What Would YOU Do If . . .?

[angellica]

They will either be heterosexual or homosexual regardless of who they do or do not see, it is not a choice in most circumstances.

Whether or not you entertain the idea of or participate in gay sex is a choice..

 

[gwenmead]

I DONT KNOW WHAT I DID!!

D'oh! Guessing the editing tools barfed on ya there...

anyway...LIFESTYLE..is the way you live your life.

Okay. With you so far...

a homosexual lifestyle would be having homosexual relations (obviously) or going to gay bars and looking at gay magazines etc. or for heterosexuals it would be the same

Partly with you here. Sort of. A bit.

I could see someone's overall way of living described as "a homosexual lifestyle" if their being gay was at the core of how they lived, and all things they did were ultimately derived from being gay. That would make some sense to me, as I understand the common usage of the term "lifestyle". It'd be a matter of total life focus.

What really miffs me is the phrase "the homosexual lifestyle" (which I do note you didn't use here, and I find that refreshing). That phrase, I don't get at all, because it sounds as if the person using it is trying to shove all GLBT people into a single box wherein what defines how they live their life is what direction their sexual compass points.

Also makes me wonder why we don't see phrases like "heterosexual lifestyle" or "asexual lifestyle"... for an interesting mental exercise: what would such lifestyles look like?






(I should really go to bed.)

 

[KCKID]

I try to shelter my children from gays and lesbians so they don't choose to follow that lifestyle.

Whoops ...I missed this one. So, I'll give a belated but flabbergasted W H A T?

Methinks the psychological damage to these children is already taking place.

Question to JustMeSee: How do you know one of your children is not 'gay'?

 

[OphidiaPhile]

You appear to be quite prudish in regard to sex, Angellica. And, believe it or not, to a point, so am I. I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with a certain amount of prudishness but to be overly so can cloud our judgment on issues such as this one tremendously.

I don't disagree with you on your view/stand to no sexual activity -whether 'gay' or 'straight' - in your home because that is your right. I probably wouldn't allow it either because, as I say, I'm rather prudish. I've had to learn - and accept - that others feel differently than I do.

I am on the opposite end of the spectrum as I am not remotely prudish and am probably much more sexually open than most people on here. I would have no problem with people having sex in my home and would not have a problem discussing any form of sex with them either, I could even see myself talking positions and techniques with pretty much anyone anytime and in fact often do.

 

[OphidiaPhile]

To me, the "gay lifestyle" is being gay and thinking that it is not sinful, regardless of whether there is sex involved.

So the heterosexual lifestyle would be having straight sex and not thinking it is sinful, got it. A lot of people do not believe in the concept of sin just because you do.

 

[OphidiaPhile]

I would suspect they already know that I believe that homosexual sex is sinful. I would also suspect that any child of mine would know I don't believe sexual orientation exists.

How can you so readily deny all of the research that says that sexual orientation does in fact exist?

 

[OphidiaPhile]

No, the homosexual wants to openly date people of the same sex.

So you would prefer that any son or daughter suppress their true feelings rather than be who they truly are and then deal with all that comes with that suppression, such as depression and possibly suicide.

 

[OphidiaPhile]

I DONT KNOW WHAT I DID!!

anyway...LIFESTYLE..is the way you live your life. a homosexual lifestyle would be having homosexual relations (obviously) or going to gay bars and looking at gay magazines etc. or for heterosexuals it would be the same (having sex, looking at porn, etc) they are both wrong. i do not think anyone should have sex outside of marriage.

i think that if someone has homosexual feelings they should control their impulses just like the teenage male who fantasizes about girls. if a homosexual person is celebate and refrains from the homosexual lifestyle then i think thats ok. i think it is the lifestyle...the ACTS...that are the sin.

also people need to remember that there is a difference between living a lifestyle of sin and commiting A sin...a single act. a sinful lifestyle is like slapping God in the face because the person does it continually. i think they should be treated differently.

I just cannot grasp how anyone can say things like this and think it is ok. I mean seriously do people really think these things, sometimes I feel like it is a reality show or an alternate universe.

I would much rather a person lives in a manner that makes them happy and feel loved and wanted than one that continually makes them feel degraded, unloved and alone, which is what yo so nonchalantly condone.

 

[corvus_corax]

I am on the opposite end of the spectrum as I am not remotely prudish and am probably much more sexually open than most people on here

Likewise
I discuss (among other "controversial" subjects) "taboo sex" with my wife and my three best friends other than my wife.

Even things that would get me banned from CF

I would have no problem with people having sex in my home

Likewise
Although I might have a problem if I was trying to sleep and they were having sex in my bedroom

and would not have a problem discussing any form of sex with them either

See above
I talk about (among other things) all forms and concepts of sex, even 'taboo' ones

I could even see myself talking positions and techniques with pretty much anyone anytime and in fact often do.

