When a guy says he's looking for a smart woman..what all does that entail?

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Like when they have that as one of their requirements; smart,sexy, funny...?

I always get the other 2 and miss that one lol. I'm not mindnumbingly dumb... But I'm just not into politics or history. I assume being smart goes beyond just having a degree(does it?) I Remeber this one guy I talked to told me all about the Clinton presidency and it just bored me to be honest.

I feel bad because politics,government as well as other subjects are important.....in just not into it... And it gets to me sometimes... I'm just not into it. And it makes me feel stupid... I mean ill study it if I need to.

I guess its always good to be a well rounded person, you know?

But if anyone could explain this for me, preferably a guy(girls can still answer) , that would be helpful.

 

[Left]

Smart = geeky or nerdy, in my opinion.

Others may disagree.

 

[ReesePiece23]

Smart in the things that matter - i.e. common sense, sound judgement, philosophical wisdom, a view of the bigger picture, etc.

Politics and all of that sort of thing is just an illusion, and a whole load of hot air.

 

[La'ei Kahue]

Like when they have that as one of their requirements; smart,sexy, funny...?

I always get the other 2 and miss that one lol. I'm not mindnumbingly dumb... But I'm just not into politics or history. I assume being smart goes beyond just having a degree(does it?) I Remeber this one guy I talked to told me all about the Clinton presidency and it just bored me to be honest.

I feel bad because politics,government as well as other subjects are important.....in just not into it... And it gets to me sometimes... I'm just not into it. And it makes me feel stupid... I mean ill study it if I need to.

I guess its always good to be a well rounded person, you know?

But if anyone could explain this for me, preferably a guy(girls can still answer) , that would be helpful.

I had a boyfriend who likes smart girls before, and have had a few guys say this, I think it means the male wants a girl who he can an intelligent conversation with or a girl who has a clever mind so that he wouldn't have to over think things. Honestly, I believe in your case, it is that he wants an intelligent girl who he can talk about real world matters with and such.

 

[Slytherina]

You need to have a knowledge about many things. You need to be clever, Not falling for silly things. And you need to have some purpose and a depth of character, Not be a shallow chick who only knows how to gossip and speak about things that make absolutely zero sense.

Smart, good guys want someone they can debate about things. Not someone that they only have fun with. Most men don't like fun to begin with. That's a girly thing.

But ignore what I've said now and tell me: What kind of a guy would you want? Yes, One of your requirements is surely ''Smart.'' Isn't it? And maybe even you yourself, Can't exactly determine, What you consider as ''smart.'' You just don't want an idiot.

Not to mention, The smarter the guy is, The smarter the girl has to be. Some not-very-intelligent people can consider even an idiot to be smart. Geniuses, On the other hand, Require you to be as extraordinary as them.

The fact stands, That men are more intelligent than women and they want a special woman who they can talk to.

 

[Hawthorne]

@Slytherina sounds as if she's training a king's mistress, ha, ha.

A comprehensive knowledge of every subject is not required; usually enough to allow an informed conversation. Having an area or two of special interest is always a plus. I knew a young woman I would consider 'smart' who had devoted a number of years to studying the Tudors, and, specifically Mary Tudor. While conversant in many other areas, she really shone when discussing history.

A smart person requires more than head knowledge, and veers into the realm of speech (is your syntax articulate) and a desire to learn: people enjoy talking about what they know, and smart people enjoy learning new things and hearing different perspectives.

 

[S.O.J.I.A.]

you would need to ask the person who said that what they mean.

 

[redblue22]

I'm not smart enough to know what that means. I really wouldn't want to be with someone who is all academic, wants to debate, and only does intellectual smart people things. Boring. I do not like when some smart person uses it to trick or judge others. I like asking questions though. I wonder if I am smart enough. I think I'm one of those not-very-intelligent peoples because I don't meet too many idiots; all people are gifted. I like to share smiles. Let a person be themselves. Be intimate. I want love. What is smarter than that?

 

[Slytherina]

When people say they want someone smart, They're never reffering to someone who's a pro in Math. That's not the kind of ''smart'' that this is about.

As I've said, They just want someone who they can chat with well. And that can't be done, If the other person is way below your level of intelligence - Unless you really like it when you're the one talking and the other person is just nodding in amazement.

 

[redblue22]

That explains something. I'm usually the one in amazement. Smart people don't seem to like a lot of questions that come with amazement.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

That explains something. I'm usually the one in amazement. Smart people don't seem to like a lot of questions that come with amazement.

Same here :/ I usually like listening to what they have to say.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

When people say they want someone smart, They're never reffering to someone who's a pro in Math. That's not the kind of ''smart'' that this is about.

As I've said, They just want someone who they can chat with well. And that can't be done, If the other person is way below your level of intelligence - Unless you really like it when you're the one talking and the other person is just nodding in amazement.

