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Thank you Reese. *hugs*
Rest assured you couldn't be a simp if you tried. This post deserved two ratings.
*Sigh of relief* It's actually my worst nightmare to become a simp. If I ever do, just take a pillow and smoother me won't you? I couldn't handle the pity.
My cousin Anna - who I used to fondly tease by calling her "Lemon" (due to some weird excitable child character from an old anime from my teens) when we were younger - is in labor right now with twins. Please pray for her to make it through safely and with as little pain as humanly possible.
Looks like Anna made it just fine. The two newborns look absolutely beautiful, and kind of alien-like at the same time ... just like Anna! (Like I said, I find ways to tease younger cousins.) But no, really, everything's good. And I am glad for that.
I've encountered men whose behavior towards the opposite sex made them self-destructive. They veered beyond the bounds of self-regard
Congratulations! What a blessing for your cousin and loved ones. May God order their steps and lead them to Christ for His glory.
You've always seemed to think graciously highly of me, but I believe that acting beyond the bounds of self-regard (as you put it so well) when it comes to how i treat any lady is among the evils that I as an aspiring knight fear committing the most.
I don't believe you have the characteristics to do so. I've encountered men whose behavior towards the opposite sex made them self-destructive. They veered beyond the bounds of self-regard. The madness was sickening to behold.
To see that depth of groveling and emasculation offends my senses. No emotion should drive you to the point where you've forgotten yourself. You weren't made to crawl. Get off your knees.
There's nothing wrong with desiring someone. When your want makes you effeminate and destroys your worth; you need to check yourself.
You're incapable of doing the same. Your identity doesn't hinge on relationship. You have a lot going for yourself. She adds to the whole. She isn't your orbit.
It's like we always say, NEVER approach from a position of scarcity. If you're that determined to cling on to someone it immediately tells the other person that YOU place an extremely low value on yourself.
You should always have up to five members of the opposite sex on the boil at once (in my opinion.)
Since we're having confession...
I don't enjoy attention from men I'm not interested in. If he approaches me and desires consideration, he'll have an answer in 24 hours. I don't beat around the bush or dance. If I'm aware we're not compatible I see little reason to wait. I don't want to waste anyone's time or give false hope.
My swiftness has unsettled some. But I don't need to deliberate. I know the qualities I desire in a companion and the things I won't bend on.
When I find a viable prospect I shut things down. I don't need multiple options. If it doesn't work I'll meet someone else. I don't juggle men.
Augh... I don't want to call a woman 'older' but you ARE what comes with being that little bit more mature. I find women over a certain age easier to get along with. That's NOT a set in stone rule I live by, but generally, that's what I find. (Age actually doesn't equal maturity. It's a mistake to confuse the two.)
Actually, I've been pretty quiet lately. There aren't any girls blowing my phone up at the moment - what do we think of that CF? "Boooo!"
LOL, nah, I'm enjoying the lurk to be honest. I have a couple of women in distant orbit, but they're BIG maybes. I wouldn't even back a tuppence on them.
I began doing that in my thirties. I had age requirements too. If you want to see someone go berserk, say under 40.
I enjoy your company. That's why we get along.
That's unfortunate. You need a crush. *grins* Want some help?
I enjoy your company too Bella...
But if you tag my name on that matchmakers thread I'll be adding one more to my ignore list.
But if you tag my name on that matchmakers thread I'll be adding one more to my ignore list.
I think I know the one you're talking about. No, I wouldn't do that. I take a refined approach.
To be honest, if your careers advice is anything to go by I'd happily trust you to arrange a marriage lol. Your insight is downright SPOOKY sometimes.
Thank you Reese. I'm curious to see where things go.
As for the ladies, my picker is darned good. The last one I settled was 21. There are certain qualities I look for. No headcases, wallet drainers, drama queens, etc.
And I look at the caliber of men she's dated. That gives you a lot of insight. She has to be sensible. I don't do train wrecks or fairy tales. She needs grounding, a healthy self-image, and a positive regard for the opposite sex.
I like a pleasing demeanor with nice deportment. Someone he can take home without holding his breath. The bones must be good. Permanency is the goal.
Ultimately, I'm going to be throwing everything but the kitchen sink at my career. I'm NOT relying on luck.
I think our pint will be very enlightening. You sound like the Wizard of Oz's fairy godmother.
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