I'm going to respond assuming you mean "are".
The equation is not even about judging others. The equation is about judging what is right or wrong objectively. Yes, it implies that we as a community should not allow immoral behavior, but that is an objective view. Subjectively, Love is transitory, able to change from wrath to forgiveness. That is, one day you may forgive, which is only yours to do out of your love. It's your call, not anyone else's.
The mind reasons on fundamental dichotomies such as good/bad, true/false, knowledge/ignorance, reality/unreality, sane/insane, etc. These are perceived as positive/negative in our comprehension. Objectivity must assume the positive comes first in any reasonable proposition which is meant to draw a distinction between positive and negative.
For example, when we have a circumstance where we know something is true and something is false, but the false is posing as something true, we must assume objectively that the truth exists before the lie because the lie only exists to subvert the truth. Hence there has to be an objective Truth and it cannot possibly be immorality.
However, in the case of a subjective view, it is reasoned that, objectively speaking, the opposite is true concerning this, because ignorance precedes knowledge in every subjective view, which is why it's subjective.
I'm going to cut this short. What I'm getting at is that since we must assume that Love is the positive, then the person who raped you is going to one day regret what he did and it will burden him and steal his joy every day of his life, even because morality came first and was betrayed through immorality which produced hatred for him, in you. This necessarily means that when that regret comes, he will then know something he didn't know when he did the act, that had he known then he would not have done it in the first place. If you ponder this, you may find your way to forgive and move on. I sincerely and literally weep for you, and the joy that was once innocent that is lost in this world.
We wont wotk out fine points of objective /subjective, and thats ok.
After much effort we'd prolly find there never really was a difference
You talk elsewhere if Christian values and we really dont have
so much incommon. Christian "Love" has no counterpart,
no meaning to us.
"God is love" is just words to me.
Also the dichotomy thing. Very few things would
be considered to be all good or all bad. Life is far
more subtle than that.
On "forgive", never. I see westerners coming out first thing
to say they forgive the most hideous crimes.
I dont know if it is real or not.
Doesnt matter. From me, never.
We understand well that hate corrodes the vessel
that holds it.
I dont hate him anymore, no more than I hate the
typhoon that damaged our home.
Id like to think he would come around and his
conscience will make him pay. Even become a good
person and then I dont think he even needs to pay more
I deeply doubt that is possible.
Anyone who saw me afterwards would know the man was a sadist,
a sick evil man whose pleasure was to hurt me. I am lucky to have
survived.
No love, no forgive. I trust that makes sense.
I appreciate your words of compassion. Im not seeking them,
just saying how it is. But thank you.