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Um...that 'reality hits you hard, bro' moment when you suddenly realize that you have a niece who will be entering her final year as a teenager in couple days.

What. The. Crap. ...she's like old enough to get married and have babies now. :sadd:
 
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Um...that 'reality hits you hard, bro' moment when you suddenly realize that you have a niece who will be entering her final year as a teenager in couple days.

What. The. Crap. ...she's like old enough to get married and have babies now. :sadd:

She's still alive, that's a good thing. Speaking of which, you're also old enough to get married and have babies. :p
 
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don't write your dog off as a "bad dog", put some effort into training them. Give them a helping hand in achieving what you consider to be good dog behaviours.

If your dog is a fairly large Labrador, and this fairly large Labrador has issues with visitors coming to the house, and these issues manifest in continual barking, ankle nipping, he is stressed out. He is protecting your home from this intruder, trying to drive them out.

He's not a bad dog, he's a good dog doing good dog things, for a dog. It makes sense for him to do that, and you have not given him the opportunity to learn that if you are bringing this person in then this person is not someone to be driven away. There's no point in saying "at least you're not scared of him". Of course I'm not scared of him, he's doing good dog things and I'd like to think I'm savvy enough to watch his behaviour so I can avoid getting seriously hurt/aggravating him further.

But I'm not his owner, and as his owner you should be taking some responsibility not only for the safety of your visitors but for your dogs well being. You looking anxious as he sniffs my hands does not give me great confidence in your ability to keep people who are less reactive to aggressive barking/lunging safe.

Either work on adjusting his behaviour, or take active responsibility for his mental health/the physical safety of visitors and create a "safe" space for him. He's a big dog, he's very good at putting intruders off, and it's very successful (in his head).

Just don't write him off as a bad dog. He's not a bad dog. In the world of dogs he's a dog trying to do the right thing. He's an anxious, agitated dog. Even my completely mental mongrel only reacts like this if people approach her despite frequent "she has serious stranger danger issues we're working on, ignore her and she'll come around" warnings.

I just don't like dogs being written off as "bad", as if that's an acceptable excuse for getting a breed you thought came ready trained and then putting zero effort into it. I'd have some sympathy if you had at least tried, but letting him run rampant and shrugging your shoulders is not trying. He's a Labrador, he's a big strong Labrador. Yes he's okay with your immediate family, but this big strong Labrador is actually on the verge of biting a less dog savvy visitor.

Give him a chance.

If you want a guard dog, perfect. He's ideal. He's big, powerful, and determined. But if you want a guard dog you should be able to control him well enough that he won't ignore your pitiful "leave her alone, oh you bad boy" words.

He doesn't understand that. What he understands is you letting him know his job is done, he's alerted you to an intruder, and it's cool. He can and watch from the sidelines now. He doesn't even have to come to like visitors, he just needs to learn that once he's alerted you to their presence and you've asked him to leave ... that it's time for him to leave.

It's perfectly possible, even now. If you drop the "bad dog" comments. Take some responsibility.

In other news one of my toenails is going to fall off at some point. Long distance run in poorly fitting shoes with an uneven gait for the win. I need to take better care of my feet.
 
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Its a good thing is not Tuesday right now. I think I would go OFF on 3 people and be out of work for bashing skulls. 2 of them were supposed to be friends.

The woman that is going to be my date for the awards is liked by a friend. The thing is, he didn't start liking her until long AFTER I was already playfully flirting with her.

But now that she smiled at him and has said "Hi" to this Norman Bates like weirdo. He thinks she loves him and he has a chance but Im standing in the way. When she already said.... Ewwww, NO! when I knew he liked her trying to help him out by asking if she would date him.

These 3 people gang up against me apparently because they are tired of me flirting with this woman. Guess what..... its NONE of your business how I interact with this woman..... SHE obviously has no problem with it..... otherwise she wouldn't be going as my date. Yet, Im supposed to stop simply cause you don't like it? Guess how many cares I give.

If the lady asked me to stop. I would respect it and do as she asked. However I will only increase the amount I do it now since I know all 3 of you are a bunch of cowards without the backbone to say anything, just so I can anger you even more. I KNOW it is because this guy likes her because last year he displayed the same actions that he has with this woman.... yet... the woman last year filed sexual harassment.

There is NO way that you can claim what I do is inappropriate. All I do is jokingly tell the lady "I LOVE YOU PRETTY LADY" etc. She laughs and says "You're crazy, thank you" or similar. Worst thing about what I say. She cant say she has gone a day without hearing she is pretty, so she feels good. She has fun with it, I have fun with it.... what I say to her are things to make her smile and laugh. YOU however are the boss and look for any excuse to walk up to her and tickle her cause its the only time you get human contact. Norman Bates was less of a weirdo.

You have a problem with something someone is doing..... you talk to THAT person about it. You don't hold secret discussions about how to make that person look like a fool to get them to stop what it is you don't like.

What a bunch of :tantrum::tantrum::tantrum: Giving attitude and plotting all sorts of stuff behind their back simply because someone has the guts to actually talk to a woman. :|

A part of me actually wants to step back so the guy will have another sexual harassment case against him cause he is such a weirdo. He was a "friend" I thought, but Im pretty much ending that friendship. Now its business. Just the thought of seeing these fake cowards again....... :kyaa:

I suspected it was the case.... however I didn't know that 3 people are plotting against me and 2 were supposed to be friends. Its one thing to be a bit crabby when a woman chooses a friend over you....... its another to make secret plans against them instead of simply having a spine and telling this person what your problem is.

Sorry, I had to vent a little. I think the saddest thing is. All 3 of these people are above the age of 40. :| Yet they are acting like a bunch of grade school cry babies.Why are people such cowards?

