what would you do

[nngraves777]

Hello i have a question? My mom was talking to me the other day and out of blue brought up her life insurance and said that she had her 3 grand kids on it but, not me and my brother is that wrong? I mean we our her kids should this hurt my feelings? Please give me all your advice on this.God Bless..

 

[BreadAlone]

You guys are grown adults (I'm ASSUMING your brother is around your age). The grand kids are younger I presume? If such is the case, she probably assumes you can take care of yoursleves, and is looking out for the one's who can't. Just how I'd see it. Whose kids are they?

 

[Elijah2]

Hello i have a question? My mom was talking to me the other day and out of blue brought up her life insurance and said that she had her 3 grand kids on it but, not me and my brother is that wrong? I mean we our her kids should this hurt my feelings? Please give me all your advice on this.God Bless..

Don't feel offended or hurt by this. Did you ask your mum why?

To be honest you and your brother are big enough to insure yourself.

Blessings.

 

[Angelwings_2009]

Hello,

I can understand what you may be feeling, have you thought about talking to her about it. I can understand because you and your brother will be left with all the costs/debts/bills/etc.

 

[wonderwaleye]

Hello i have a question? My mom was talking to me the other day and out of blue brought up her life insurance and said that she had her 3 grand kids on it but, not me and my brother is that wrong? I mean we our her kids should this hurt my feelings? Please give me all your advice on this.God Bless..

Money is the big trouble maker for those that want to use it to hurt folks, manipulate them or turn one against the other. Think to yourself why did she do this? Why out of the blue? What might mama want? I think the answer to this is in these questions. This game has been in effect since Cain and Abel.




Remember where your real BLESSINGS come from. If GOD wants you to have something HE will give it to you. It could mean a lot more than the little insurance policy. I can tell you from experience I have been there and told my dad I didn't want a penny of his money for the way he manipulated my brother and sister. I guess you could call me the black sheep of the family. I went out on my own and received so many BLESSINGS from GOD that my brother and sister only wish they could live as I live. PUT YOUR FAITH IN GOD and don't be drawn into a very ugly game.


Remember If you are going to be part of the KINGDOM of ALMIGHTY GOD you MUST GIVE IT ALL TO GOD.



GOD demands that you give HIM your WHOLE heart, mind, strength, and soul. That means you go in prayer and tell GOD that you will do this and from that moment on seek GOD in all your decisions. After this is complete GOD will know. For HE searches the heart. HE will then send HIS HOLY SPIRIT ( ANOINTED-BORN AGAIN- SAVED ). For it is then that you shall receive the MISSION GOD has for just you and supply all your needs, even what you have not the ability to have.



Pick up GOD'S ROAD MAP to the KINGDOM of ALMIGHTY GOD ( BIBLE ) and start reading the NEW TESTIMENT till the next time you read it you will already know what IT'S going to say. For then it's locked in your heart to draw from for the rest of your life. You will NEVER be sorry you did.



Do yourself a BIG FAVOR and Start right now!!!




LOVE


steven

 

[LilLamb219]

Angelwings brought up some very valid points...has she provided in other ways to cover any bills after her passing? Sometimes people can set up ahead of time their funeral costs and such. It's hard to know without sitting down and talking it out rationally and calmly. It's not worth an argument though.

 

[salida]

Well, I'm not sure what to say. When the grand kids grow up they will be able to take care of themselves and then get extra from your mom. Are your grand kids in a poor family? Are they at a disadvantage compared to you in general? In my family my mom and father have a will to us (their kids) and feel that the grand kids are taken care of by their parents which they presently are- they arn't poor but middle class.

Don't get upset with your mom because $ isn't worth hurting relationships over. She will stand before God with this decision. She has decided no matter if it seems right or not. If the grand kids are poor or their parents are poor I understand- otherwise its a head scratcher for me.

 

[2 King]

Sola Scriptura is Eternal

I don't know what that is and I don't care to look it up.

You guys are grown adults (I'm ASSUMING your brother is around your age). The grand kids are younger I presume? If such is the case, she probably assumes you can take care of yoursleves, and is looking out for the one's who can't. Just how I'd see it. Whose kids are they?

Sounds fairly resonable to me.

God has alot in store for your life. Satan just wants you to focus on these little things so that he can catch you off guard and ruin your great future which God has in store for you.

Sola Scriptura is Eternal

Since I don't care to look it up, can some1 PM me or explain to me here what it is.

