Hello RD - Feminism is like Christianity in that what people believe varies enormously. I identify as a feminist. The things that matter to me are things like domestic violence, sexual assault and child sexual abuse. And I am also concerned for women developing nations who dont enjoy the right to vote, drive a car, gain an education, or decide for themselves who they want to marry.
I really cant see whats so horrible about those aspirations or why any guys should feel threatened (and in some cases abusive) that Im a feminist and these are the things I want to focus on.
I dont for the record care about what type of man a male aspires to - whether that's the alpha type or something more gentile. Women will gravitate to the male of their preference and as long as the guy is good to his partner then Im fine with it.
Many people who do not identify as feminists care very deeply too about things like domestic violence, sexual assault and child abuse. Many who do not identify with feminists, but agree with certain goals of feminists, such as fundamentalists on the issue of inappropriate contentography, or neocons on the lack of rights of women in developing nations, have found the feminists to be a wall to common goals, rather than a common door.
It is right wing radio, for example, who gives voice to Hirsi Ali, and the leaders and shakers of the feminist movement, who give voice to pro-sharia Linda Sarsour.
After two thousand years of Christianity, and maybe three thousand years of Biblical Judaism before that, we do have a pretty solid understanding of what Christianity is, in spite of the great variance among individual Christians. Thus far, individual idiosyncrasies do not go far in redefining what people understand when they conceptualize Christianity. When CNN reports on the Christian voice on an issue, they go to the Vatican, and maybe some prominent Evangelist in America.
Likewise, when they want the feminist voice, they go to those who have spent their lifetimes denigrating the patriarchy and encouraging alternate relationships that have little use for that strong masculine presence in the home. Women who share values with fundamentalists and neo-cons are never the source used to relay the feminist point of view to us.
It is not by accident that the voice of God's judgment presents itself to us as a masculine one. Women by their very nature of bearing children in effect are a civilizing force by definition of what womanhood is. The Hebrew word for compassion is womb, and it is by her very 'wombness' that a woman recreates our humanity into each successive generation. But for a man to become civilized, he must first own the voice of God as if it were his own voice.
It is through the patriarchy that boys become imprinted with the voice of God, that alone gives masculinity the direction required to build up a society, rather than destroy it in some toxic predatory or parasitic manner.