why are you single ?

[MyEverything]

Because I'm being called to lifelong singleness, or at least that's what I'm beginning to suspect.

Same here.

 

[SweetDee]

I honestly don't know why exactly God has chosen for me to be single right now but I am assuming it is for a good reason. My guess would be because I am still trying to figure things out right now...meaning with education, career and location. I also hang out with the same people every week/weekend. My church is mostly populated with the elderly, whom I love dearly. And because of that I don't generally meet a lot of new people around my age. So maybe it's a combination of all of the above. The thought of God wanting me to live a life of single hood crosses my mind whenever another girl from back home gets married but I don't think that is God's plan for me. I mean, he made me awesome for a reason, right? Gotta share the awesomeness with someone!

 

[ProAntiRevolution]

Because I'm just so awesome that no one else can even come close to my awesome level of awesomeness, and it's not awesome to date someone who isn't awesome. Isn't that awesome?

 

[faithandholyspiritarethek]

I seen one post that said if they only had 3 choices, and I think that kind of sums things up, a hundred years ago people married someone from "a couple of farms over" etc, there choices were limited, they picked someone made it work and were happy?? (I think). Now we travel a lot, interact with people through work, have the internet, large church gatherings etc. So we have a lot more choices and it is hard to make a choice (maybe not if you meet the proverbial "one", i dunno). I've allways been a little shy myself.

And everyone should remember whatever has happened in your life, whatever lot you have been dealt has made you the person you today, a lot of girls seem to wish they were "barbie dool looks-wise", however you would probably be a real *****, and not at all interested in your salvation, in the end you will be happy with your lot in life, IMHO.

 

[Ayersy]

I'm not exactly most people's cup of tea, especially in the region in which I live. I think I need to move up to Scotland to find some girls into heavy drinking, goofy, cynical, long-haired, bearded, tall blokes with big noses.

Alternatively, I just ain't found the right person, yet.

 

[l0v3n]

Because I waited two years for somebody that wasn't worth the time of day. But I learned my lesson though. Never give your heart to someone who doesn't deserve it...

Basically, I turned down a lot of great girls, expecting to end up with a certain person. But things did not work out as I had expected and here I am, available...

Now it's just a matter of meeting a quality woman who is what I am looking for.

I don't have self esteem issues. I'm good looking, smart, funny, romantic, sweet, kind, I love God, I'm ambitious, confident and I dress well. I'm not a shy person, though I could always stand to be even MORE out-going with women. So I don't believe it's a character flaw keeping me single. It was mostly a certain decision I had made two years ago, which brought me here...

So, now it's up to God, or whatever, to bring the right gal to me (whomever she - or they - may be...)

This.

 

[Obzocky]

You'd get extra points for being ginger in Aberdeen, and possibly Glasgow ...

I just wanted to reply to the Scotland reference, my original answer remains the same

 

[RD1981]

I'm probably single for a number of reasons. I guess im ok looking. I've been very slim for as long as I can remember, I'm 29, blk 5'11 160lbs. Being slim is in my genes and I don't always eat enough to gain more weight. I'm working on gaining wait, hoping that It would give me a better appearance. I wish I was more self conscious when I was younger, that way I wouldn't have so many things to fix.

I like beautiful women inside and out, but most of the ones I see are strangers, alot of them probably wouldn't be interested in me. It sucks because I feel like I need to be married and have kids to be complete. I just want someone to experience life with and what God has to offer us as a couple.

Sometimes I feel like Jesus is gonna return soon, so it won't really matter, but right now, life sucks being single and not having someone to love you.

 

[Howard Cneal]

I'm probably single for a number of reasons. I guess im ok looking. I've been very slim for as long as I can remember, I'm 29, blk 5'11 160lbs. Being slim is in my genes and I don't always eat enough to gain more weight. I'm working on gaining wait, hoping that It would give me a better appearance. I wish I was more self conscious when I was younger, that way I wouldn't have so many things to fix.

I like beautiful women inside and out, but most of the ones I see are strangers, alot of them probably wouldn't be interested in me. It sucks because I feel like I need to be married and have kids to be complete. I just want someone to experience life with and what God has to offer us as a couple.

Sometimes I feel like Jesus is gonna return soon, so it won't really matter, but right now, life sucks being single and not having someone to love you.

Being skinny has nothing to do with being single. Unless you allow it to, and believe that it does (which you appear to do). Weight is mostly an irrelevant factor in meeting people. I know people who are morbidly obese and they have no problem finding love, even with those who are not as large as they. So, to blame weight, is merely finding an external excuse for an internal problem.

If you gain weight, and don't fix your attitude, you will still find yourself in the same position. Besides, wanting to change because you don't believe women like you is the WRONG reason for anyone to change.

How do you know they wouldn't be interested in you...? What if you resolved within yourself to go up to every woman you found attractive anyway, because you don't know what physical type she will go for? What if you looked at life through a different perspective instead? Is it not possible that might net you different results?

Why do you feel the need to be married and have kids to be full? You can be full and perfect (complete) right now without anyone, but you. If you're incomplete before marriage, you will be incomplete after marriage. Make your own standards and follow them, instead of letting society dictate what you "should" or "shouldn't" do.

You can have someone great, but first you have to believe it's possible for you. Then adopt a new attitude on life and yourself. Only when you become happy with YOU can others truly feel the same.

