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Why Are Priests Celibate

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I am a confirmed Catholic but I have been attending a Lutheran Church lately. I have always wondered why are Priests celibate. It doesn't seem to be scriptural.

Because They are consecrated to the Lord:

Luke 14, 26
{14:26} “If anyone comes to me, and does not hate his father, and
mother, and wife, and children, and brothers, and sisters, and yes,
even his own life, he is not able to be my disciple.

The priests have to accept a total consecration to the Lord as his disciples but they are going to be prized:

Luke 18, 28 - 30

{18:28} And Peter said,“Behold, we have left everything, and we have
followed you.” {18:29} And he said to them: “Amen, I say to you,
there is no one who has left behind home, or parents, or brothers, or a
wife, or children, for the sake of the kingdom of God, {18:30} who will
not receive much more in this time, and in the age to come eternal life.”

I am not a confirmed catholic but i know a bit of scripture.
 
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Why a Celibate Priesthood?

The spiritual and practical reasons are rife


The celibacy of the Catholic priesthood is a sign of great contradiction in our time. Our culture stares at it in blank incomprehension, and on that blankness it projects numerous fantasies to try to explain it.
So we are told both that St. Paul forbade celibacy as a mark of false religion and that he was the cause of the whole thing. Many people point to married apostles of old or married clergy today and say this means the Church cannot legitimately legislate celibacy for clergy.
Most non-Catholics—and even some Catholics—are pretty sure that Jesus would oppose a celibate priesthood. We hear that it comes from “the Dark Ages” and is caused by a Catholic hatred of sex. Some are certain that celibacy is due to repression. Many are mystified why the Church doesn’t just dump the whole celibacy thing and get back to the mission of fitting people for heaven.
Partly this is due to a feeling common in our debased and hedonistic post-Christian culture: that, married or not, it’s simply unnatural for anyone to not engage in sex. As our culture returns to paganism, we make the pagan mistake of the worship of created things—the perennial favorites being money, sex, and power—rather than of the Creator.
A counter-witness to selfishness
Since mainstream American culture has no idea what to do with the discipline of celibacy, it regards it with visceral disapproval. Since this is the majority reaction, let’s start with that gut response that celibacy threatens our mainstream cultural imperative to be a selfish pig and indulge in consequence-free sex.
But that’s praise, not criticism. The Catholic tradition of consecrated celibacy is supposed to threaten that debased cultural imperative and provide a counter-witness to the mere selfish indulgence of appetite that our consumerist society promotes. A civilization founded on the worship of pleasure is a civilization on a fast track toward ceasing to be a civilization. And an “argument” against celibacy that boils down to “Me want sex now” is not an argument but something more like the grunt of an animal.
The Christian traditions of consecrated virginity and marriage provide counter-witnesses to the post-Christian Cult of the Pig precisely because they bear witness to the fact that we are called to sacrifice our bodies in love for another, not feed our piggy appetites at the expense of others. Whether ones makes the self-offering through the sacrament of marriage (with its complete giving of the self to God, spouse, and children) or by offering oneself as a living sacrifice to God in service to his people, the basic message is the same: It’s not all about me. I find my life by losing it; or I lose my life by selfishly trying to keep it.
Beyond the post-Christian culture’s selfish suspicion of consecrated virginity is a more principled objection. Those who are familiar with the basics of the gospel message know that fornication is not compatible with Christian morality. So they recognize that, whatever else may be the case, the neo-pagan attempt to critique celibacy by means of appeal to licentiousness is a bad one.
There remains nonetheless a notion as common in Protestant (and dissenting Catholic) culture as it was in ancient Israel: that it’s just unnatural to forgo marriage. This appears to be backed up by passages in the New Testament like this:
Now the Spirit expressly says that in later times some will depart from the faith by giving heed to deceitful spirits and doctrines of demons, through the pretensions of liars whose consciences are seared, who forbid marriage and enjoin abstinence from foods which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth (1 Tim. 4:1-4).
Some Protestants therefore imagine that because priests cannot marry, the Church is enacting the “doctrines of demons” and “forbidding marriage.”
A higher vocation
But this is a hasty assessment, given that the Church also celebrates marriage as a sacrament. It is also, by the way, a very narrow reading of Paul, who was himself a celibate and who urged consecrated celibacy as the higher vocation than marriage:
It is well for a man not to touch a woman. But because of the temptation to immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not rule over her own body, but the husband does; likewise the husband does not rule over his own body, but the wife does. Do not refuse one another except perhaps by agreement for a season, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, lest Satan tempt you through lack of self-control. I say this by way of concession, not of command. I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own special gift from God, one of one kind and one of another (1 Cor. 7:1-7).
Paul’s basic concern is that to be married is to be distracted from the spiritual:
The unmarried man is anxious about the affairs of the Lord, how to please the Lord; but the married man is anxious about worldly affairs, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided. And the unmarried woman or girl is anxious about the affairs of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit; but the married woman is anxious about worldly affairs, how to please her husband (1 Cor. 7:32-34).
Though he is concerned about that division of heart, Paul denies that marriage is a sin. He merely insists that it is a lesser state in life than consecrated celibacy: “So that he who marries his betrothed does well; and he who refrains from marriage will do better” (1 Cor. 7:38).
Paul gets this thinking neither from the Dark Ages nor as the result of repression but from a consecrated virgin named Jesus of Nazareth. He, like Paul, was unmarried and commended consecrated celibacy as a gift of God. That’s what he’s getting at in this incident from Matthew 19:9-12:
“And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for unchastity, and marries another commits adultery; and he who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.” The disciples said to him, “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is not expedient to marry.” But he said to them, “Not all men can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given. For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. He who is able to receive this, let him receive it.”
Note how similar Paul’s thinking is to Jesus’. Marriage is a good thing but a difficult thing, to the degree that, when Jesus describes what Christian marriage really entails, the apostles blanch and declare it is not expedient to marry. The summary of this passage: Not everyone can choose to be celibate, but those who can should, for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. It’s exactly the same admonition as in 1 Corinthians: Marriage is good, but celibacy is better.
Since Jesus is celibate, and since, as Paul says, celibacy for the sake of Christ is a higher state than marriage, and since a priest is an alter Christus (“other Christ”) when he is standing in the place of Christ to celebrate the Eucharist (i.e., the marriage supper of the Lamb), we should not be surprised that in antiquity the discipline grew up (spontaneously, from the grass roots) of more and more priests likewise choosing to be celibate.
The discipline was lived out in different ways, depending on where you were in the Church. In the East, priests but not bishops may marry. In the West, priests and bishops are celibate. But much the same spirit was at work in both “lungs” of the Church. The idea was that celibacy is a higher calling, as well as a superior practical arrangement, given the responsibilities of the priesthood.

