Hey I’m not blaming women at all,not even in the slightest,I’ve never blamed women for anything.And I’m sorry if I made the post seem like it’s implying that.
While I didn’t name anyone in my response I appreciate your courtesy and clarification. The topic is difficult and I empathize with those struggling. But the spirit is wrong. We can’t allow unfulfilled desires to permit us to slander others.
An inability to find a companion doesn’t equal a proliferation of ungodliness and unequal pairings. It’s a mental fallacy. You can’t reach that conclusion with those parameters. You need more to go on.
And if you’ve never had a partner you can’t say most women are ungodly or connecting with unsaved men. You have nothing to draw from and haven’t experienced them beyond attraction.
You have to go beyond that to discern someone’s character and spiritual maturity. And you can’t do it from afar. You need time in their presence to observe your spirit’s response to theirs. That’s contingent on your maturity too. You may be enamored with other things which blind you to the truth.
Interacting with someone as a friend or acquaintance differs when mutual attraction exists. There’s more intimacy and openness. You’ll have conversations you won’t have with others. And see behaviors that don’t come out elsewhere. That’s how some can be a saint in church and hell elsewhere. You don’t experience that side of them.
You need to see people behind closed doors so to speak. Outside of religious and work settings. Because they’re likely to behave better than they would otherwise. That’s why you’re advised to observe their behavior with the needy and service staff. Situations where they aren’t required to do the right thing. Or when they’re upset, frustrated, and disappointed. That’s when the real you shows up.
The bible tells us to test all things. I’m not encountering droves of Christian men cast aside for unbelievers. The union in itself is a failure of discernment. You shouldn’t be attracting them or find them appealing. If you are you you’re the problem.
Once we move past the physical the conversation settles it. Our words, behavior and mindset bear witness to our philosophies. It shouldn’t take long to realize we’re looking at oil and water. We know it because the signs are there.
There’s a correlation between attraction and presentation. We’re sending signals and drawing the same. If the other is on the wrong frequency ask why? You get oddballs now and then. But it shouldn’t be a steady stream.
If you’re spiritually hot you shouldn’t attract lukewarm women. They’re not after a man chasing holiness. Because they’re incompatible. They want someone spiritually permissive who compromises like they do.
Overstatement is commonplace. Everyone prays an hour, reads the bible daily and so on. But the devil is a lie. Because the more time you spend in His presence the faster the demolition…breakthrough…deliverance…etc. The immersion causes it.
When you have a zeal for God the conversations are meaty and you recognize your kinsmen. There’s a lot of rhema and less worldliness. They encourage holiness and support you when you’re struggling. They don’t lower the bar or suggest you do the same.
An excellent wife is the crown of her husband. And what is a crown? A reward of victory or mark of honor. Someone who walks the walk and talks the talk whose bearing is a badge of distinction. Would you recognize her if you saw her? That’s the question every man should ask.
