What would you do?

[Evee]

What would you do if you a christian, had a son or daughter that came to you and said I am gay.
I want you to love me as I am and accept the person I love can you do this as a christian mom or dad?
Would you resent your grown child and say where and what did I do wrong? Would you practice the love then or would you tell to go think about it and come back when they are straight?
Would or should this be hard as a christian?
Would you preach to them or just love them and pray for them?

 

[Beoga]

What would you do if you a christian, had a son or daughter that came to you and said I am gay.

Don't honestly know, and that is why i am glad you provided questions

I want you to love me as I am and accept the person I love can you do this as a christian mom or dad?

I would still love and accept my son or daughter, and i would accept the other person. I would speak against the type of relationship they have. I would still tell my son or daughter that homosexuality is a sin

Would you resent your grown child and say where and what did I do wrong?

yeah, i would probably question what i did wrong

Would you practice the love then or would you tell to go think about it and come back when they are straight?

i would still practice love, and a form of that might be telling them don't come back until you are straight, idk

Would or should this be hard as a christian?

I think it would

Would you preach to them or just love them and pray for them?

probably both

 

[Evee]

Yes good answers littleapologists.
I think my thoughts would be similar to yours.
I have heard a parent tell me they think death would be easier and to me this seems harsh selfish and ridiculous.
If my grown daughter told me this I know I would be shocked but then I wonder how I would react after the shock.
I hope with kindness and prayer.

 

[aimejl]

Don't honestly know, and that is why i am glad you provided questions



I would still love and accept my son or daughter, and i would accept the other person. I would speak against the type of relationship they have. I would still tell my son or daughter that homosexuality is a sin



yeah, i would probably question what i did wrong



i would still practice love, and a form of that might be telling them don't come back until you are straight, idk



I think it would



probably both

I would do the same thing!

 

[Arnold_Philips]

I have often secretly wished that people who are anti-gay have a child who turns out to be gay, in spite of it all. It's just so hard to make some people understand sometimes.

 

[Evee]

I have often secretly wished that people who are anti-gay have a child who turns out to be gay, in spite of it all. It's just so hard to make some people understand sometimes.

Yes I understand but I believe I would accept my daughter and pray she has a good life and that God would lead her because she is grown.
Being Gay is not the unforgiveable sin to God but it is to some parents.

 

[CrownCaster]

What would you do if you a christian, had a son or daughter that came to you and said I am gay.
I want you to love me as I am and accept the person I love can you do this as a christian mom or dad?
Would you resent your grown child and say where and what did I do wrong? Would you practice the love then or would you tell to go think about it and come back when they are straight?
Would or should this be hard as a christian?
Would you preach to them or just love them and pray for them?

I would make sure they understood in no uncertain terms that this is wrong and that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. I would still love my child regardless and would be kind to their partner but if they stayed in my home, they would not be allowed to kiss or sleep in the same room. I would pray for them unceasingly and rely on God to bring them to the point where they recognize the wrong in their actions and return to Him. I would not attend any parades or protests and certainly would not be seen wearing those cute shirts that say "proud parent of a gay -----" or anything like that. I would still vote against gay marriage, gay adoption, civil unions, etc.

 

[CrownCaster]

I have often secretly wished that people who are anti-gay have a child who turns out to be gay, in spite of it all. It's just so hard to make some people understand sometimes.

So you secretly hope for people to be caught up in a lifestyle that God condemns and to be in open opposition to His will?

 

[Evee]

I would make sure they understood in no uncertain terms that this is wrong and that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. I would still love my child regardless and would be kind to their partner but if they stayed in my home, they would not be allowed to kiss or sleep in the same room. I would pray for them unceasingly and rely on God to bring them to the point where they recognize the wrong in their actions and return to Him. I would not attend any parades or protests and certainly would not be seen wearing those cute shirts that say "proud parent of a gay -----" or anything like that. I would still vote against gay marriage, gay adoption, civil unions, etc.

Very good post you would be straight forward a very good approach on any matter.

 

[Arnold_Philips]

So you secretly hope for people to be caught up in a lifestyle that God condemns and to be in open opposition to His will?

I am gay. I have a desire for understanding to come about where there previously was none. I have seen what attitudes like yours have done to me personally and to others I know. It is not love.

 

[Evee]

I am gay. I have a desire for understanding to come about where there previously was none. I have seen what attitudes like yours have done to me personally and to others I know. It is not love.

