What Would You Do ?

[Mling]

Just to explain...
I have a book...excellent book that I do read to my kids about sex and sexuality...and I believe that its great to be taught in schools (so yes Im one of the parents that do sign the forms).
However if a younger person over the internet pms me in private asking or something to that effect I will refer them to a councellor or to a Minister...one that is affirming...and will talk to them.
First thing I really dont think a 14 yr old is ready to have sex...yes I did, yes I thought I was ready, but I wasnt and I personally think its way too young to even think about ones sexuality in that way...
Instead one should be getting to know themselves(not others)...maybe the person isnt really homosexual after all...(maybe another young person is really homosexual instead of heterosexual) as ones teenage yrs are full of hormones (something we go through our whole lives ).

I guess what Im trying to say is the young person should enjoy their youth and not be jumping into sex...
Yes....find out who one is emotionally, physically, mentally etc...and get some guidance from parents, and non judgemental persons who are capable of councelling. Also I just believe its much safer than the internet...but again that is my opinion as a mom

My apologies if non of this made any sence

my feeling is that I will help, protect, guide...whatever, any kid who comes to me for help, but I won't go so far as say or imply "your parents are wrong" or tell them to do or believe something that goes against their parents' wishes or beliefs. That said, if the kid is struggling down a line of logic or belief on his own, and I'm familiar with what he's struggling with, I might try to clarify the next point he's coming to.

 

[BAFRIEND]

I wish I could rep you a million points for this!

Well, I notice you have over 4500 blessings that you could give him, why not part with those ?

I would rather have the Lord's Blessing anyday, over 1,000,000 of yours.

 

[BAFRIEND]

Hmmm as I was 17 when I met my dh who ws 24 at the time
that was far more than 2 yrs difference...
14 is the age that one is no longer "jailbait" which we are trying to change...which it should be...as a 25 yr old and 14 yr old just isnt ummm right with me....

http://www.optionsforsexualhealth.org/about/sexandlaw/SexLawEnglish.pdf


http://www.parl.gc.ca/information/library/PRBpubs/prb993-e.htm#CURRENT LAW
http://www.parl.gc.ca/information/library/PRBpubs/prb993-e.htm


http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_consent_in_North_America

thanks for the clarification, excellent post.

 

[ChaliceThunder]

Well, I notice you have over 4500 blessings that you could give him, why not part with those ?

I would rather have the Lord's Blessing anyday, over 1,000,000 of yours.

very mature

 

[Rebekka]

I'd warn him about strangers online - after all, he's only 14 years old. And there are many perverts online trying to seduce children.

I might advise him to go to a priest or counselor as well.

 

[BAFRIEND]

How much more arrogant can you get? YOU ARE NOT GOD

I wish I could rep you a million points for this!

Well, I notice you have over 4500 blessings that you could give him, why not part with those ?

I would rather have the Lord's Blessing anyday, over 1,000,000 of yours.

very mature

 

[white dove]

You know what makes me the most upset about this whole thread? Those who some might encourage these confused children to talk to might be those very same people who'd seek to abuse them...as abusers can walk in all forms, including spiritual leaders and help aides. It's almost as if there are fewer and fewer people available for children to talk to these days. If only parents could truly be trusted to openly, honestly, respectfully, lovingly and regularly communicate with their own children...