A matter of legislation?
Some will say that because celibacy is now a matter of legislation in the Church rather than grass-roots volunteerism, it is no longer a legitimate practice. But, of course, the Church has a perfect right to order its internal affairs as it pleases. Nor is anybody compelled to be ordained. Rather, what the Church does—and has a perfect right to do—is tell the prospective priest that he is welcome to consider the priesthood but that if he does, consecrated virginity is part of the package.
Why does the Western Church bother with this? After all, even within the Catholic Church there are rites that do not require priestly celibacy. Even in the Latin rite—which normally does require it—there are exceptions made for certain priests who have, for example, converted from other traditions.
Partly, celibacy is retained because of the native tendency not to change disciplines without a really good reason. This mind-set is, yet again, in sharp contrast to post-modernity’s Cult of the Now, which is perpetually saying, “I don’t see the point of this!” as it recklessly destroys it knows not what, only to discover that it has just smashed a priceless work of art or driven into extinction a plant species that might have cured cancer.
It is this reckless mentality G.K. Chesterton addresses with characteristic common sense when he says:
There exists in such a case a certain institution or law; let us say for the sake of simplicity, a fence or gate erected across a road. The more modern type of reformer goes gaily up to it and says, “I don't see the use of this; let us clear it away.” To which the more intelligent type of reformer will do well to answer: “If you don't see the use of it, I certainly won’t let you clear it away. Go away and think. Then, when you can come back and tell me that you do see the use of it, I may allow you to destroy it” (The Thing: Why I Am Catholic).
An eschatological witness
In the case of celibacy, there is something often overlooked in addition to the practical pastoral matters that celibacy helps the Church face (divided wills, the trouble of playing favorites with family members, domestic distractions, et cetera): the fact that the priest is an eschatological witness.
What does that three-dollar word mean? It means that, like Jesus, the priest is a witness to the life of the world to come. That is why it is nonsensical to speak of getting rid of celibacy so that the priest can get on with helping people get to heaven. By his celibacy, that is precisely what he is doing. That is, in part, one of the implications of Jesus’ saying “in the resurrection they neither marry nor are given in marriage, but are like angels in heaven” (Matt. 22:30).
The point of this strange saying is not that we lose our bodies. The whole point of the resurrection is that we keep our bodies. Rather, it is first of all that our glorified bodies are no longer afflicted with concupiscence and therefore we will no longer require oaths of marital fidelity to keep us faithful.
More than this, however, is the fact that our bodies will be participants in the ecstatic life of God to such a degree that sexual intercourse will be rendered neither desirable nor necessary. Our inability to conceive of this, as C.S. Lewis points out in his book Miracles, is rather like a child’s inability to conceive of any greater bodily pleasure than a chocolate drop. Sex and marriage will be superseded by something far better in the resurrection.
And Jesus is the Resurrection (John 11:25). So his celibacy—and the celibacy of the priest who stands as alter Christus in the celebration of the sacrament—is not merely a practical consideration. It is, in fact, a sign of the life of the world to come when the human race, freed to love fully, will find earthly joys swallowed up in the perfect, self-donating love of God.
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But where in the Bible does it say that Pastors, or Bishops - Priests are not to have a wife? Didn't most of the 12 Apostles have wives?