 

[nngraves777]

I thank everyone for the advice, the 3 kids are 13,6,and 5 and they are my brothers kids but he hasnt been the best father. I have them 5 days a week and have practically raised them from birth. See what is so crazy is my mom has been married four times and I have always been there for her finacially I mean when her 3rd husband left her I had a really good job and she had no where to go so I put her up in a house,paid the rent,bills for 6months. I mean I love her and would do any thing for her. Well the last 4years I havent been able to work from a severe back injury and my husband only makes 9.50hr and takes care of us. So hears my worry if something happend to my mom ,which hopefully never will how could i afford to bury her if she left it all to the little kids and they cant touch it till ther 18yrs old? I mean its weird that she doesnt seem to even care enough to at least set up arrangments for us to bury her. Loosing a mom then not being able to bury her oh how awful that could be. Plus 3 years ago she had me sign papers as her benifercy then now she took me off. I dont know it just seems weird that she would mention this out of the blue it was like she wanted to hurt me and let me know you aint getting nothing from me. I have been a good loving daughter to her ,my older sister has nothing to do with her at all cause my mom let her 2nd husband phiscally abuse her for about 15yrs. She told my mom and she stayed with him and allowed it to go on. I have never turned my back on my mom even when sometimes I thought I should. Any way thanks for talking to me and continue to give all the advice,I can use it. God Bless

 

[LilLamb219]

This might be too nosey but how old is your mom and is her health failing?

 

[Elijah2]

My dear sister, one of the hardest things of all is to be unequally yoked with unbelievering parents.

I've seen many nasty family fights over wills.

You are concerned, so therefore, I advise you to talk to your mother immediately, and explain to her that if she dies, she need to have her will written so that all expenses for her funeral will be paid out of her will. Now, if she won't do that, then ask her what does she want you to do with her remains when she dies.

Now, all of this may seem abrupt, but my dear sister, you don't need the unnecessary worry. You have done your part as a concerned sibling of the family.

Take the step that you need to take to sort your concerns out. Don't muck around, get straight to the point.

Blessings.

 

[nngraves777]

I did tell her that if she pass's how would we bury her and she made the comment funerals aren't that much. Well yeah it is if we are stuck with it. Any way I just hope she never dies while i'm living I couldn't handle it. I'm just praying she will do whats right.

 

[bliz]

Would Mom care to have her body donated for science?

She is paying for the policy and allowed to give the money to whomever she wishes, but she is not mindful of the expenses someone will incur to bury her and settle her affairs. So, you might inform her of the options you can afford, like donating her body to a medical school.

 

[unity777]

Sometimes Its Really Hard To Give Advice On A Situation I Know So Little
About We Cant Judge You Or Your Mom ,i Mean What Are Her Intentions? Do
You Have A Really Good Relationship With Your Mom? If You Do You Can Ask Her Freely Why She Made That Decision, More Likely Than Not She Really Wants To Leave A Something Secure For Her Grandkids Maybe She Sees They Might Be More Successful In Life Or Have It A Little Easier ,grandparents Are Sometimes More Loving And Forgiving Than Parents As They Are Older And A Little Wiser, They Tend To Have More Compassion Toward Grandkids Doesnt Mean She Loves You Less Maybee She Feals This Is A Way She Can Leave A Piece Of Her To Her Grandkids I Dont Think You Should Be Angry But I Do Think You Should Have A Heart To Heart Just To Clear Any Unsure Feelings Hopefully That Life Insurance Will Not Be Needed In A Long Time But Life Is Short And Are Days Were Given To Us By God We Know When We Came In But Our Exit Day Is Never Known Clear Up The Air You Never Know When Life Can Surprise You Then You Will Live With That Doubt The Rest Of Your Days I Will Keep
You In My Prayers

God Bless
Much Love
Dave

 

[nngraves777]

You know what is crazy my mom just called me and asked me to borrow some money! Oh boy I wanted to say ask the grandkids but,Like always I gave it to her. Oh man she is a strange bird!!

 

[heron]

There is a chance that she is leaving other property to her children, and insurance to the second layer of family. It's not my business to ask if she has a house, stocks, bonds, a vacation home... but she would probably leave her house to people who had lived in the house. Like you.

I agree that it's hurtful. You probably hadn't even thought of her belongings or life insurance until you found out she was leaving you out of the distribution. But let go of it. This is an issue that often divides families. Decide for yourself what is more important -- relationships or other people's stuff.

God knows what's going on. He sees your generosity.

But if she is asking money from you now, start showing her where your boundaries are. Yes, she spent her money to raise you, and you need to care for family. But it appears she thinks you're loaded. If that really is the problem, then tell her you are setting aside money for when she really needs medical help, so you don't have as much extra to offer now.

 

[iamjcs]

Hello i have a question? My mom was talking to me the other day and out of blue brought up her life insurance and said that she had her 3 grand kids on it but, not me and my brother is that wrong? I mean we our her kids should this hurt my feelings? Please give me all your advice on this.God Bless..

There are some very inexpensive plans out there, but the person(s) it is to cover cannot be of adult age when entiated.

I can understand her wanting to do this for the kids whom the father wouldn't.