You're not wrong. Also, if a single woman in her 20's says that last sentence, let alone expands on it, and puts that on the Internet, she's going to be called a "pick me".
I wrote something behind it but I deleted it because we’re on the same page. I don’t understand women now and it feels like the Twilight Zone. But it’s an excellent time to learn about men because they’re talking. You don’t have to rely on your friends or guess. He’s telling you himself. They’re admitting their likes, dislikes, values and what they’re unwilling to tolerate and it’s being repeated continually.
Sometimes you can go off course and don’t realize you’re lost until you see the flames ahead and you’re forced to pivot. We’re nearing the point where women have to admit that feminism has run its course and get back to God’s design. I don’t believe the majority realize we’ve reached a point where it’s become an impediment to companionship. I’m increasingly surprised at the levels of intentional singleness and how it‘s encouraged on social media.
They’re working on themselves instead and while I don’t believe it’s a permanent state I know what follows with that mindset. You’re about to be replaced. The days when people were desperate for companionship and willing to put up with a lot are at an end. And the passport bros planted a seed. Although the majority couldn’t follow suit initially they’ve come to realize they can do so in time.
She’s not the only option anymore and that hasn’t hit home. Whether they cross the pond or not there’s a resolve that wasn’t there in the past. The sweet spot for a woman is in her twenties. That’s the best time to settle down and build. As he progresses he becomes more selective and there’s more people vying for his attention. But we’re not taught that at all.
I don’t think many realize how feminism impacts your world view. You’ll see everything through that lens including your faith and read the bible slant unknowingly. The passages on marriage should challenge us because of our culture. It should prick and make us uncomfortable because of the things we’re exposed to. I’m reminded of two women in the bible you rarely hear about from this context.
When Michal disrespected David the Lord put her away. She didn’t get a pass because she had a bad day. He nipped it in the bud immediately. That’s how much He values honor. In like fashion, when Nabal disrespected David, Abigail didn’t chew him out. She prostrated to David on his behalf and apologized. With Michal we see the consequences of liberty unchecked. Much like Vashti she paid a price and he replaced her with something better. Look at the difference in her countenance and Esther’s. She never forgot her head.
While Abigail’s humility was the reason for her ascent and the Lord rewarded her respect. There’s a pattern in the bible beginning with Abraham where order is reinforced in relationships. He didn’t permit Hagar to go unchecked and required her to submit to her mistress. The women who please the Lord most in the bible have a visible respect for their husbands. And in no instance within the scripture was she regarded as his covering. And I don’t understand why we do otherwise. The blueprint is there.
I can attest to the same in my connections. It takes a lot for me to get upset but He doesn’t permit me to go off the rails. He’ll warn me beforehand or encourage me to be silent. It doesn’t matter if I’m not the one at fault; there’s a standard He expects. And He’s made me apologize when I’ve been wronged by the opposite sex because of my response. Their mistake doesn’t minimize my own and He expects me to behave. The same holds true for thoughts. He doesn’t let me sit around and conjure negative things in my head or replay unpleasant events. He’ll interrupt and correct me on the spot and I’ll have to repent.
I asked the Lord to prepare me for marriage and He has and continues to do so. He’ll teach you how to be a wife if you let Him and show you your dichotomies. And He’ll also show how to relate to that person as well. What he needs from you, how to pray, some of the things he’s struggling with and how to be more supportive. And He’ll show you your blindspots too. The things you’re doing you’re not aware of that may have unfavorable results.
Some will read this and say what about him? They want tit for tat but that isn’t my concern. The more I please Him the more pleasing I‘ll become to the other. That’s how you earn him and win his heart. ;-)