I wonder why someone would choose gay.
It would be such a hard life.

I just believe we have to be honest and forthright but easier said than done.

I want to make this clear I did not mean you choose that life I am not sure why some are gay and some are not.

 

[IchbinBerliner]

Most people who are gay are not gay because of their upbringing, it is usually associated with genetics and cannot be changed. Deep down they will feel attraction to the same sex, even if on the outside they appear straight.

 

[Arnold_Philips]

I wonder why someone would choose gay.
It would be such a hard life.

I know, and that's an excellent argument against the idea that homosexuality (or any sexuality) is a choice.

I just believe we have to be honest and forthright but easier said than done.

I like you, Evee. You're very good with saying what you mean.

I want to make this clear I did not mean you choose that life I am not sure why some are gay and some are not.

There are a few ideas, though none of them are 100%. It's just something we don't know for sure right now, though we have a pretty good idea.

 

[CrownCaster]

I am gay. I have a desire for understanding to come about where there previously was none. I have seen what attitudes like yours have done to me personally and to others I know. It is not love.

Sorry bud, but God said that those who practice such things will not see heaven. That means all. That is not my saying, it is God's.

 

[crashedman]

What would you do if you a christian, had a son or daughter that came to you and said I am gay.
I want you to love me as I am and accept the person I love can you do this as a christian mom or dad?
Would you resent your grown child and say where and what did I do wrong? Would you practice the love then or would you tell to go think about it and come back when they are straight?
Would or should this be hard as a christian?
Would you preach to them or just love them and pray for them?

Hi,

I'm not a parent, and I have had homosexual contact in the past. My parents didn't resent me as such, but it is natural for teenage boys to sometimes have crushes on older boys when they are developing sexually. It doesn't mean that they are essentially mature or ready for close physical contact, but I certainly did not act on any sexual feelings intimately in those years.

I think that any child who thinks he is gay and has had that contact if an older male seduced them and got them drunk or drugged should not only be prayed for but if they felt bad about it as an aftermath to get some help.


Crashedman

 

[JustJack!]

i would still practice love, and a form of that might be telling them don't come back until you are straight, idk

LA, don't ever have children. Never. Never.

If you would let something like this get in the way, and even ruin your relationship with your child, then you don't deserve to have children.

And Evee, most gays, just like most heteros never chose to be gay. I never chose to be bi. Just how life works out.

Crown,

I can't for the life of me understand why you would to belong to a religion or denomination that teaches that your child will burn in Hell simply for being gay. How you can imagine your little girl burning in Hell for eternity and be allright with that, I just don't understand that visag would destroy any loving parent.

 

[kdet]

I wonder why someone would choose gay.
It would be such a hard life.

I just believe we have to be honest and forthright but easier said than done.

I want to make this clear I did not mean you choose that life I am not sure why some are gay and some are not.

Evee that is like asking why do some people choose to be prostitutes? Choose to be drug addicts? People are always making bad lifestyle choices.

 

[kdet]

I would make sure they understood in no uncertain terms that this is wrong and that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. I would still love my child regardless and would be kind to their partner but if they stayed in my home, they would not be allowed to kiss or sleep in the same room. I would pray for them unceasingly and rely on God to bring them to the point where they recognize the wrong in their actions and return to Him. I would not attend any parades or protests and certainly would not be seen wearing those cute shirts that say "proud parent of a gay -----" or anything like that. I would still vote against gay marriage, gay adoption, civil unions, etc.

This is exactly what my reaction would be also.

 

[JustJack!]

Evee that is like asking why do some people choose to be prostitutes? Choose to be drug addicts? People are always making bad lifestyle choices.

I disagree with Christianity, but you don't see me going around comparing Christians to hookers, junkies, murders, rapists and pedophiles.

To be honest, I have a very strong hatred of Christianity. But I manage to be at the very least, civil, to Christians because I know that there is a difference betwen Christianity and Christians.

Either your hatred is stronger than mine, or your self-control is weaker.

 

[Buzz Dixon]

I think it's terrible when parents and children are estranged over any issue.

Christian parents should love their children, but should not tolerate sinful behavior of any sort. They should no more enable a gay son to act out his homosexual desires than enable a straight daughter to be a gossip monger.

Children owe their parents respect, and adhering to certain standards of decorum in the presence of one's parents is a good example of such respect.