Actually, I have a really knowledgeable friend but he has social anxiety and doesn't talk much...so...being a low level of intelligence isn't always the reason for not having anything to say.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

I'm not smart enough to know what that means. I really wouldn't want to be with someone who is all academic, wants to debate, and only does intellectual smart people things. Boring. I do not like when some smart person uses it to trick or judge others. I like asking questions though. I wonder if I am smart enough. I think I'm one of those not-very-intelligent peoples because I don't meet too many idiots; all people are gifted. I like to share smiles. Let a person be themselves. Be intimate. I want love. What is smarter than that?

Yes I agree with this alot. One guy a really liked was very smart but it felt like I was always taking a test when I was around him,,,and I didn't like that. But its good to be well rounded I guess., but stuff like politics and even practical matters is so boring to me.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

@Slytherina sounds as if she's training a king's mistress, ha, ha.

A comprehensive knowledge of every subject is not required; usually enough to allow an informed conversation. Having an area or two of special interest is always a plus. I knew a young woman I would consider 'smart' who had devoted a number of years to studying the Tudors, and, specifically Mary Tudor. While conversant in many other areas, she really shone when discussing history.

A smart person requires more than head knowledge, and veers into the realm of speech (is your syntax articulate) and a desire to learn: people enjoy talking about what they know, and smart people enjoy learning new things and hearing different perspectives.

What do you mean a King's mistress in training ? :/

But it seems as if I have to brush up on alot,,,everything really.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

I had a boyfriend who likes smart girls before, and have had a few guys say this, I think it means the male wants a girl who he can an intelligent conversation with or a girl who has a clever mind so that he wouldn't have to over think things. Honestly, I believe in your case, it is that he wants an intelligent girl who he can talk about real world matters with and such.

What were some of the things he'd talk to you about ?

 

[Slytherina]

Same here :/ I usually like listening to what they have to say.

Then listen carefully and remember what they've said. The next time you'll meet a smart person, You can repeat it and act smart.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Then listen carefully and remember what they've said. The next time you'll meet a smart person, You can repeat it and act smart.

I rather not act, if I have to act the person isn't worth my time. Maybe I should find someone like me who just likes me for me...idk.

Thanks for your advice.

 

[Saucy]

Yeah, I think you'll get a different answer every time with this question. What's considered intelligent varies from person to person.

For me personally, I like to take the verse about being unequally yoked as literal as possible. People dont follow that at all and just go with warm fuzzies or attractiveness.

In terms of "unequally yoked", it's perfectly fine to have different interests. I'll never expect or demand someone to watch football with me on Sunday or whatever, but I'd like to be with someone who is a lot like me: passionate, driven, etc.

It's not about having a college degree or being the smartest person in the room, but rather someone who can integrate smoothly into their way of life. Are we similarly passionate about certain things? Do you have drive and can get things done? Are you building something in your life and trying to reach a goal or just sitting around and waiting for someone to save you?

I know girls who just sit around and wait to be saved by a man. They do nothing, they have no drive, maybe mom and dad pays for everything so they dont even have to try.

I guess it's the same for everyone. Smart and intelligent is just a buzzword that can mean any number of things. You might be considered smart to Person A, but dumb to Person B.

With the right person, Ill be right for them.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

Yeah, I think you'll get a different answer every time with this question. What's considered intelligent varies from person to person.

For me personally, I like to take the verse about being unequally yoked as literal as possible. People dont follow that at all and just go with warm fuzzies or attractiveness.

In terms of "unequally yoked", it's perfectly fine to have different interests. I'll never expect or demand someone to watch football with me on Sunday or whatever, but I'd like to be with someone who is a lot like me: passionate, driven, etc.

It's not about having a college degree or being the smartest person in the room, but rather someone who can integrate smoothly into their way of life. Are we similarly passionate about certain things? Do you have drive and can get things done? Are you building something in your life and trying to reach a goal or just sitting around and waiting for someone to save you?

I know girls who just sit around and wait to be saved by a man. They do nothing, they have no drive, maybe mom and dad pays for everything so they dont even have to try.

I guess it's the same for everyone. Smart and intelligent is just a buzzword that can mean any number of things. You might be considered smart to Person A, but dumb to Person B.

With the right person, Ill be right for them.

I totally agree with that. For me I want someone to grow with, they don't have to be perfect..in fact I prefer if they're not..because I don't like perfect since I'm not..,as long as they have potential and know where they're going.

 

[La'ei Kahue]

What were some of the things he'd talk to you about ?

Well, we had a few uncomfortable conversations about ISIS, since we were both Muslim, we felt they gave a bad name, we also spoke of history and we went to many museums. And we talked about art, and our interests, like I spoke of Broadway, and talked about the history of it and he talked about the history of some of his favorite things. Honestly, it helps if you study a few historical things, like honestly I didn't think I'd like American History as much as he did but I studied founding fathers and now I know about their political and personal lives and it's been a fun thing to drop a few facts on. It also helps if you know of current events, I have a friend who's a boy and we sometimes randomly have conversations about the President and our opinions. Just keep up with these things, and also his interests and your own, and you should be fine. Stay an intelligent and able minded girl. And you should be able to hold a conversation with smart guy.