Jesus may not return for another 2000 years, we don't know. Why not just live this life, following Him, and going for what you want in the meantime? What if you could have faith and trust that God's got this special person out there for you, waiting for you to get in agreement and alignment with that thought? Wouldn't life be a lot easier and more fun for you then? And the best part about all this is, it can happen!

But it all starts from within and when you truly start to love YOU. How can anyone else love you when you refuse to love the person God made you to be? God don't make mistakes.

H. Cneal

P.S. I'm speaking from personal experience, considering I'm taller than you AND also weigh less. I've been where you were and it's a rough road to be on. Better to change direction and forge a new path, I think.

 

[Thunder Peel]

There's still a part of me that believes we really have to earn this privilege too. If there's a lot of sin or unresolved issues in our lives then I can't see God blessing us with marriage until we've worked those issues out and allowed Him to move and change us in that area. I would love to be a husband someday but only God knows if that's a right I'll be able to earn and work toward. I just have to try my best in the meantime.

 

[RD1981]

Being skinny has nothing to do with being single. Unless you allow it to, and believe that it does (which you appear to do). Weight is mostly an irrelevant factor in meeting people. I know people who are morbidly obese and they have no problem finding love, even with those who are not as large as they. So, to blame weight, is merely finding an external excuse for an internal problem.

If you gain weight, and don't fix your attitude, you will still find yourself in the same position. Besides, wanting to change because you don't believe women like you is the WRONG reason for anyone to change.

How do you know they wouldn't be interested in you...? What if you resolved within yourself to go up to every woman you found attractive anyway, because you don't know what physical type she will go for? What if you looked at life through a different perspective instead? Is it not possible that might net you different results?

Why do you feel the need to be married and have kids to be full? You can be full and perfect (complete) right now without anyone, but you. If you're incomplete before marriage, you will be incomplete after marriage. Make your own standards and follow them, instead of letting society dictate what you "should" or "shouldn't" do.

You can have someone great, but first you have to believe it's possible for you. Then adopt a new attitude on life and yourself. Only when you become happy with YOU can others truly feel the same.

Jesus may not return for another 2000 years, we don't know. Why not just live this life, following Him, and going for what you want in the meantime? What if you could have faith and trust that God's got this special person out there for you, waiting for you to get in agreement and alignment with that thought? Wouldn't life be a lot easier and more fun for you then? And the best part about all this is, it can happen!

But it all starts from within and when you truly start to love YOU. How can anyone else love you when you refuse to love the person God made you to be? God don't make mistakes.

H. Cneal

P.S. I'm speaking from personal experience, considering I'm taller than you AND also weigh less. I've been where you were and it's a rough road to be on. Better to change direction and forge a new path, I think.

I get what your saying. It's not that I'm down on myself, it's just that im trying to figure out what I need to do to be my best.

I know im not single just because im skinny, but the women I like don't seem to like skinny men. It looks unhealthy. I have a good personality, but women have standards too and judge you from what you look like before you can get a chance to talk. But on the other hand, I think how you look says alot about you.

I dont understand how you can be complete without reproducing, isn't that one of the best blessings in life, to have a family? I know you can be close to God, maybe I'm not as close as I can be because I still desire to have a companion to live with. I'm still hoping God has someone for me, maybe faith is what's missing. I guess good things only happen by faith, lol, I don't know.

 

[127.0.0.1]

why are you single ?

Cus no woman would ever touch me with a 10 foot pole.

 

[Boondock_Saint]

I hate to say it, but I'm single because I'm lame. I fear rejection. It terrifies me to think that someone might not like me. It is especially terrifying to let people in. I don't really want people to know me. If someone knows who I am, than I have to fill them in on my life. Don't really want to do that.

 

[SweetDee]

...because my milkshake doesn't bring the boys to the yard

 

[Rhamiel]

...because my milkshake doesn't bring the boys to the yard

I can teach you...
but I would have to charge

 

[MacFall]

...because my milkshake doesn't bring the boys to the yard

What does that even mean? I always thought it sounded sort of... suggestive. But maybe that's because my mind is still a little dirty from the 8 years of public school.

 

[SearcherKris]

I hate to say it, but I'm single because I'm lame. I fear rejection. It terrifies me to think that someone might not like me. It is especially terrifying to let people in. I don't really want people to know me. If someone knows who I am, than I have to fill them in on my life. Don't really want to do that.

When I was a child I was OK with talking to people until they wanted to know my name. For some reason, in my mind as a child, I thought that once they knew my name they would know who I am. If they knew who I was, then they would not want to have anything to do with me anymore.

I found out in recent years that there are people who do like me, for who I am, and for no other reason.

It takes courage and risk taking to put yourself out there and try to trust. It is scary. Rejection hurts. But the benefit of finding those few who have real love and concern for you is worth it. The good that comes far outweighs the bad.

 

[StarryEyes]

Waiting on God's timing.. and today was such a huge reminder and encouragment about that! Praise God for His love and Kindness and for the Comforter who reminds us of these things

 

[Sapphyre]

I'm single because I'm awkward and shy, and most guys I know would rather ask out a certain type of girl that I simply am not.

Also, it's been quite some time since someone I was attracted to liked me back. Just missing the real thing I suppose. One day perhaps.

 

[Paulie079]

What does that even mean? I always thought it sounded sort of... suggestive. But maybe that's because my mind is still a little dirty from the 8 years of public school.

Lol I wouldn't really underestimate its suggestiveness...