Brother
@Tone, if I were controlling then please say it and I will humble myself, seek forgiveness and correct my ways. I won't be offended.
The Lord is my witness, there is no such motive in my heart. I’m content in that He knows I’m innocent as a dove. But I’m also to reconcile and come to terms with my brothers/sisters.
So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go. First, be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. Come to terms quickly. Matthew 5.
We live in an online world. People come from different experiences and have varied personalities. My words may have seemed controlling for some, childish for another, or too caring for another. I'm neither a master nor my words necessarily mean there's control. Have I then unintentionally sinned? Then I repent and seek forgiveness.
We are human but we are not with Him. So please help your sister know her wrongs in brotherly affection or rebuke and restore her in the spirit of His gentleness who lives in you. We don’t have to lay a burden and a stumbling block or abandon one another over such things, but talk through it and grow in grace.
I need and desire the fellowship of His people. I seek a community and love above all things. I'm willing to lay down my life for that. I would rather know my faults and mend my ways than being disregarded. Or, the leaven grows and eats up the whole lump. You don’t want your brother/sister to end up like that if they are willing to listen and learn. We have this guidance when in a conflict or misunderstanding.
If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. Matthew 18
If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him, and if he sins against you seven times in the day, and turns to you seven times, saying, ‘I repent,’ you must forgive him.” Luke 17:3-4
Thank you.