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Thank you for thinking of me, that makes me feel happy.
I'm sure some of it I would like. But I also see that & feel like I got saved from that lifestyle.

I concur but sometimes I find ideas that are useful. Most notably the ones for gatherings and family time. I read a book along those lines years ago that focused on the victorian period and we’re rekindling those practices at home.
 
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I had such a good time yesterday. I've been doing so well & thinking so well.

Now I am sad. It's just not the reality I got. It comes w/ being sad. The reality I got is like you lost (I do not get married)
 
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I had such a good time yesterday. I've been doing so well & thinking so well.

Now I am sad. It's just not the reality I got. It comes w/ being sad. The reality I got is like you lost (I do not get married)

You haven’t lost but you’ve built your future around a want and tied it to your happiness which isn’t sustainable. Because life is full of uncertainties that can alter our plans or delay them. Right now you’re feeling the pinch on relationships but that isn’t the only hurdle and bigger ones are on the way that may impact you as well. We have to be willing to adapt and make peace with the probability our timeline may change.

I’ve been posting policy initiatives from the Heritage Foundation that weren’t included in Project 2025 that are meant to be implemented between 2023-2032. That period may not mean a lot to you personally but the social security reserves will be gone by 2033 as of today. But the date isn’t fixed and it’s dropping fast. They’re not planning to replace it. All benefits will be reduced by 24% across the board. Which is a 48% reduction for a couple. We’re moving to a flat benefit system for social security and disability and everyone will be paid the same. Which means a lot of people may be sharing a home with their parents or needing to support them financially.

Job losses are underway because of Ai and will be the theme next year. It’s not the little guy anymore. Executives are being replaced and they’re reducing positions in every industry. I posted a video the other day about Harvard graduates struggling to find a job and that applies to grad school too. Amazon is reducing their workforce by 600k and they’re the second largest employer in America. I saw a video about Deloitte using Ai for a report they prepared for the government. The information was wrong and they received $400k for the project and have 50 others in the pipeline and none were cancelled. Which means accountants and consultants are next.

I share that to demonstrate the unexpected. Many of you want families and would probably send your children to college. But did you expect to pay it all out of pocket or anticipate the removal of loans for parents? Did you expect the government to reverse their policy on interest rates for student loans and let them mirror the market? Did you think you’d have to supplement the costs with private lenders? That’s the plan. If you’re familiar with our history you’ll know higher education wasn’t always funded by the government. You only went if you could pay.

When you’re looking at the future you have to consider the whole and don’t get fixated on one detail at expense of the others. Your plans can’t be rigid because tomorrow is uncertain and we make adjustments as we go along. You intended to marry and have a stay at home wife who didn’t work. But that may not be possible because of the uncertainty and you may decide a second income would be best just in case.

This is the era of upsets that’s why everything is topsy turvy. A new structure is being erected and the old is being destroyed. You have to keep an eye on your plan and the other on the elements impacting it. There’s too much change in the air. While you’re lamenting your condition you should be glad you’re single and have time to put in place what others haven’t. So you won’t have their stress and wish you’d done otherwise.

Sometimes setbacks are blessings. It doesn’t seem that way in the beginning but hindsight is golden. When you purchased your home you didn’t expect private equity firms and hedge funds to buy up the supply and utilize technology that would inflate the prices and make them out of reach for most but here we are. When you bought your car you didn’t expect the manufacturer to monetize standard features and put them on a subscription plan to generate income. But BMW tried it and rest assured its coming.

When most people graduated from school they believed that a good job + good income + family = a happy life. That might be the case in a righteous society but when wickedness rules its otherwise. In the space from your departure from the university until today. It’s no school + no jobs + no relationships = ?

You didn’t see that coming but He did. Trust His timing and make use of this season while you can. Most of you need to go back to the drawing board. Your ideal is based on a reality that’s departing. Now what? How do you get there? That’s your challenge.
 
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I stumbled upon this YouTube channel today. If you know anyone who receives social security, disability benefits or ssi for their children please pass it along. The cuts I’ve posted elsewhere are underway. He’s a former social manager and well informed. This is an image from one of his videos and he’s counting down the checks.


 
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No, I am not concerned about that. The problem at this point it's to the point where it's almost like you'd say no b/c you've convinced yourself you can't.

But yeah, people struggling w/ money #1 issue I've seen, & they'll just pass it on. I've thought in the past 'those couples just making ends meet', that will lead to those people I encountered in college for example, upset at the world & everything in it b/c they don't have any money. It's like I was saying, everything produces fruit. In the same way I've wanted to get married, I've seen people think like that talk about money.

Everything produces fruit.......I wonder about those couples who didn't have the Foundation (maybe as well as they thought they), what will their children's foundation be?

Here is the reality: it's very hard to change once you're married.

Going back to the picture of that magazine you shared, that's a ritzy life style. The people I encountered didn't have the ritz. I was welcomed to reality.

I saw a clip 'Jesus says it's easier for a camel to go thru an eye of a needle then a rich man to enter heaven. People, it's impossible for a camel to go thru the eye of a needle.' It was usually taught to me Jesus still doesn't exclude them & the rich people in the Bible who were still saved, but does someone who has the world care for the world to come? That's what I saw when I went into the world. & I don't want to knock on the rich, I've seen a lot of that too, almost too much, & that's wrong too, "the world's problems are due to the rich & it's time for them to pay", but I also saw the well-off are almost too comfortable too

That's what I see in the magazine picture.
 
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Sorry I don't post more often here. My introvertness extends to my online activities as well. The begining of this year was a huge fall for me, due to struggles in mental health, with home life and my church life. I shared before I ended up leaving my home church. I had guilt in doing so, thinking I had betrayed my brethren there. God had then reminded me about my prayers late last year, how I asked Him to remove me, if I was not suitable for the roles I had taken on, some of which was in a form of pastoral roles. My main issue came with how the elders where limiting God from working within the church. I had become aware they lacked much faith in God, especially when I would be given a chance to show how God was willing to use the church to reach out to thousands of people who went by the church each day.

I haven't rescinded my membership yet, so I get the weekly newsletter still. On Friday, I decided to take a look if they had found a new senior pastor finally, as it has been several years they've had one. I saw they had not. Then as I looked at the board of elders, I noticed there was a change. One of the new elders is a recent member in the recent years, who helped me with the live stream service once a month. There are things I had noticed about him, which I brought up to my friend, who is the music director. I recall clearly, my friend saying this person wasn't suited to be in a spiritual role for the church. I had originally thought about becoming an elder myself last year. I saw this as a clear sign, as my old church rejecting God's direction, especially His wisdom. I feel I'm at peace now, for leaving this church behind. I'm still seeking God for healing, and seeing where He wants me to serve with the gifts He has revealed to me last year.
 
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