GrayArea said:
If love were dependant on actions, no infant in this world would be loved. There is nothing more physically demanding, more emotionally taxing and less rewarding than motherhood. Yet the mother's love is unconditional despite the fact the baby has done nothing to deserve it but simply exist. How much greated is Gods love for us. (all of us)[/size][/size][/size]
If i gave my son the choice and he turned on me when i offered him help. If i could have stepped in and pushed him clear of the truck but didn't. Would i simply stop loving him and leave him to suffer the rest of his life alone because of it? nope. First, I'd feel incredibly guilty! I wouldn't abandon him forever simply because he was being careless and crude. My love for him isn't that shallow and restrained. Surely having created us God must understand our shortcomings. Surely having sent Jesus he must understand forgiveness without boudries better than I. How is it possible then that his children still die?
God's children don't die (God stepped in, He sent His Son). Paul is very careful about that, he does not say concerning them which are dead, he speaks of them that are asleep.
"But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope."
Jesus died but He did not stay dead. He is risen and alive. He is "the firstborn among many brethren." (Rom. 8:29) He is "the image of the invisible God, the firstborn of every creature." (Col. 1:15)
I have yet to experience any boundaries in God's forgiveness and I can honestly say I have tried my worst to find out the limits. During His last moments He asked God to forgive them. I hope I will never have to find out, be tested whether I am able to forgive in similar circumstances.
Death is not something frightful, not when your spirit is alive:
"1Co 15:55 O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory?" (1 cor. 15:55)
God's forgiveness and love is so great that nothing can separate us from Him:
"For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord." (Rom. 8:38,39)
God wants His children to be with Him. I don't have children myself, but I do know parents who want their children to return home at a certain time (and the kids are not always in agreement, they would rather stay longer at the party, watch another movie with a friend, etc.). They are not always that keen to go home and spend quality, family time with their parents.
GrayArea said:
[/size][/font]You want God to force you to love Him and do what He knows is best for you? Do you want him to railroad you into heaven? (pun intended). What kind of love would that be, if it is forced upon an indivudual?
Do what's best for me? Yes. I do. Force me to love him? Can one stand in God's presence and NOT love him for saving us even if it had been agaisnt our will?
When i told my daughter at the age of 2 not to put her hand on the stove, consiquently igniting her nightgown, she yelled at me. She not only yelled but she kicked and screamed and beat on me. She even said she hated me for doing stuff like that on several occasions. Todlers do that. So then, did I pull her to safety FOR love or OUT of love? Would i tell her she has to love me because i saved her silly little tail from 3rd degree burns? Nope. I could care less. I just wanted her to be safe because i love her. To love or to be loved?
God does not safe you against your will. I did not get up one morning and got the message: you are safed now, you are in My hands. you can throw a temper but I will take you to heaven any day I feel convenient/necessary.
God did not ask any of us for permission to sent His Son and have Him die for us. He just did it. Jesus is standing at the door and knocks - you don't have to open the door. If you do, He will be with you. If you don't, He does not kill you right there, right then. Eventually both - those that open their door and receive Him and those that don't will die. But those who have opened their door and let Him in, will be with Him and alive.
God does not force us to love Him. Many people don't love Him, don't believe in Him. And they all live and they do live pretty well. Often they have a better life then those who do love Him and believe in Him. And would you want to have over those kids who hate you? Who mistreat, despise your child - the child you love? To what purpose? So that the enmity continues? And we keep discussing whether God is love and whether He is just for all eternity in heaven?
God is not in the emotional blackmail business. He gave His Son, He did not pull Him out of a dangerous situation, He let Him hang there (literally). But He does not safe you against your will, that is your decision. You can take it or leave it. And He did this out of love. I cannot love God back the way and to the extent He does. I am still alive and rather well, although I had a long period of time where I did not want to have anything to do with Him, where I went on a distance, where I clearly loved someone else. I lived through that and slept well.
Until I started missing Him. Until I felt so heartbroken that my love for this man was not returned and how sorrowful that made me feel ... and then the thought crossed my mind: yea, well ... isn't that how God must feel by now? And I did not even give up my only child for that man. I did not have to see my own child suffer trials, whippings, insults, immense torture, so that man could be well.
All I did was spent a few years hoping to be with that man, that he would return my love. He does not. And of late, I don't mind. I don't insist that he loves me and marries me. All I want is that I will see him again and not have to lose sight of him. Of course, I would be dishonest if I were to deny that I have deep down the hope that this man will be saved and that God somehow rearranges things so that I am not in a different country anymore and that He will bring us together. But given the choice, I am willing to give him up, or the hope of being with him, being loved by him ...
It took me a long time to get to this point, and it was not an easy process ... but as imperfect humans are and as imperfect our love is, we are capable of making a choice between to love and to be loved. But just because I have to struggle in this matter and just because I can't live up to my choice (to love instead of being loved) 100 % does not mean that God has the same difficulties.
It was Him in the first place who taught me about this kind of love, His love. He loved me when I did not He existed, He loved me before I accepted Him, He loved me when I left Him and wondered away, He loved me when I came back (and came back hesitantly), He loves me even though He knows that I am thinking more of this man than of Him, He loved me even though I did not even want to talk to Him, did not want to hear from Him.
When I go home to be with Him, my report card won't be anything to be proud of and I won't be very anxious to show it to Him, but I know He still loves me.
I walked out of Him, turned aside and He did not bother during that time. Nothing bad happened to me. He just waited a couple of years until I was turning to Him again. And I hesitated weeks to "contact" Him - I was postponing that meeting. But in the end I did.
I believe that God could have at any time, any given moment forced me to my knees. In another matter which had nothing to do with love and where my love for Him was not in question, He actually did. This time He did not. He did not interfere, He waited. While I was wishing for that man to take notice of me (that would have been a good start!) and being unhappy about not having this wish fulfilled, being angry at God (I have no doubt in my mind He could have made arrangements) about it ... God was waiting for me to take notice of Him, God - but not being angry.
God wants me to be save because He loves me, God wants all of us to be saved becaue He loves us ... but He knows that love requires choice, not force. I cannot be with a man unless I accept him, I cannot be with God unless I accept His Son. Take Rebekah for example, "And they called Rebekah, and said unto her, Wilt thou go with this man? And she said, I will go." (Gen. 24:58). Rebekah was asked, she could choose whether to go to be married to Isaac or not. Nobody forced her. Yes, the servant gave presents to her and to her family but I don't read anywhere (not in that passage or in any other place) that Rebekah was told: Look, I got you this and this. I came all the way just to get you out of here. No, all she had to do was answer a simple question. Without her acceptence of Isaac, she would not have become his bride, she would not have been with him.