or outgoing, All the good ones are married .... why are you single ? LOL

Because the boy I love is unstable right now and has alot of work to do in his life. technically, We still have a relationship of sorts because we talk regularly, sometimes see each other, still love eachother, and don't date other people... but at the same time, the future is uncertain for us and we aren't moving foreward. Are stuck in neutral. Even in reverse at times.
ugh.

Some say I should meet other people. Some say I should be all on my own and not talk to him. But that is for me to decide.

you're right... everyone IS married and that stinks.
 
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You're still single?

Are you serious?

Okay, that just makes me question everything in this world that is both good and evil.

James(<---- Begins to question all of humanity
Yep, quite serious. Very disheartening. I'm not high maintenance. I totally don't mind watching some football or basketball. I'm not demanding. I'm loyal. I'm honest. I'm trustworthy. I'm helpful. I'm kind-hearted. I'm empathetic. I'm not too unpleasant to look at most of the time, though I wouldn't mind dropping some pounds. I suppose my negative factors can play roles in why men just don't seem to find me worth their time, but even my negative factors aren't all that horrible. Men always say how I'd be a very good wife, and yet....nothing. So I'm officially stumped. I can only conclude that the time just isn't right yet. *shrug*
 
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