Why should they be married?

Apostle John never married. He was very young when he began to follow the Lord. Peter had to leave his wife, his house, children, ship etc. etc. to Follow the Lord. The Bible says that john was the most loved disciple, but the Bible also says tha tPeter was the one who loved the Lord the most.

Paul says that Bishops should be married with only one woman, and he said it because many men were maried with many women, but he stresses that he would like that everybody should be like him, Celibate.


[1 Timothy 3]
{3:1} It is a faithful saying: if a man desires the
episcopate, he desires a good work. {3:2} Therefore, it is
necessary for a bishop to be beyond reproach, the husband of
one wife, sober, prudent, gracious, chaste, hospitable, a
teacher, {3:3} not a drunkard, not combative but restrained,
not quarrelsome, not covetous; {3:4} but a man who leads his
own house well, having children who are subordinate with all
chastity.

But Paul also says:

[1 Corinthians 7]


{7:1} Now concerning the things about
which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a
woman. {7:2} But, because of fornication, let each man have
his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
{7:3} A husband should fulfill his obligation to his wife, and
a wife should also act similarly toward her husband. {7:4} It
is not the wife, but the husband, who has power over her
body. But, similarly also, it is not the husband, but the wife,
who has power over his body. {7:5} So, do not fail in your
obligations to one another, except perhaps by consent, for a
limited time, so that you may empty yourselves for prayer.
And then, return together again, lest Satan tempt you by
means of your abstinence. {7:6} But I am saying this, neither
as an indulgence, nor as a commandment. {7:7} For I would
prefer it if you were all like myself. But each person has his
proper gift from God: one in this way, yet another in that
way.


So Paul says that he would rather that men be like him, celibates, and when he says that bishops should be married with only one woman is to forbid a bishop with more than one, not to ban celibate bishops.

 
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Why should they be married?