Being in the relationship I am in (in that my wife trusts in my monogamy), I could "see" myself taking many positions and using many techniques with pretty much anyone.
But my wife trusts in my monogamy, so I wouldn't actually "do" those positions and techniques with others.
I gave my word to not "cheat" on her (and likewise her to me)
Honestly, though, if she said "Sure hun, you can have sex with X", I just might, and that wouldn't be "cheating".
Although the fantasies in my mind are another story :dreamy perverted look:

 

[OphidiaPhile]

Whether or not you entertain the idea of or participate in gay sex is a choice..

So performing an act of love with someone that you feel that same love for is wrong, that is not logical reasoning. No wonder there are so many gay teens from Christian families that commit suicide.

 

[David Brider]

Being gay is a sinful lifestyle...

Actually, being gay isn't a lifestyle at all.

David.

 

[corvus_corax]

Whether or not you entertain the idea of or participate in gay sex is a choice..

Actually, this is completely correct.
Just like this is-
Whether or not you entertain the idea of or participate in heterosexual sex IS A CHOICE.

So, Im assuming you made a CHOICE to entertain the idea of and/or participate in heterosexual sex?
(Please think carefully before you throw out the idiotic "Yes I did" answer)

 

[David Brider]

To me, the "gay lifestyle" is being gay and thinking that it is not sinful, regardless of whether there is sex involved.

Okay, so...just picture this scenario. A man (or woman, doesn't really matter) is gay. (S)he's single, doesn't believe in being promiscuous, lives by him/herself. The average day in that person's life looks something like this:

Wake up
Shower
Breakfast
Go to work
Get shopping on way back from work
Eat dinner
Watch some television
Maybe socialise with friends
Go to bed

What is it about that lifestyle that you consider to be sinful?

David.

 

[corvus_corax]

Okay, so...just picture this scenario. A man (or woman, doesn't really matter) is gay. (S)he's single, doesn't believe in being promiscuous, lives by him/herself. The average day in that person's life looks something like this:

Wake up
Shower
Breakfast
Go to work
Get shopping on way back from work
Eat dinner
Watch some television
Maybe socialise with friends
Go to bed

What is it about that lifestyle that you consider to be sinful?

David.

She already said it
It's them "being gay" and not thinking it's sinful.
Her POV is that simple and hypocritical.

 

[David Brider]

I don't like seeing a lot of negative posts, so I wanted a positive one in there too. *grin*

With you on that.

Not that I have children (who knows what the future holds?), but if any child of mine came out as gay, it wouldn't really change things one jot. I'd hope that they'd feel comfortable with introducing me to any boyfriend/girlfriend that they started going out with ('cos I'd want to make sure my child's partner was a decent person) and I'd tell them flat out that if anyone gives them any trouble for being gay, they're to come to me straight away and I'll give 'em what-for...

But no, I wouldn't - couldn't - think any less of my child just for being gay.

David.

 

[KCKID]

Okay, so...just picture this scenario. A man (or woman, doesn't really matter) is gay. (S)he's single, doesn't believe in being promiscuous, lives by him/herself. The average day in that person's life looks something like this:

Wake up
Shower
Breakfast
Go to work
Get shopping on way back from work
Eat dinner
Watch some television
Maybe socialise with friends
Go to bed

What is it about that lifestyle that you consider to be sinful?

Everything. I'll add what you conveniently omitted.

Wake up and think about 'gay' sex
Shower and think about 'gay' sex
Breakfast and think about 'gay' sex
Go to work and think about 'gay' sex
Get shopping on way back from work and think about 'gay' sex
Eat dinner and think about 'gay' sex
Watch some television and think about 'gay' sex
Maybe socialise with friends and think about 'gay' sex
Go to bed and think about 'gay' sex

When told like it is this IS truly a 'gay' and sinful lifestyle and disgusting to boot!

You don't get off'a the hook that easily, Mr. Brider.

 

[WhatThe]

What would I do? Say "That's nice sweetie. As long as you'e happy."

 

[cantata]

I'd ask them if they want help (whatever that might be) to overcome this and if so, great. If not, they do not live under my roof. Basically, the same thing I'd do if they told me they were an alcoholic or a drug addict. Sorry if that is rude to you, but it's the truth.

Would you really kick out, say, a 13- or 14-year-old child?

 

[OphidiaPhile]

Would you really kick out, say, a 13- or 14-year-old child?

I am really apprehensive over the possible answers to this question.

 

[SiderealExalt]

I try to shelter my children from gays and lesbians so they don't choose to follow that lifestyle.

*nods in sage agreement* When my daughter was born with blonde hair, I was devasted. I knew I needed to protect her from the blonde lifestyle before she was lost. We tried dyes and other methods but so far it has been to no avail.

Whether or not you entertain the idea of or participate in gay sex is a choice..

Wether or not I entertain the idea of or participate in heterosexual sex in my life each and and every time I have is a choice. It is not a choice that defines who I am however. Nor did those choices ultimately define the moral make up of myself in and of itself. This is no more true today as it has been in any point of my life. This is as true for homosexuals as it is for us heterosexuals. The inability to recognize that is the moral failure of Christianity.