White lies!

[Svt4Him]

Oh man, where's my "Do not feed the trolls" sign again?

First off you say you're mom is abusing your dad. Then in this thread you say she's crazy. Why is she crazy? She's embarrassing the family. Then she really is crazy, then she needs help. Then you're willing to move in with your abusive mother. Sometimes it's hard keeping all this straight me thinks.

 

[IHMFIL]

First off you say you're mom is abusing your dad. Then in this thread you say she's crazy. Why is she crazy? She's embarrassing the family. Then she really is crazy, then she needs help. Then you're willing to move in with your abusive mother. Sometimes it's hard keeping all this straight me thinks.


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It would kill me to see my mother end up in the streets knowing I was selfish and only thinking about myself if I did not make the ultimate sacrifice for her. But I believe all this could be avoided if only she would seek counseling which I have heard from her a thousand times that she does not believe she has a problem. I think I deserve credit for being willing to help my mother out before she ends up wondering the streets somewhere.

 

[bkg]

Oedipus Complex

 

[Svt4Him]

As nice as that is, it's not the same story. Initially it was 'my mother sent a bad story in' then ...oh, let me quote you:

But something needs to be done because she can be very mean to my Father

It is very humiliating for my Father to read about himself in the paper

Just to show that I'm trying to be compassionate towards my mother, the one incident that I have trouble sharing is that my Father shared with me that my Mother believes the government is flying planes over their house and spying on her

my Father and myself are very concerned about my mother bringing more embarrassment to the family

 

[bliz]

So, we have:

a psychiatrist who is making decisions about a patient he has never met...

a husband who is thinking of divorcing his wife, but only has her best interests at heart

a wife who has terribly embarassed a family by writing a letter to the editor

MDs whose mother has been having problems for years, but they have done nothing to help her

an adult child who is trying to deceive her mother so Daddy will have an easier time of dumping Mom off at the institution

and (soon) an institutionalized wife who will be far less credible in court in divorce proceedings

and an adult daughter thinking of divorcing her husband so she can move back home with Daddy under the guise of helping Daddy with Mom, who will be living in the institution

... and you want to know if it's OK to tell a white lie to plaicate Mom becasue she's suspicious. (Gosh, why ever would your mother be suspicious of your actions?)

Shame on you.

 

[Violet]

So, we have:

a psychiatrist who is making decisions about a patient he has never met...

a husband who is thinking of divorcing his wife, but only has her best interests at heart

a wife who has terribly embarassed a family by writing a letter to the editor

MDs whose mother has been having problems for years, but they have done nothing to help her

an adult child who is trying to deceive her mother so Daddy will have an easier time of dumping Mom off at the institution

and (soon) an institutionalized wife who will be far less credible in court in divorce proceedings

and an adult daughter thinking of divorcing her husband so she can move back home with Daddy under the guise of helping Daddy with Mom, who will be living in the institution

... and you want to know if it's OK to tell a white lie to plaicate Mom becasue she's suspicious. (Gosh, why ever would your mother be suspicious of your actions?)

Shame on you.

yup that sums it up!

 

[LadyDJ]

Considering it is Fathers day this weekend, I want to do something that would make his life better and at the same time help my Mother. Does anyone have a suggestion as to how to get my Mother in the car, because she will not go if she knows in advance it will lead to the psyche ward!

This post took the cake for me....I've been reading these posts and quite frankly I find them incredulous at best.

 

[Svt4Him]

So let me answer the op:

Satan is the father of ALL lies. God is truth, so when one lies, they are going against the character of God Himself. The Bible is clear about those who lie then say they're joking, which I posted in the last thread you posted. You can fool man, but God knows the truth, and God honours truth.

Again IHMFIL, I hope you find what you're looking for, whatever that is. I'm sure this thread will end like the other one, but beyond that, whatever your issues are, I hope you come to peace with whatever journey you are on, and by that I mean the peace that passes even our understanding.

 

[IHMFIL]

Just wanted to let everyone know that my Father has made arrangements with the Psychiatrist to bring my mother in tomorrow. Two of my siblings are flying in from out of state to help make it appear like we are going to spend a fun day together as a family at disneyland. I am getting very sad right now because I love my mother and want the best for her and I don't know what the outcomes of her diagnosis might be. Thank you for all your support and prayers.

 

[IHMFIL]

Oedipus Complex

I have to admit that I don't have a clue as to what you are trying to say bgk, but my guess would be that you are insinuating that my Father is in love with his deceased mother! I don't get what oedipus complex has to do with this thread which is about getting my mother help!

 

[bliz]

I think that bgk is referring to the Electra Complex, which is the gender opposit of the Oedipus Complex, which is better known. In Greek mythology Oedipus killed his father and married his mother. Especially in the light of this talk about you divorcing your husband to go live with Daddy, this could be a large part of what is going on.

 

[Living4Him03]

Do you have antisocial personality disorder?

I'm kind of getting that drift from you.

I would suggest you speak with a therapist. You seem real good at bending the truth. There are meds I believe nowdays for people with antisocial personality disorder. Look it up if you don't know what I'm talking about.

Otherwise, stay out of your Dad's business. It looks like you're setting yourself up for a big laugh if you take your Mom to the psychiatric hospital.

And whatever psychiatrist visited with your Father should not have been discussing your MOTHER'S issues with him. Mental health professionals have ethical standards of conduct. This is one that violates those standards, in most cases anyway. Also, a therapist should not discuss a patient's issues with his/her spouse. That is confidential! Well unless there's child abuse/ elder abuse involved or the professional is subpeoaned by court to testify about a particular session or case. Otherwise, confidentiality must not be breached.

You and your Dad might find yourselves in a lawsuit, so be careful.

 

[IHMFIL]

I think that bgk is referring to the Electra Complex, which is the gender opposit of the Oedipus Complex, which is better known. In Greek mythology Oedipus killed his father and married his mother. Especially in the light of this talk about you divorcing your husband to go live with Daddy, this could be a large part of what is going on.

I would live with my mother because she does not drive and right now my Father only stays the weekends with my mother because they have two homes about 100 miles away from each other. But if my mother has an extended stay I will visit my Father whenever he needs me too.

 

[bkg]

I would live with my mother because she does not drive and right now my Father only stays the weekends with my mother because they have two homes about 100 miles away from each other. But if my mother has an extended stay I will visit my Father whenever he needs me too.

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[bkg]

I think that bgk is referring to the Electra Complex, which is the gender opposit of the Oedipus Complex, which is better known. In Greek mythology Oedipus killed his father and married his mother. Especially in the light of this talk about you divorcing your husband to go live with Daddy, this could be a large part of what is going on.

Thanks, Bliz. You are correct. I goofed that one up!!!

 

[IHMFIL]

I would suggest you speak with a therapist. You seem real good at bending the truth. There are meds I believe nowdays for people with antisocial personality disorder. Look it up if you don't know what I'm talking about.

Thanks Living4Him03, I kinda knew about that but reading about it really helps me now see exactly what the issue is with my husband because he loves to embellish things especially about my Father.

 

[E-beth]

This thread is a train wreck and will be closed.

I think we all should toss up some prayers to Mom, whom I would love to take to Disneyland...for real.

 

[I'ddie4him]

THREAD CLOSED.

OK, Things are quite messy here right now, So, I am going to close this now.
I hope that any and all parties here who need any kind of help will seek the help they need from the appropriate proffesionals.