Apostle John never married. He was very young when he began to follow the Lord. Peter had to leave his wife, his house, children, ship etc. etc. to Follow the Lord. The Bible says that john was the most loved disciple, but the Bible also says tha tPeter was the one who loved the Lord the most.

Paul says that Bishops should be married with only one woman, and he said it because many men were maried with many women, but he stresses that he would like that everybody should be like him, Celibate.


[1 Timothy 3]
{3:1} It is a faithful saying: if a man desires the
episcopate, he desires a good work. {3:2} Therefore, it is
necessary for a bishop to be beyond reproach, the husband of
one wife, sober, prudent, gracious, chaste, hospitable, a
teacher, {3:3} not a drunkard, not combative but restrained,
not quarrelsome, not covetous; {3:4} but a man who leads his
own house well, having children who are subordinate with all
chastity.

But Paul also says:

[1 Corinthians 7]


{7:1} Now concerning the things about
which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a
woman. {7:2} But, because of fornication, let each man have
his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
{7:3} A husband should fulfill his obligation to his wife, and
a wife should also act similarly toward her husband. {7:4} It
is not the wife, but the husband, who has power over her
body. But, similarly also, it is not the husband, but the wife,
who has power over his body. {7:5} So, do not fail in your
obligations to one another, except perhaps by consent, for a
limited time, so that you may empty yourselves for prayer.
And then, return together again, lest Satan tempt you by
means of your abstinence. {7:6} But I am saying this, neither
as an indulgence, nor as a commandment. {7:7} For I would
prefer it if you were all like myself. But each person has his
proper gift from God: one in this way, yet another in that
way.


So Paul says that he would rather that men be like him, celibates, and when he says that bishops should be married with only one woman is to forbid a bishop with more than one, not to ban celibate bishops.


How do you know that Peter and John were not married. Actually Church tradition has it that they were married.

Also, you are correct that Paul said that Bishops should have one wife. So why the call for celibacy.
 
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But where in the Bible does it say that Pastors, or Bishops - Priests are not to have a wife? Didn't most of the 12 Apostles have wives?


Priestly celibacy is not a doctrine or a dogma, it is a discipline. In fact, the Pope could decide that it is time, again, to allow priests to marry. There have been married priests in the past.

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Priestly celibacy is not a doctrine or a dogma, it is a discipline. In fact, the Pope could decide that it is time, again, to allow priests to marry. There have been married priests in the past.

Janice

There actually are married priests in the Church today, the Eastern Catholic ones. The difference is only married men can be ordained, but Priests cannot marry.
 
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Not all priests ARE celibate. Priests of the Eastern Rite in communion with Rome can be married, as are men who were married as Anglican or Protestant ministers and who converted and became Catholic priests. Celibacy is a discipline, not an unchangeable doctrine.

To learn about the reasons why, one should read some history of the Catholic Church, noting that for the first 1000 years or so many priests were married. The rule of celibacy was not closely followed or enforced. The reasons for changing the rule or making it more strict may have had more to do with the passing on of "benefices" from a priest to his sons than for any theological reason. During the Middle Ages churches and dioceses were money-making centers and some priests and most bishops controlled property and wealth that many wanted to keep in the "family". Requiring celibacy and preventing children of priests from inheriting property was a big step in ending this abuse. Changing the process of priestly formation and the creation of seminaries for each diocese, putting control of its ordained priests firmly in the hands of the Church, also made a huge difference.

Then there is the ongoing question of how many priests in recent times have actually remained celibate, or want to. There have been several instances, in documents related to the sexual abuse crisis, of priests reported as stating that they believed "celibacy did not mean going without sex". And then there are the examples of several well-known priests and bishops who have maintained conjugal relationships (some long term) and fathered children, yet didn't see that as a detriment to their position or role as Catholic priests or bishops (until they were caught).

I have always found it somewhat amusing that Paul called for a church's overseers (bishops) to have just one wife. It makes me wonder what was acceptable for all the rest of the faithful (including other church leaders), and to realize that there must have been, in some places, bishops with more than one wife. Otherwise, why try to limit the number?
 
