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why are you single ?

MacFall

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I can only conclude that the time just isn't right yet. *shrug*

I don't know you, but I have no reason to doubt that your self-description is true. Also from your profile pic you're very good looking. So that's probably the case, that the time isn't right. But it also might be that the preponderance of men in your area are just not good enough for you. I'm beginning to think that that's the case in some areas, including mine. It may be that the average woman is the kind that I'd love and would also want to love me - but my area drags the average down, because I've never met one personally.

I have to believe that because the only other conclusion is that there's something dreadfully wrong with me, and the ladies around here won't let me take that view of myself. :p
 
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Yep, quite serious. Very disheartening. I'm not high maintenance. I totally don't mind watching some football or basketball. I'm not demanding. I'm loyal. I'm honest. I'm trustworthy. I'm helpful. I'm kind-hearted. I'm empathetic. I'm not too unpleasant to look at most of the time, though I wouldn't mind dropping some pounds. I suppose my negative factors can play roles in why men just don't seem to find me worth their time, but even my negative factors aren't all that horrible. Men always say how I'd be a very good wife, and yet....nothing. So I'm officially stumped. I can only conclude that the time just isn't right yet. *shrug*

Objection!

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I haven't been actively looking for quite a while, but what I'd like is a Godly woman, very intelligent, good sense of humor, with cultural tastes at least similar enough to mine that we have some idea of what each other's references are, if not actual affinity for the same stuff.

My most recent (should I say "last"?) girlfriend fit much of that bill, but then turned out to have problems which were much, much steeper than I could handle. For pragmatic reasons, I just sorta stopped looking.
 
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Why do you say that?

Let's just say I'm not always the most sensitive of people. Though most people consider honesty a good thing, I take it one step too far, alot of the time. People mistake it for me being coldhearted, which isn't really true, I just tell it like it is.
 
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Because we tried, but it didn't work out. We're just good friends. :)

That's cool that you both at least attempted and can still be friends. Seriously. So many just sit on the fence, perhaps worried that friendship cannot exist after trying it out.
 
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From my past threads , I notice that a lot of people here are not in a relationship or have never been in a relationship. Why do you think you are single? Is it because you are too picky ,you have high expectations, you are waiting on God time , you are not attractive, or outgoing, All the good ones are married .... why are you single ? LOL
Why am I single? I have a physical disability that most people think that I am retarded and I am not. I'm in a wheelchair with cerebral palsy.
 
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Why am I single? I have a physical disability that most people think that I am retarded and I am not. I'm in a wheelchair with cerebral palsy.

Man, that sucks. :/ Ignorance like that gets my back up.
 
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some of you should be careful. I have a friend who has been "waiting" for the right man for years now and she is 34. We tried setting her up with guys but she refused to give them a chance. She also isn't outgoing enough to find anyone. She believes God will put the man into her life without anysort of effort from herself. She is a very nice girl that is wasting her time waiting for the right man to fall into her lap. It amazes me how some people can believe that divine intervention will be used for them.

Why? Because in the OT, there is Ruth and Boaz, Isaac and Rebekah, God intervened for both Isaac and Ruth. Why is it amazing to think He wouldn't do the same for others? Yes, both people had to take action, but in Issac's case- Abraham's worker prayed to find the right woman for Issac and asked God for a sign. Isaac really had no huge part in finding his mate, he accepted and loved her, when she was brought to him.

In Ruth's case, Naomi instructed her on how to approach Boaz because she realized that Boaz liked Ruth. But again, this was something God had already had planned. This was not just a surprise or just some guy- Ruth could have had any other man, but she chose to marry Boaz.

I've lost my thought here lol But just wanted to say that it's not crazy to want to wait for the right man, it's wise. Ask the previously married 30s who ended up marrying the wrong people early on in life...I'm sure they'd tell you they wish they would have waited for God's choice.

To get on OT, I am single right now because it's not my time for a relationship yet, there's tons of healing and dealings that need to be taken care of. Plus, I do not want to just settle for "good enough" because I am approaching 30, I want the man God had designed for me, if it takes 34 or 35, I guess I will have to pray for the patience to wait and not make a foolish decision.
 
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