The truth is, if this woman were looking for a man I would certainly pursue her to date. I would like her in "that way" but knowing she isn't even on the market (my "friend" is also aware of this fact) I keep it playful as friends and that's it. It's not as if a friend liked her pursued her then I jumped in. IF anyone were to be doing that it's these 3 being that I only started playfully flirting with her cause I found her attractive and cool in the first place. Months before this guy suddenly liked her.
 
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@Toro wow. Good rant :p
Venting is not bad. But I can't see either why 40 year-olds would act like this.. o_O
And I'm hoping the woman is agreeing with you and maybe she should be more clear towards him because she's busy getting to know you?

Best I can say; just hold on and do what you think is best. Good luck..!
 
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Yes, the woman agrees with me. I even went out to eat with this woman tonight. When I told her I was no longer "allowed" to work next to her any more she said "What?! Why?" I said apparently my flirting with her is such a big problem. She said "Is THAT why things have been weird?"

She started saying. If it doesn't bother me....

I said, exactly.

The guy is a complete coward, so are the other two. That's fine... but fake on top of that..... I am ditching 2 friends this weekend. 1 of them, I've been friends with for 10 years and he has no business even being upset, nor does the other one. They just jumped in cause they are a pack of cowards.

Worst part is, even together, they don't have a spine between them.

I'm just SOOO sick of my job and the people that USED to be the reason I stayed at the job so long. That have all turned out to be frauds and cowards.
 
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Yes, the woman agrees with me. I even went out to eat with this woman tonight. When I told her I was no longer "allowed" to work next to her any more she said "What?! Why?" I said apparently my flirting with her is such a big problem. She said "Is THAT why things have been weird?"

She started saying. If it doesn't bother me....

I said, exactly.

The guy is a complete coward, so are the other two. That's fine... but fake on top of that..... I am ditching 2 friends this weekend. 1 of them, I've been friends with for 10 years and he has no business even being upset, nor does the other one. They just jumped in cause they are a pack of cowards.

Worst part is, even together, they don't have a spine between them.

I'm just SOOO sick of my job and the people that USED to be the reason I stayed at the job so long. That have all turned out to be frauds and cowards.

And she does work there too though? weird stuff. Do you love the job that you would like to continue on for a while or might this be an opportunity to move on (both?). A new fresh place might be a good way out.. just thinking.
 
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Nah, I leave this place a fresh start would be nice. I won't miss the work and starting to be a case of I won't miss the people either. The lady is going to a new job after this week. Apparently the only true friends I have at work are the friend that filled me in and this woman.

I'm done offering to buy everyone's drinks at least once a day. Now on its mine, the friend and the woman. Those are the only two that ever gave instead of always taking.

The guy that likes this woman is a weasel so I should have known. People will give him money to buy drinks for everyone... yet, he takes the credit for it and it's not even his money. :|

Pathetic sudo friends. Especially when this guy is lying trying to turn the other friend on me saying he doesn't like anyone, when my friend can see it too. My friend told him "If you are lying about this and it IS over a woman I will knock you out. So at least I know who has my back and who wants to put a knife in it.
 
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Thanks, these people can't break me. They are spineless jellyfish. I will step over them and move on. I'm simply mad cause I just recently found out about it before having a late dinner at 230am with the lady and my friend and his girlfriend. I didn't sleep yet, I was too charged up and angry when I got home at 5am or so.
 
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Thanks, these people can't break me. They are spineless jellyfish. I will step over them and move on. I'm simply mad cause I just recently found out about it before having a late dinner at 230am with the lady and my friend and his girlfriend. I didn't sleep yet, I was too charged up and angry when I got home at 5am or so.

Going back out with the three of them later to watch a movie Sunday evening. If they are angry now. Just wait til they see me Saturday. Bull in a 3 piece suit treating the lady like a queen. Yes, it's a sudo date... but that don't mean I'm gonna phone it in. A lady deserves a smile and a good time.
 
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I'm craving Mexican food and something smothered in cheeeeeese!

Thats me EVERYDAY, so get in line. It forms behind me. :sput:

Well really I crave ANYTHING smothered in Cholula..... its false advertisement that they call it "hot sauce", but its okay cause its sooooooooooo tasty. :love: If only my staw would fit in the bottle. :(
 
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It was such a clear and sunny day on the loch today..... first and last just a rare treat the sun ha ha ha

Amazing day today...


This is two of my monsters, oldest one wants to waste his life away in doors.

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We went on the tallship In Glasgow. This is the river Clyde
 
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Thats me EVERYDAY, so get in line. It forms behind me. :sput:

Well really I crave ANYTHING smothered in Cholula..... its false advertisement that they call it "hot sauce", but its okay cause its sooooooooooo tasty. :love: If only my staw would fit in the bottle. :(
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Haha! I love hot sauce! If a restaurant has it I'm smothering on everything and dipping everything into it. It's probably why I had to have my gallbladder out...
 
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Haha! I love hot sauce! If a restaurant has it I'm smothering on everything and dipping everything into it. It's probably why I had to have my gallbladder out...

Awwww, okay you can have cutsies. :p
 
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OMM: My favorite poem by Yeats

When You Are Old

When you are old and grey and full of sleep,
And nodding by the fire, take down this book,
And slowly read, and dream of the soft look
Your eyes had once, and of their shadows deep;

How many loved your moments of glad grace,
And loved your beauty with love false or true,
But one man loved the pilgrim soul in you,
And loved the sorrows of your changing face;

And bending down beside the glowing bars,
Murmur, a little sadly, how Love fled
And paced upon the mountains overhead
And hid his face amid a crowd of stars.
 
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