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I am a confirmed Catholic but I have been attending a Lutheran Church lately. I have always wondered why are Priests celibate. It doesn't seem to be scriptural.

If Matthew 19:12, 1 Cor 7:32-38, and I cor 7:8 isn't, then what is? Don't tell me Martin Luther threw out these books also ;)

If you don't mind, tell us why you left the Church for a man made religion, I'm very curious.

God Bless!
 
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Good answers. Thank you. I have been considering returning to the Catholic faith but this is one issue that has kept me from doing so.

I'm happy your considering returning to the Church, welcome home. I'm actually a recent convert and I don't regret it one bit. If you ever have any questions, don't hesitate to message me.

God Bless!
 
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If Matthew 19:12, 1 Cor 7:32-38, and I cor 7:8 isn't, then what is? Don't tell me Martin Luther threw out these books also ;)

If you don't mind, tell us why you left the Church for a man made religion, I'm very curious.

God Bless!

Hi, those are good verses thank you! I mainly am attending the Lutheran Church because that is where my family goes but I have been thinking about returning to the Catholic Church. I just have a few unanswered questions about it.
 
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Hi, those are good verses thank you! I mainly am attending the Lutheran Church because that is where my family goes but I have been thinking about returning to the Catholic Church. I just have a few unanswered questions about it.

Well to be honest I'm the only Roman catholic in my family and attend church alone. My entire family is Non denominational and Pentecostal, yet I don't attend their "churches" (more like communities). It's best to go where the fullness of truth is my friend, if I can do it you can also. Didn't anyone ever tell you I'm 16? :)

God Bless
 
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Because a single person can concentrate all of his energies on serving the Lord and the Church. A married man has to think of his family first.

Not to mention - have you been in a church where the pastor has kids? Without fail they're the worst behaved kids in church. I've known more than one pastor who had his ministry destroyed by out of control children. I've always thought that that fishbowl life that is the life of a preacher's kid is just too much for most children - so they rebel.
 
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Because a single person can concentrate all of his energies on serving the Lord and the Church. A married man has to think of his family first.

Not to mention - have you been in a church where the pastor has kids? Without fail they're the worst behaved kids in church. I've known more than one pastor who had his ministry destroyed by out of control children. I've always thought that that fishbowl life that is the life of a preacher's kid is just too much for most children - so they rebel.

Interesting that I didn't notice pastors having the worst misbehaved children haha!
 
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My priest lives an hour away and yet has come to my home to bless it and meet with my wife ten times more than any Catholic priest I ever had who lives five minutes from my house....and my priest has a wife and 2 kids. Both of his boys are AWESOME, incredible boys who are not only very intelligent, but extremely mature.

It's just anecdotal, but when I was an Anglican and since being Orthodox, the married priests I have known were awesome and very pastoral. My worst experiences with priests being aloof, uncaring, missing appointments, and seeming apathetic were my Catholic experiences. Mind you, this is anecdotal, not a commentary on all the faith. But I do personally feel that the idea that a priest with kids and a wife can't do what a single priest can do is absolutely false.

Same idea could apply to teaching, my profession. There are single teachers who almost never go to the extracurricular activities of our students and yet there are married teachers who have 3-4 kids of their own who NEVER miss a student's events!

I personally think a married priesthood would be AN AWESOME THING for Catholicism. But that's only my two cents. :)

Because a single person can concentrate all of his energies on serving the Lord and the Church. A married man has to think of his family first.

Not to mention - have you been in a church where the pastor has kids? Without fail they're the worst behaved kids in church. I've known more than one pastor who had his ministry destroyed by out of control children. I've always thought that that fishbowl life that is the life of a preacher's kid is just too much for most children - so they rebel.
 
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How do you know that Peter and John were not married. Actually Church tradition has it that they were married.

Also, you are correct that Paul said that Bishops should have one wife. So why the call for celibacy.
Peter had a mother-in-law in the gospels. John didn't have any such mention. Got any specifics?
 
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